We're both currently s-b-r, but before we were, I was a rower and he was a runner. And we both read a lot, but very different kinds of books.

I wouldn't really say we "share" hobbies. She's not an athlete, and doesn't have a competetive mindset. I would more describe our situation as mutual support for each others interests.

She's an artist. So I help her with her shows, and what-not: travel, setup/teardown, manning the booth, etc. In turn she comes to my races: both athletic and automotive, etc.

Our mutual hobby (if you want to call it that) would be remodeling the house/gardening/etc. Well...and we both enjoy going to hockey games (local ECHL teams).

She likes B/R, so we do that together, but she doesn't like it as much as I do so I don't push it. There are a lot of outdoor stuff that support a healthy lifestyle, might be a good place to start. For example, we frequently skip weekend training when we do a long overnight backpacking trip, that sort of thing.There are tons of aerobically strenuous outdoor stuff. My only tip is I would avoid forcing your hobby on her/him, if they want to do it that's fantastic, but if its a forced it can breed a feeling of obligation, then annoyance, then resentment, and that leads to the dark side. YMMV

So many rowers here.

I taught my wife (girlfriend at the time) to row, when she was told no more running, after she fract. the head of her femur. This was while doing a track workout, when she was just getting into tri.
We now both S-B-R (f*ck "no more running"), bike race, and race boats.

We, too, read *very* different kinds of books (though the wife finally read The Boys in the Boat, 4 yrs after I did).

But, she likes wheat beers, and I like IPAs: irreconcilable differences in taste. ;-)

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 Married triathletes is that a oxymoron? I thought when becoming a triathlete and racing 1/2-> full distance it entails you getting a divorce if married? or sleeping around when ever possible,No? (obviously sarcasm) but I would wonder how many people stay together after one partner gets the triathlon fever.

I had the same problem. GF (soon to be to wife) does not s-b-r and it is my life. She is a gymnast but does not compete. We always seem to be trying to find something out of the house we both enjoy. Lately we have been lap swimming. She seems to enjoy it but only for ~30 min at a time and even then only in the afternoon. Been using that time for recovery sessions. Not sure what to do about it or even if there is something that can be done.

She runs, but not in races (has no interest in running outside in fact), enjoys dog training and anything dog related. She actually doesn't know how to ride a bike so SBR is not in her future.

My wife is kinda of the gym class athlete. Peleton, pilates, videos etc. she does not share my passion for training for long course races. What she does support however, is my mental well being. She knows that I need this stimulus to be a reasonable human being, so she tolerates the time I spend selfishly training.

It’s actually his fault I got into rowing. He was a rower before we met and bought a concept 2 some time after we started living together. Taught me how to use that and then I found a nearby club that had newb classes...

Your beer comment served as a prompt. We both like nice meals and cooking, so food and drink is one of our shared hobbies.

Huns are our weekend thing. She hikes, I run on the same trails at the same time. Since she's hiking alone, most of the time I need to stay fairly close on the trail. She enjoys dance classes at the gym and used to ski a lot before we were married.

Sex and watching Netflix

Breathing the same air

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I’m the SBR TRIathlete and my husband calls himself a MONathlete which is pretty clever if you ask me. He’s training for RAAM in a team of 4 this year. I’ve got Galveston 70.3 in April and we have very different mindsets in a lot of ways but the exercise or lose our mind mindset- that one we share.

We both like cooking, brewing beer, and are wine snobs. We both really enjoy music (huge fans of Queen and The Who), and American Football. The only sport we play together is golf.

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30 years and almost have the last of 3 kids out of the house - sadly only one off the payroll! My wife runs as she says "so she can eat" but doesnt like it at all. She is into music and her career, and does her thing and we travel together and she does like hiking Kids of course been the center of things (see how empty nest goes in Aug) but I would argue with kids, having different hobbies helped much more than hindered as we weren't both fighting for training time and was easier to weave her interests and mine over our schedules. One thing we have done different than seems most is she very rarely (maybe 10 times at most out of 300 plus events) has she or kids attended. Its a lot of work, especially when kids were young, and def Oly and longer events created too much down time with the kids, and was my opportunity to hang out with what she calls the "tri-people". Early days that also helped with costs as well since I could go with other people racing. When she has gone with me to events, its either been great locations or events where you may want help crewing, like Swissman or longer ultra runs. Finally, schedule planning, communication and even educating her on your training plan helps a ton. Then she started to learn what and when sessions were more flexible, and help reschedule etc if things changed during the week.

