So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out...

Oct 28, 08 17:53

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and she tells me, "you are being so unfair and unreasonable."

We share a dorm room. There is not much space in it. Last week, he didn't have a car (he had a motorcycle), so her reason was "well it's too cold to send him home late." (My responses of "then send him home EARLIER or WEAR A WINTER JACKED did no good). He got his car back. Last night, she spent the night at his place. It was fantastic: I was up at 3:30 am, could turn the light on!!! and get some homework done (I'm the anti-college student... I work early AM, not late at night).

Tonight they came back and I nicely pulled her aside and asked, "is Ryan planning on spending the night?"

"Yeah. I have six am practice."

"Could he not, please? I am tired of having him here all the time. I don't sleep well while you two whisper and make loud kissing noises, and that's not fair to me. This is my space too."

She gave me this whole thing about how she's having "such a hard time right now" and "he's the only person I have."

Uh-huh. And getting to cuddle with someone all night is going to solve alllllll of those problems. (I bit my tongue but I SO wanted to say that).

She was all mad at me... I told her quite simply, "the rule on overnight guests is no more than 2 nights in a row" (I pulled that off the top of my head, I'm going to have to find the contract we signed, but she didn't question it). I told her I don't care what she does when I am not here (I'm on the island on the weekends and usually at least 1 weeknight).

But I, apparently, am being unreasonable and unfair for not letting him stay over. I think she hates me now: which is a good thing, because she's an extrovert and very prone to drama, which means she needs SOMEONE to cling to and talk to... which has been Ryan. If not him, I have to deal with her. If she is not speaking to me, I get a quiet room, quiet quiet quiet.

When she got mad, at first I got all upset. But I think this setting boundaries thing feels good...

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 28, 08 18:06

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Way to go, TC!! Good for you!

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 28, 08 18:51

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Yay!!!!!!!!! Good for you!!!!!!!

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 28, 08 18:55

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Good for you. Sometimes you have to be the 'bitchy' one to make your life enjoyable...or even tolerable. She'll get over it.

It seems you are gone a fair amount of time and it only makes sense that they would want to take advantage of that time to spend in your room. At least in college I always 'coordinated' with the roommate for who was staying at the boyfriends. Not that we were allowed to have anyone stay overnight at my school.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 28, 08 19:18

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and I think you handled it alot better than i did with my roomate, tearing off teh comforter telling them "youve got to be fucking kidding me- get out"
way to class it up chick, well done

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 28, 08 19:26

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More power to you. Since I'm 46, I was reading it and identifying as if someone were treating my daughter that way. She is self serving and disrespectful of you. The excuses she was making will only get more plentiful. You had to set your boundaries. Don't relent.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 28, 08 19:29

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What everyone else said, pretty much!!

GOOD FOR YOU. It's sometimes hard to stick up for yourself and you did it wonderfully.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 28, 08 19:30

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You rock! Way not to punch her in the face cuz I might have. In the middle of the night. And kicked the boyfriend in the balls while he slept. Then... no, I will not give it all away :D

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 28, 08 21:39

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I didn't realize it was a dorm room, duh. It is unacceptable that he would sleep over at all! No privacy? It is way too much of a violation of your privacy.

I'm impressed you said she could have him over at all.

Good for you for not putting up with it and saying something. Really, it is hard to confront someone when you live in such a small space and can't get away from them if they are mad. Good on ya!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [jenhs] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 0:03

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I didn't realize it was a dorm room, duh. It is unacceptable that he would sleep over at all! No privacy? It is way too much of a violation of your privacy.

I'm impressed you said she could have him over at all.

Good for you for not putting up with it and saying something. Really, it is hard to confront someone when you live in such a small space and can't get away from them if they are mad. Good on ya!

Yeah, I, too, thought it was an apartment. Not a single dorm room. Any overnights would be a no go. Nada. None. She's the one being unreasonable and unfair. Way to go standing up for yourself. Strange boys in your bedroom, invited by the roommate or not, should be verboten. And I'm note even a womens.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [jenhs] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 0:48

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I'm impressed you said she could have him over at all.

Initially, I didn't... she just assumed it was okay for him to sleep over. As in, I woke up one morning and there were TWO people in her bed.

Once and awhile I truly don't mind. It's the every night thing... particularly on nights when I have to study and stuff (this is kind of a hellish week for me: handed in an 8 page physics paper yesterday, a 12 page kinesiology paper, took a quiz and a test... and I have a test tomorrow).

