wintershade wrote:
During some pillow talk before bed last night, my wife asked me: "Do you think there will ever be a time when our life doesn't revolve around your crazy workout schedule?"
I was kind of caught off-guard. I didn't really know how to answer. My wife is super accommodating to my training, considering I'm not a pro. She supports my aspirations to do Ultraman and RAAM. I think part of why she loves me and married me was because I strive for excellence. But if I'm honest with myself, it is a bit selfish to peruse these goals, especially now that we have a son. I want to continue to progress as an athlete. But I don't want my entire family's life to revolve around my personal athletic goals.
For those of who have managed to stick with triathlon and compete at a high level for a long time despite family and work obligations (I've long since abandoned social obligations), how do you manage? I considered maybe taking a year or two as a single sport athlete (cycling, which is my limiter) with perhaps just minimal running when traveling without a bike, but I don't want to abandon my quest for a 3hr marathon (especially since I'm getting close) nor stop swimming (my strength).
It's just tough.....
You had the epiphany, don't view this as a polarized decision. If you have this much capacity to train and perform you could probably become the guy that wins every single sprint and Olympic triathlon he enters.
My Dad was not an athlete. But he certainly worked a lot, ran a business, and spent endless hours on his adventurous hobbies. He left everything else to our Mom. During his dying years, he regretted it. The quality of time was great, but he wished for more QUANTITY of time with all of us. That was a different era, Father knows best, Father is educated, the most important thing is my husbands job, lets ask your father, the husbands were idolized in many cases and allowed to disappear for the weekend, and the wife wasn't even allowed to have a checkbook. It's 2019 most families run much more balanced now.
Ultraman and RAAM, its extremely extreme.
You have an extremely supporting wife who also works. Don't screw it up. My wife was a STAY AT HOME MOM, I did all the dishwashing and overnight feedings, grocery store runs, and changes and vacuuming and everything to take the load off of her. If I so much as went for a 20minute swim or jog without her explicit permission she would explode for hours like I had an extramarital affair. Consider yourself blessed.
I understand the emotional pain you feel when she said that, Once my first daughter was born I stopped racing every month, I dropped all the dreamy dreamy championship athlete dreams. I still trained and stayed fast and raced. Just remember when your kids are 12, they will be "too cool to hang out with you" you have to capitalize on these formative years.
What you experienced is the truth hurts. It's not just an expression on a meme. The truth really hurts. You can improve as an athlete, you may have to drop the exotic distances for a while.
After both my daughters were born I still slowly got faster and hit some PRs in my late 30s, don't worry about it too much.
Now. I'm getting my daughters ready for their first kids triathlon in 2 weeks :)