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My wife has been a runner through our whole 35 year marriage. She has no interest in racing and cannot understand why you would enter a race if you have no chance of winning, but is supportive of me racing. We run 'together' quite often, but usually we drive to the trail, take off in different directions, and meet back at a certain time. She was a regionally legendary show jumper (horses) as a teen and would be a horse person but married too poor to pursue that.

The last ~5 years she's also been lifting and we often go to the gym together.

To be fair, my triathlon hobby wasn't "in the marriage contract" (inside joke between me and my husband) - I started doing this stuff about 10 years in.

In the beginning, he went and wrenched on cars and raced autocross on the weekends. I would do tri things. Then I'd meet the guys at the pub for burgers and beers after we were all done with our things for the day. Then we moved and he lost his 2,000 sq ft garage and car buddies. He still does some car things, but not every weekend anymore.

A few years back he started running with me. I picked up mountain biking in 2015 and played the "I'm new and worried that I'll get hurt" card to get him to ride with me. Now we ride together often. (he rarely runs, won't ride on skinny tires, and refuses to swim).

We also like drinking beer and camping.

It gets a bit one-sided when I get deep into training, especially for an Ironman. My last build, we were really lucky where we were friends with a near mirror image couple. She and I would go ride bikes for 100+ miles and the guys would go to cars and coffee or work on some car stuff.

Wife likes to ride and run, but does not like to compete. That said, her 1 duathon, she won her age group.

She likes to cook, I like to eat, she likes yoga, We both like to drink. She likes working in the yard, I don't, but I help.

Add in volunteer work, Kids stuff, work.

That sums it up.

Did I say, we like to drink?

Do you do those things together or separately??

Well, you said "kids", so....

When we met 37 years ago I was a runner and she was a person that had dabbled in tennis and track in HS but was never really into it.

She took up running 2 days after we were married. A few years later she was a member of the local running club's Women's Open Team.

When I got hurt and had to do something else I started riding a bike. Less than a month later she had a bike. With in a year she was riding with the B group of the local bike club.

When I decided to do triathlons about 15 years ago she wanted to do that as well but she didn't know how to swim. She took private swim lessons at 42.

Today we both have several marathons under out belts and have qualified for Boston 10 years in a row. We are also 5 time IM finishers. The kids are gone and one of their rooms is now dedicated to the bike trainer. We have memberships to the local college health club. I teach kids to swim and she swims with the Masters.

In summary, she chose to be interested in whatever I was interested in, and she put her mind to doing it well. She is a woman that you don't want to challenge if winning is important to you.

She's a keeper, no question.

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Ideal hobbies include healthy cooking, bulk laundry, alone time, giving massages, and seeing you happy? /pink

But seriously I found that the key is invisible training, like super early swims (coming back when family is waking up), biking to work instead of driving, starting sunday rides as early as possible, and running home after work on mondays instead of long runs on sunday... Running at lunch at work, or at night after son is in bed, So basically sleeping less (easier when fit) and training instead of commuting or sit down lunches at work frees up the time so you dont have to sacrifice perdonal time

So I got my husband into triathlons (off road triathlons only). I started doing road triathlons in 1998 and in 2012 when I met my current husband, he was a surfer and i was still doing a lot of road biking and the occasional triathlon. Our relationship was a bit on the rocks and I was going to break up with him, but then he bought us both Mountain Bikes late in 2013 as something that we could do together. Neither of us had any mountain bike experience, and he didn't like the idea of road biking. The mountain bike was really cool, and i liked that idea of learning to ride together, so I stayed with him :-)
As soon as he gave it to me, i knew i wanted to try an Xterra. I had wanted to for years, but i didn't have a mountain bike and was scared to learn. So we learned together and in 2014 I did my first Xterra, and he did his first mountain bike races (they were short beginner races) and when I was racing Xterras, he would do the trail run or the accompanying duathlon. Then in late 2014, I taught him to swim a little and he did his first Xterra in Utah - the sprint, and loved it! He has been an avid off road triathlete ever since. I do coach him a little bit, and we do a lot of our training together, but i am much faster than him since i have a strong background. He also mostly likes to just mountain bike, so that is what we mostly do together, which is really nice.
I know it is unusual for the wife to get the husband into a sport, but maybe the take away is that if swimming, biking and running is too overwhelming to take in, try getting your wife into just one of them (or strength training). I also learned that he likes to 'coach' me too. He has had a lot of weight lifting coaching and likes to teach me that part. So maybe also show interest in something your wife is interested in, and let her 'teach you' that aspect.