I was dating someone last year and he spent the night - on occasion. I ALWAYS asked her first. So I'm willing to treat her the same, ask me first and it will most likely be okay.

I'm pretty sure that by the end of today she'll have forgotten about it, as I am headed away for the night and she can do as she likes.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [diva] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 0:50

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Since I'm 46, I was reading it and identifying as if someone were treating my daughter that way.

LOL. I was upset after because she was mad at me and called my mom. Who told me, "you have no reason to be upset. It's okay to set boundaries. Go to bed."

Thank you guys for the support.

tc

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 1:21

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I'm totally proud of myself. Yesterday was my long day... I got up, finished one paper (ha! a thesis section, that I had to get to my professor yesterday morning so we can go over it today), ran, did housework, went to physics, finished physics homework, handed that in, brought the paper to my advisor, went to another class, swam, had a 2 hour physics lab, nearly fainted from hypoglycemia walking to FINALLY get lunch after lab, studied for a quiz (that I missed last week) and an exam (same class), took the quiz and the exam, got a B and an A in that order, was done class at 8 pm. Came back to my room and told Adi "No. More. Ryan."

I had a totally overwhelming and crazy day yesterday. I survived and thrived in it :-) any day you can be that busy and get 3 hours of training in is good... I am proud of me.

And I had a very nice quite night last night. Sleep is wonderful!

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 6:48

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Wait a minute......we're talking a one single little dorm room?! Not a suite, right? If this is the case you've been way too generous. What the hell is your roommate thinking? I wouldn't have let him stay at all.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 6:59

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...nearly fainted from hypoglycemia walking to FINALLY get lunch after lab

Sounds like a great day, except for this small, little detail. You need to find something like a Clif Bar that you can always have stuffed in your bag. Then, if you don't have time to eat you can at least have something small to tide you over until you can eat properly. Find a bar that you like and buy a whole box of them. Make sure you always have at least one with you at all times.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 7:22

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You rock! Way not to punch her in the face cuz I might have. In the middle of the night. And kicked the boyfriend in the balls while he slept. Then... no, I will not give it all away :D

Cuds, I'm now officially terrified of you.....

Regarding the main thread, I remember one time in college - I was then living in a one room dorm with a bunk bed. I was in bed on the bottom. My roommate was in the top bunk, and his girlfriend was standing next to the bed while they whispered and whatever to each other. Honestly, she was standing inches away from me - not only where they doing all the annoying things tc is describing, but she was invading my personal space while doing so.

I eventually stormed out of the room and watched TV in the lounge, and I think they got the hint

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 7:24

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You should be proud of you :-) I LOVE climbing into bed on days like that ...I feel like I've kicked the day's butt and usually sleep like a rock.

So it was a dorm room ...I was seriously hoping it was a suite, but I had my suspicions :-\ You were WAY too nice. If you are gone that much, she should be free to do what she wants on those nights. However, I'm guessing the guy has an apartment if he lives that far out, so I would strongly encourage her to stay there the rest of the time ...what she is doing is just not cool in such a confined space. I would go nuts if I had to listen to people whispering/making out/*etc* all night from about 5-10 feet away.

As for the hypoglycemia, you should pack a little something for post-swim!!! Or, at least that is what everyone tells me ...I am so bad about it. I want to stay on my eating 'schedule' no matter what ...but I encourage you to not be like me, especially if you are doing crazy marathon swims (my longest ever is 3600 lc meters).

I hope you have another awesomely productive day!!!

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [DawnT] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 7:27

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Dawn, I had a carnation instant breakfast + milk drink in physics lab. Good idea about always having an emergency snack though.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [squid] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 7:28

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The way our building is set up, it's 2 dorm rooms (2 people each) each joined by a common room... so kind of a suite... but the bedroom part of it is still small - and we share it - if we had our OWN rooms I wouldn't care.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [TriStrut] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 7:50

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Cuds, I'm now officially terrified of you.....

Perfect. But who would of thought that a stalker would become terrified of the person they are stalking? :P

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [squid] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Oct 29, 08 9:09

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What the hell is your roommate thinking?

"Oh, I love my boyfriend so much and I don't care about if it bothers my roommate that he's over here all the time because he makes ME so happy."

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Oct 29, 08 9:11

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Way to go, TC! Way to stand up for yourself! I'm so proud of you!