My husband just started a you tube channel about our off-road triathlon life called LifeWithaFastWife, so you can check that out too https://www.youtube.com/...9cQkPanHDXZ3Nvo85P4w

There's a whole rowing thread that you might find helpful: https://forum.slowtwitch.com/..._Rowing%3F_P6576646/

Her hobby: Ultra marathons. It gives us a lot to talk about in terms of training plans, personal goals, races, stuff like that. Schedule wise it's great- we can coincide her long runs with my big bricks; neither of us feel like we're leaving the other behind when we go off to exercise for 4+ hours at a time on occasion. In other scheduling matters, there is always a bit of horse trading when it comes to the race season- we've both compromised when we want to do an ultra or tri that falls on the same weekend, or near enough to make travel impractical. But that can be fun as well, in the off season we each pick several A races and see how it shakes out over dinner one night.

Our mutual hobby: An ultra runner and triathlete? In the same house? Man do we EAT. Cooking in, going out, we're excited for both on pretty much a daily basis. We geek out on cooking gear just as much as we do on gear for our sports. So many cookbooks just lying around.

My husband loves playing video and computer games. I have a little internal negativity towards it because he ends up sitting glued to a screen for hours but it's something he really enjoys, so I let it be. It also means he's easily engaged in something if I am away doing s-b-r stuff. Sometimes I wish he would join me on a workout or be interested in coming to my races but he's very supportive of my time spent s-b-r with friends and perhaps our relationship wouldn't be as harmonious if we were doing those things together. He will occasionally mountain bike with me but only if I organize it. Our mutual "hobby"is hiking/backpacking which we equally enjoy although perhaps for slightly different reasons.

Whoops...
Rowing is 85% lower body (actually, legs/back) sport. The arms/upper body serve only to connect the handle to the oars or flywheel.
Studies have indicated that rowing (when done correctly) burns the most calories of any endurance sport, maybe except for XC skiing.

This is NOT why I taught my wife to row; did I mention we also like beer and wine?

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This.,..........

Rowers are widely regarded as the fittest summer athletes. This is why a collegiate rower can switch to cycling and already be at an elite level. It is an excellent way to burn calories as long as you keep proper form ie. Do not arch that back!

To OP question, my fiancé is a CPA and although reasonably fit, she isn't competitive at all. That said we love to hike(I usually carry all the water/food/supplies to even it up) we run together, mountain bike and regularly go to the gym. I am at a much higher level than her (Her half marathon is 2:30+ while mine is around 1:20) but I always schedule recovery runs on days that she runs.

me: run, bike, computer games
her: hike, violin, photography

mutual: talk, hike, watch tv shows

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So true,

We liked to drink before them and the last one is off to college in 19 months so more time to drink :)

My wife likes to mountain bike, run, XC ski, and hike. We can ride our mountain bikes and Nordic ski together for hours at a time, she has way better genetics than I do. She can usually jump into any race without a tun of specific training and come in top 10 pct for her AG, which makes me sick. She was a top junior national Nordic skier back in the day and knows how to suffer.

She rides as well; we do an annual charity ride for MS. We also take Friday night swim-dates together

On other gym days, we'll wander about the weight room together, but our routines don't overlap at all

Creatively: she writes, and I draw, but we've done no organized/serious collabs as yet

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"Your best work is the work you're excited about" - Rick Rubin

I only ride now since a knee surgery back in 2016 but the wife has zero interest in these activities. She’s into hot yoga and a hot lifting class.

She did do a spin class for the first time and complained for 3 days how her butt hurt from the seat and wondered how I ride the amount I do. Lol

Is that the new euphemism for strip clubs now...?

Our common interests belong in the lavender room...


Louis :-)

When we first started dating, I was doing triathlons, my now-wife played roller derby.

10 years in, my wife does yoga and runs a bit. I took up Brazilian jiu jitsu a few years ago, still run and swim some, haven't been on a bike in several years.

We don't work out together. We hike, go camping and travel when we can; we try to keep our 3 year old alive and moderately well-adjusted without driving ourselves crazy; we snark good-naturedly about our respective families.

Going to cafes and fancy restaurants. I guess we have also both been internet trolls, although my trolling is pretty much well and truly behind me.

cafeparadise408 on insta. Viet coffee shops are the best

Latino culture. Food, dance, travel associated with that. We’re not Latino but she graduated with a degree in Spanish and works at a place that has a lot of culture.

We do a museum and food dressup for Los Muertos each year. We go see dances and stuff.

we are both s-b-r but have our own thing too. I like weight training aside and yoga and he likes to go spend our money on real estate

She's a triathlete, I'm a duathlete. She's super competitive in her AG, I'm happy to finish the race at this point (gained a shitload of weight with my crazy travel schedule for the last year). We do share other hobbies, downhill skiing, XC skiing, backcountry skiing. Wine. And we're both foodies. And cats, lots of cats. :-)

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When we met in the 90's we were both smoking 2 packs a day, heavy drinkers and played together in punkrock/metal bands. A lot of things change in 20 years time but it's important to have your own thing aswell as something in common.

I enjoy triathlon, i train 6-7 days a week. Beside road biking i enjoy XC mountainbiking in the woods.
I also enjoy photography, movies and books.

She enjoys pole fitness, yoga/stretching, and horseback riding.
She also likes cycling, but only in summer. Running is not a good sport for her due to back issues, she's thinking about starting to swim to increase core strength which might improve her back problems.
She enjoys painting, puzzles and movies.

Together we enjoy traveling, hiking, scuba diving and an occasional day at a spa/wellness/sauna. We are lucky to live somewhere where there are areas where hiking is posible pretty much year round. We have a young daughter so we are also often found in playgrounds, pools, petting zoos, visiting grandma&grandpa, and building legos.

It's not easy to find the right balance for all these activities aswell as a buisy job and quality time with wife and daughter, but it's possible. I'm also very lucky that i have a huge amount of support of my wife and daughter. They haven't missed one race yet.

My wife is the 'un-athlete' of the family. Her hobbies are cooking, reading, and watching endless reruns of Downton Abbey. She is the perfect complement to my crazy lifestyle.

Our mutual hobbies are movies, fine dining, shopping and travel.

We are retired, I train and she quilts all day. I often train 20+ hours a week, and she still quilts more than I train. She has 14 sewing machines... and I only have 2 bikes... hmmm, that sounds rather lopsided. She doesn't have any interest in athletics, but will attend water aerobics classes while I'm swimming laps. Together we are big into Greyhound rescue, have two of our own, and usually a foster.

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I'm sure you've been asked this before, but how much did the 20+ hrs per week improve you as compared to the lower volume (presumably) that you were doing before you were retired? Of course, you have to age-adjust, but give a crack at it so we youngsters know what we're in for down the road!

I have been a triathlete for about 30 years (I'm 57). My wife of 28 years is mostly a mtn bike rider, and will take our dog (a lab) on the trails while I'm running on the trails - usually on the weekend. She does some road bike rides with me when the weather is good, and is great at drafting, so we can usually go close to my training pace. She also hikes a lot with our dog.
My above-average amount of exercising works with our relationship because my wife is very supportive and "gets" me. It helps that we have friends who do (or have done) more crazy stuff than I do -- e.g., 200+ mile rides, 200 mile runs, etc. We try to incorporate together time during exercising - for example, in addition to our weekend run/ride together, she may use a kayak next to me while I'm open water swimming.

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I'm just one 50-mile race away from my goal weight.

What's the trick to getting your wife interested in pole fitness?

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Whenever I'm about to do something, I think, "Would an idiot do that?" And if they would, I do not do that thing.

It didn't improve me at all (speed wise), as I'm just entering the 60-65 age group, I've been in decline for years (I set all my all time PR's in my mid 30's). However, it's has certainly slowed the decline, and does wonders for maintaining my physique. It keeps me from gaining weight, and I still dominate my local age group. I've also ran 11 BQ marathons since I retired, and before that, I only BQ'ed twice. The less intense, higher volume, also keeps me from injury and burn out... something that I always fought before. I feel great all the time, never dread training, and can't wait to get up and hit it every day. It has also made longer races (marathons and FIM) pretty easy... closer to a long hard training day, instead of a life altering near death experience. I ran IMAZ in 12:32 last November... nothing compared to the fast guys here, but not too bad for an old guy.