I have a question, though. Her boyfriend has a place. Well, what type of place is it? Is it a dorm or dorm suite? Or is it an apartment?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Oct 29, 08 9:14

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Yeah, TC was way too nice. I have a house with roommates and I don't mind overnight guests as long as I don't get an extra roommate.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 9:19

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I don't know "what" he lives in, actually. It is aways off campus and she doesn't have a car, which presents a bit of a problem. Plus she has 6 am swim practice 2x a week. Thus it is easier for HER if they stay here. Which, they are not going to do anymore on nights I am here!!!

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 9:20

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Leloo today needs to be "awesomely productive" in terms of studying for a physics test. Then Friday becomes a THESIS workday as does the weekend.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Oct 29, 08 9:24

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I have a physics test today and I rock at physics. I got a 105 on my last test. Need any help?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 9:28

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A 105, very nice!

I don't think I need any help really, just time to sit and study. But if I have any questions I'll ask :-)

this test covers...

tension forces
circular motion, centripetal acceleration
energy... momentum...
I think that's it. But it's 3 chapters, lots of stuff.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Oct 29, 08 9:39

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Yep, I got tension forces, energy, and momentum covered because I have a test tonight actually. Yeah, if you have questions, send me a PM. I'm just now relearning circular motion and centripetal acceleration.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 12:19

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What kind of a dude wants to stay over anyways? Shouldn't he just want to bang her & get on out to the bars with his buddies?

I would definitely never stay over if there was a roommate there. Unless I was doing them both.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [TeamBarenaked] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 12:21

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LOL
Thank you for that lunch time comedy relief.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 14:03

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Yeah, that was great :-)

Roommate called me this afternoon - am home for a dr's appt (shots! ouch!) and told me "I'm not mad at you anymore."

So now that she's talking to me again we can set some rules about guys staying over.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 16:13

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I need help staying AWAKE enough to study.

tried to study... fell asleep. Am home. Dad came up and woke me up. I got all excited, "is it dinner time?"

"Nope, you slept through dinner. Aren't you supposed to be studying not sleeping?"

sigh...

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 29, 08 16:59

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Well if you didn't get up so gd early... who gets out of bed while it still says 3 anyways? FREAK! :P

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

Oct 30, 08 0:51

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I've been an early bird since I was a baby, I never went through the teenage "sleep in" phase. I really do wake up before/near 4 ish without an alarm every day. Yes, it's very odd. But early morning is a great time to get stuff done, be it school or training stuffs.

Speaking of which, GOOD MORNING!

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Oct 30, 08 4:19

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I rocked my physics test last night. Good luck on yours this week.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Oct 30, 08 9:39

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It went pretty well. There was one question I had no clue on, a whole bunch I looked at and went AAAAAA but then was able to work through, a whole bunch I knew how to do.

1 more exam this afternoon then this second round of exams is done (We have 3-4 prelims and a final in most classes).

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Oct 30, 08 16:57

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I found the rules:

Here you go! If you need anything else or an ear to listen, my office is right across from the front desk!

Visitation and Guests
Students should feel as if they can welcome a guest to their room for a visit. However, prior to such a visit the resident should discuss time frame and expectations of such a guest with their roommate(s). No student can refuse to allow a roommate to have guests and then invite his/her friends to visit. A guest is defined as someone who does not live in the particular hall where they are visiting. A residence hall student from one hall is considered a guest in another hall. There are some simple guidelines to follow once roommates agree to a guest being in the room. First, no guest can remain in the student room for longer than 2 consecutive nights in any given week. A guest should not be here for two nights every week. Guests should be escorted through the halls by the host and are expected to follow all university/residence hall policies. Guests of the opposite sex should be using the appropriate restrooms or the public restrooms in the lobby of the residence halls

I am excited. She is not going to be happy, but she can deal. She can go to his place. I mean... I've been spending tonight in the library and union... because I don't want to go back to my room and deal with THEM. That's not how it's supposed to work, it's my room.

I have a feeling that this is going to turn into a big fight... but I can pull the RA in on my behalf if need be.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 31, 08 6:52

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So apparently you were right on about the two night thing :-)

And you are right ...it is your room. You are paying for half of it, and you deserve a say in what goes on there. Don't let her tell you that you are being selfish/brat/insensitive to her needs. I basically lived at my parents' house my freshman year of college because I am just about the least confrontational person alive and didn't want to take a stand against my awful roomie.

On the plus side, if she gets really mad at you, she may start sleeping at his place full time :-D

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Oct 31, 08 16:27

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Our agreement is when I am there, no boyfriend, except if she asks first and I say yes.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Oct 31, 08 16:31

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Sounds like a very appropriate agreement to me.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

Oct 31, 08 16:35

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I thought so too.

I had emailed her the paragraph about the rule... I was asleep when she got back last night... with BF... she sent him home. Very respectful. We're friends again.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 15:33

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Tonight she told me, all gushy, "he told me he loves me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me." [They've been dating since school started so 2 mths].

I rolled my eyes (luckily was standing behind her so she didn't see) and asked "so are you engaged?"

Her honest reply: "not yet."

Their lovey dovey mushiness is making me sick...

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Nov 3, 08 15:43

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It'll be over quicker than it started. Just be patient.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 15:52

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yeah, I know. In the meantime they are feeding each other raw cookie dough and I think it is seriously going to make me vomit. You know how Calvin reacts in the Valentine comic strips? I feel like that.

Physics test: 66, screwed up 2 major problems by using a kinetic energy conservation equation when I needed to use a conservation of momentum equation - had written on both "conservation of momentum" and then copied the wrong freakin' equation. I appealed a multiple choice problem that I should get 3 pts back for - and they'll scale it 8-10 pts... so I'm at a 77-79. Class average was a 58 so that's good... I have an A in lab and an A in workshop/recitation and an A in homework (we do worksheets that reinforce concepts in recitation) so I should wind up with an A overall if I can keep it up. Now we're on rotational movement, angular momentum, radians and stuff.

I think they're going over to his place tonight, oooh please please please. He's certainly not staying here... PS I did not know it was possible to make such loud noises, just kissing, they are awful.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Nov 3, 08 15:56

Post #45 of 212 Views: 10080

/vomits

Ouch, that sucks. Hey, at least you are above the curve. I'm the curve buster in my class for sure and I get my test back either tonight or Wednesday. My teacher is not easy, but fair, and he doesn't try to trick you are anything like that. I think the class average is better this test because I taught about half the class some of the more difficult problems.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 16:01

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had written on both "conservation of momentum" and then copied the wrong freakin' equation.

Do you guys get to have a "cheat sheet" for the equations or are you required to memorize them all?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 16:18

Post #47 of 212 Views: 10070

Cheat sheet. They give you nothing - you can bring an 8.5 x 11 piece of paper with whatever you want written on it. Very smart on their part, forces students to think hmmmm what do I need for equations, constants , etc.

Of course it doesn't help when you know exactly how to do the problem, and copy the WRONG FREAKIN EQUATION. In this case the difference between a 77 and a 97...

Another Calvin and Hobbes: "we tigers wreck the grade curve."

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 16:22

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Guess there's no chance they'd give you half points for proving you can do the equation properly with the right equation?

When I was taking Biomechanics the instructor would write all the possible physics equations on the board, then we would have to choose the right one for each problem. THANK GOD cuz there was no way I was going to memorize all that stuff. It was an easy A for me that way, but a definite course drop without.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 16:26

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I got one point on each one for having written down "conservation of momentum."

Biomechanics is a possible class option for me next semester. Worth it do you think? Kines/phys ed major, looking at physical therapy schools, have taken kinesiology, the undergrad and grad levels of exercise phys, what exactly do you learn in biomechanics anyway? Is it fun?

Am trying to balance the class load with time to work on the thesis. Handed in 10 pgs of writing of that today, got a bunch of bibliography annotations done -- ZING! Works better for me to research and write at the same time, the effect of which is that I have 30 pgs of thesis drafted right now... not just research.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 16:34

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Honestly, I learned nothing more than I love physics! Basically you are just taking physics and applying it to human movement. Necessary learning? Not for me. Not sure it would really do all that much for you either considering you already have a pretty fantastic understanding of human movement through sport. That said, it might be good to have on your scholastic resume considering which direction you are planning to go in. Oh, and it's sooooo easy (especially if you have a physics background, which I did not... I didn't even take math or a science in grade 12 hehe). Your background will fly you through it.

My class was super fun, but it was also the second time I had taken it. The first time I got stuck with an awful prof and couldn't understand what the hell he was talking about 99% of the time, so I dropped it a bad grade would show up on my records. The second time my prof was amazing and I was always pissed with myself if I got even 1 wrong on a test. Oh how a prof can change your learning.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 16:35

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Sounds like I would enjoy it, I'll have to see if I can fit it into my schedule. I like physics too.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 3, 08 16:57

Post #52 of 212 Views: 8461

I love Calvin and Hobbes.

I don't love Physics ;-) (Bio major in undergrad so I suffered through 2 semesters of physics)

Come crawling faster

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 5, 08 1:30

Post #53 of 212 Views: 8429

Things are getting better, I think.