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We both like to be outdoors but for different reasons. I'm all about the metrics and the technique, she likes to stop and smell the roses. Right now we are on our annual 2 month ski session in Whitefish MT. Again, she likes to cruise and gawk while I'm taking lessons, counting my vert and obsessing about my form. We get along pretty well after 34 years, I really do love her.

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I know it’s not exactly what you asked but we do

SBR
Wine
Food
Travel

I don't care about her hobbies. All I care about is that she doesn't interfere with my training.

No trick. Was her idea. Turns out it does wonders for her strength and figure.

My wife and I's same hobby is raising the kids, after that nothing lol. I was a bodybuilder for years, surfing, golfing, now triathlons. she comes and supports but I cant get her to do anything, so its lots of before sun up trainings so i dont neglect everyone too much.

My wife does not sbr. Big IM build blocks get the house a little stressed out. She keeps busy with Barre and yoga. We love tandem bicycling! She never rides a single bike. We rode over 1200 miles last year on our tandem including her first century. Tandeming is great.

I play a lot of golf. My wife enjoys skinny skiing and going to bullfights on acid.

And if your marriage can survive tandem bicycling...

I recommend trying tandem kayaking. It’s a next- level marriage trial.

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We have a shared interest in each other. Over 30 years the sports and activities have changed, and that doesn't matter if there is love and respect.

Ummm, what about swimming??? I mean, it works the upper body and the core plus you could in theory swim as many hrs as you ever rode your bike, if you really set your mind to it. (I know that you swim from other threads. :))

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The rower is an awesome machine. Works everything.
We both s-b-r and mountain bike. I like being outdoors more then he does. He's more in to competing and not being outside and training. I guess in the end it does not matter if you both do it as long as you both understand it. For most couples who are competitive its not easy training together at least from what I see. The guys are usually stronger and do not like to hold back for their s/o. Tri training is a solo sport for the most part any way if done correctly.

If you live in the snowy part of the country, I'd suggest nordic skiing. It's most like running but much easier on the hips and knees. It certainly is more technique involved vs skate skiing, and requires practice learning the various types of kick waxes to use and learning how to navigate HOW you apply the "length" and thicknes of said kick waxes--depending on conditions and course. It's quite complicated and is a learned skill. But once you have it, you can step outside and pretty much have a very close *feel* of what the wax will be. Often picking up a handful of snow with your hands / gloves, to see how it clumps together, to get a better idea of the crystals and wax needed to work best that day.

Kind of the same as above. My wife used to be a triathlete (I pulled her into it before we had kids), but now she's just trying to get back into running after a few years off. We can rarely do things together since we don't have many child care options, but we have come to really love short backpacking trips together. We are actually on a streak where we've gone camping or backpacking at least once every month for the past 6 months (it helps that our kids love it too). It will be tough to keep that going through February, but we're going to try!

This hobby also gives us something to look forward to in the future. We have talked about attempting some serious thru-hiking adventures when I retire. It's a long way off, but it's nice for us to have a shared dream.

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The wife and I own—and race—our own double scull. We might squabble in training sessions, but on race day... B O O M !

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That is so awesome!

My husband almost didn't make it home from Alaska alive after our experience this summer....

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My wife said she'd forgotten but wanted to get a road bike... I took her and her new bike to a local high school parking lot and I ran around holding the back of her seat for an hour or so. Good times, she got better and we've ridden on the road together a few times but she's not as into it as she thought. Her bike is mounted to a trainer in the basement... rides it like twice a year... sometimes outside. Worst gift I ever bought her... clipless SPD mountain bike pedals.

She's currently running and enjoying that somewhat... not really competitive and not trying to be. Made a few good running friends she runs with and they hold each other accountable on some home HIT workouts. She's probably going to run a 10K and a half in the next couple of months. I run with her maybe once a week and talk her ear off.

Otherwise she's artsy and creative, likes doing creative stuff.

Yeah, we have had a few 'training' arguments ... the 'you didn't wait for me' type stuff.

I think I run with my wife, at the most, once a year. She spins and has a group of friends that all run together. I do my own thing

My wife is a Cross-fit girl who likes to run on the treadmill a few times a week.