Yesterday was their "two month anniversary." He brought over a mint chocolate cheesecake for her (mint chocolate is her FAVORITE). I had to leave for class about fifteen minutes after he got there - was grateful for that, actually. LOL. Walked back from class trying to decide, "if he is still there, what will I say tactfully to send him home, because she didn't ask if he could stay over and I am not up for company tonight."

When I got back they were both gone. I went to bed :-) woke up this AM and she's there (has AM practice), he's not.

We have settled on some sort of truce it seems... but yeah I am curious how long this relationship lasts. Comments of "I'm in love with him... I want to spend the rest of my life with him..." still elicit the 'Calvin reaction' on my part (you know his face turning all green) because, um, it's only been 2 months. I'm glad she's happy. I'm glad she's having fun. I could do without the lovey dovey ga ga talk.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 5, 08 5:28

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I'm with Eric ...it will be over faster than it started. Three months seems to be the point at which neither person can keep up 'perfect' appearances or tolerate something annoying the other person does. Give it a month and you will probably be home free.

Until then, though ...good luck. I know the Calvin reaction well. When my little sister started dating her first real boyfriend, that was the image that came to mind every time they said hello/goodbye/anything in between ...I can understand the GROSS club ;-)

On a side note, I LOVE Calvin and Hobbs ...I have most of the comic books, my AIM pic is Calvin dancing in his pajamas, and I have a C&H quotes application on my facebook: "You know what I pray for? The strength to change what I can, the inability to accept what I can't and the incapacity to tell the difference." --Calvin

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 5, 08 14:04

Post #55 of 212 Views: 8327

I'm terribly sorry but I am sitting here with a huge grin on me face because your misfortune reminds me of my college flatmate. He was a right piece of work that guy. Oh the good times we had arguing over whether or not he'd successfully set the place on fire, how to use a bathroom properly, or just the risk of illnesses from the consumption of spoiled foods and subsequently when and how to dispose of said food items. I'm a smug little prick now because I so fondly remember how I finally got my vengeance. Anyway..

Either their relationship will soon be over, or they will find a place to live. Either way you win.

And Bill Watterson is a bleedin genius. If anyone knows where to get an Atomic Cerebral Enhance-O-Tron please let me know.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Rasmus] [ In reply to ]

Nov 5, 08 14:40

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I'm a smug little prick now because I so fondly remember how I finally got my vengeance.

Spill.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Rasmus] [ In reply to ]

Nov 5, 08 14:44

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... it is not entirely misfortune that she is so into him, because she is an extrovert, I am an introvert, and when it's just the two of us, she requires MY attention (most of the time I want to just curl up and read, please). So it's a trade off between a low maintenance roommate and the loud kissy noises.

They're going to his place tonight :D

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 5, 08 16:18

Post #58 of 212 Views: 8283

PS I did not know it was possible to make such loud noises, just kissing, they are awful.

haha! This absolutely cracks me up!

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Nov 5, 08 20:32

Post #59 of 212 Views: 8258

I got a 104 on my physics test. Once again the highest in the class but by only 2 points this time.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 5, 08 21:12

Post #60 of 212 Views: 8251

Would you like a cookie?

Mmmm... that sounds like a good idea actually lol

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 0:48

Post #61 of 212 Views: 8234

What's up with the bonus points? My school doesn't do those...

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 0:49

Post #62 of 212 Views: 8233

I need cookies. Lots of them. Snickerdoodle please!!!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [cuds] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Nov 6, 08 8:53

Post #63 of 212 Views: 8201

Yes, I love cookies! Have any gingersnaps? Snickerdoodles would work as well.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Nov 6, 08 8:56

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It's all based on the teacher, not the school. I'm still shooting for a perfect 110 on one of these tests this semester. However, I'm not the lone 100+ score this test. Both people to the right and left of me got a 100 and a 102. I think they cheated off of me. The test average was about 80 but we are the smart class.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 9:19

Post #65 of 212 Views: 8192

Please bear in mind that I can be juvenile at times. This guy was beyond hope. In the 5 years we shared the dorm flat (yes, I put up with it that long - live and let live) he never cleaned up after himself. He was rude, self centered and according to himself incapable of doing anything wrong. At all. My friends who have met him are still telling stories.