It doesn't really get int he way of each other because Cross-fit is like 45 minutes 4-5 times a week. She thinks endurance sports are for the mentally ill

Fun to read these responses. Some are hilarious.

Me: cycling, running, baseball.

Her: gardening, cooking, cats

Together: backpacking, canoeing, occasionally cycling, xc skiing. She likes skiing a lot but is not very good and is content with being slow(er than me). She rides her bike to work; likes going slow and enjoying the outdoors.

So I think we know that excess polarity in a hobby can lead to bad relationship as far as divorce:

https://digitalcitizen.ca/...part-2-the-research/

I think my failure starting this thread, the question better than mutual hobby - what brings you two together? People can change over time too, leaving one lifestyle for another. Kudos to those here with the multiple decades of marriage.

I think common social circles may be a big factor

I don't think you need to have the same hobbies, but you have to work on your relationship every day. My wife has her own hobbies. Although, I will play tennis with her from time to time (she plays tennis, does yoga and she has a peloton bike). Having the same physical pursuits and hobbies can help but that will not make a relationship succeed. IMO, no matter how good of a relationship you have with your spouse, it will not take care of itself if you don't put any effort into it. My wife and I meet for lunch (once a week or every other week) or have one date night a week (this gets pushed based on my schedule, so it's not every week, but we do make time for each other). I call or text my wife once a day and vice versa during the day. We are raising 4 kids, so we definitely have our issues on what we agree and don't agree upon. Physical intimacy is also important. Have sex frequently. This will bring you closer to your spouse. Everyone jumps on the dry January of no alcohol. i recommend a bang your spouse month. Try and have sex everyday for 30 days (maybe not possible with work schedules, etc). It doesn't have to be great sex, just sex. That alone will bring a couple closer. Good luck.

my husband and I have recently picked this up together, too. although, snow has been on and off. we really like skiing up in mt. hoevenberg in placid... we've tried classic, skate, but nordic is next on our list.

Wife hits the gym during the week, reads alot, nap, does crafts.

Together time is mostly with the 5 kids.

I train early am so it works for our family.

My wife is not at all into SBR. or any of the three independently. she's not into fitness stuff at all, but does force herself to the gym. she's been looking for some more hobbies, used to be very into photography, but not as much. She does like getting involved in the community, volunteering at the schools our kids go to, specifically art and performance things. she also is on the BoE at the religious school. while I selfishly enjoy training for a few races per year, she's making the community a better place. together, we both like getting to the movies whenever we can and finding TV shows to binge watch.

At first, my wife did not bike at all. She enjoyed classes at the gym. I did not take up cycling until I was in my 30's. Once I did, it literally changed my life as I was able to eventually lose close to 80 pounds. Once my wife saw how much weight I'd lost, as well as the fact that I could still enjoy food, she decided to take up cycling too. Now, I think she's as addicted to it as me, though she doesn't race.

She has friends she will ride with while I am at work but I tend to ride with her on the weekends. She is not very fast, and really has a lot of trouble on hills (knees), so I stay with her since the other cyclist leave her. Of course this means I don't get to do the quality training I'd like but it is so worth it to have my wife enjoying our hobbies together. She thinks I don't like riding with her, because she is so much slower than me, but those are my absolute favorite rides (and I've told her this over and over).

Sorry, this does not really answer your question but your post had me thinking about how lucky I am that my wife do enjoy this time to play together.

in canoeing, tandem canoe is known as the Divorce Boat..
my wife jumped ship after just two years, paddles her own canoe for the last several decades ;-)
we might race tandem in Montana this year but it's going to take some practice..

Wife likes Orange Theory, yoga, walking, gardening, volunteering at church etc.

mutual hobbies are canoe, hike, backpack, x-c ski, travel when we can afford it.

Lol. DW and I managed to have sex once every other day for a little over a month and thought that was a pretty big accomplishment. Every day would be really tough.

Divorced Wife?

wife not into sbr. she does lots of yoga, tennis, core & hits classes. mutual hobbies: raising kids, banging, traveling, laughing at things, good time when we are together (date nights), etc. We don't have one specific athletic thing we always do together. I will play tennis w her from time to time, but that is more her thing.


(edit: just realized i responded to a 3.5 year old thread. bah)

actually I do appreciate the revamp, as now my wife fell off the rocker and doesnt do s-b-r anymore.

Niche.