Basically, I got him kicked out of the dorm. As a bonus, seeing as how his personal hygiene didn't matter that much to him I made sure he got to pay for having the hardwood floors redone ($800), and for the key he lost ($1000). Incidentally, because I graduated ahead of time I got to have my room inspected before him. After dropping off my key at the administrative office the following night I snuck back in using a spare key. It was the night before he was set to leave. I attached cling film to the door frame of his room, filled the gap between the door and the film with a surprisingly huge amount of kitchen garbage - had to do an additional garbage run to the dumpsters - and left him a note saying "Thank you for teaching me how to keep a clean home. Let me repay you in kind."

Terribly juvenile, I know.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 11:22

Post #66 of 212 Views: 8170

I didn't get my 3 pts back for the multiple choice question I appealed, but they scaled it 10 pts (class average was a 58). So I've got an 85 and a 76 for exam grades, B average there and A average in lab and workshop - so I've an A overall still.

Bonus points.. Ludicrous.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Nov 6, 08 11:27

Post #67 of 212 Views: 8166

I checked my grades last night and I have an 98.6 average in the class so far. And that is with me missing a lab report that I did but forgot to turn in. Right now, I probably have over a 100 average.

With me being an engineer, I find it absolutely ludicrous at how lax a lot of people are in taking measurements. One of my lab partners thinks that 57cm is close enough and goes ahead and rounds up to 60cm. She also called me anal when she measured something and said that it was 51cm and then I went behind her and measured it myself and got an answer of 50.7cm. Big difference!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 11:44

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we were always taught to measure to the closest significant figure- ie if your measuring stick thing goes to cm, then measure to the mm (estimate) and if it goes to mm... well thats just damn hard to see, so go with it. But yea- 57 is not the same as 60, and 50.7 isnt the same as 51.

but im an engineer too. I dont even like the fact that the dimension setting I have in a clients AutoCAD standards only measures to the 32nd of an inch. I want to see it to the .0001", i hate having things not close perfectly.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 11:44

Post #69 of 212 Views: 8157

I'm more like your lab partner. Lab happens right after my swim workout so when I get to lab all I want is (1) a nap and (2) things to eat, not necessarily in that order. Since the TAs do not really read the labs that closely, my group members and I do it as fast as possible while making it look like we know exactly what we are doing. This means being a bit lax with measurements, significant figures, etc.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 14:10

Post #70 of 212 Views: 8128

Quote:

She also called me anal when she measured something and said that it was 51cm and then I went behind her and measured it myself and got an answer of 50.7cm.

Is that why things didn't work out between you two? ;-P

''The enemy isn't conservatism. The enemy isn't liberalism. The enemy is bulls**t.''

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Danno] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Nov 6, 08 14:45

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I tried to convince her that --> <-- is really six inches but she wouldn't buy it.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 16:10

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I tried to convince her that --> <-- is really six inches but she wouldn't buy it.

is this one of those things where you need to apply the 'ST derating factor' just like FTP, 5k times etc.? ;)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [brikins13] [ In reply to ]

Nov 6, 08 16:36

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we were always taught to measure to the closest significant figure-

Yeah, that's how you're supposed to do it...

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Nov 9, 08 18:44

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Yeah, that was great :-)

Roommate called me this afternoon - am home for a dr's appt (shots! ouch!) and told me "I'm not mad at you anymore."
.

She would be a pretty useless human if she didn't get over it. You were really nice about it.
It is college after all and people occasionally wind up in other peoples beds, but this was a premeditated serial sleepover.
I am not nearly so nice. The second time my roomamte got drunk and peed in the corner I locked him out in the hall in his boxers when he went to the bathroom to puke. He just wound up climbing into someone elses bed that night. Luckily he was blacked out and did not know why he woke up In another guys bed [who thankfully was staying in his girlfriends dorm room (she had a single)].
Suggest that she get a blow up mattress and put in the common area for when he stays over. After all it is like they seem to have an overwelming need for privacy...

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [SLC_vt98] [ In reply to ]

Nov 10, 08 0:43

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"premeditated serial sleepover" LOL!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [SLC_vt98] [ In reply to ]

Nov 10, 08 9:28

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Yeah, that was great :-)

Roommate called me this afternoon - am home for a dr's appt (shots! ouch!) and told me "I'm not mad at you anymore."
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She would be a pretty useless human if she didn't get over it. You were really nice about it.
It is college after all and people occasionally wind up in other peoples beds, but this was a premeditated serial sleepover.
I am not nearly so nice. The second time my roomamte got drunk and peed in the corner I locked him out in the hall in his boxers when he went to the bathroom to puke. He just wound up climbing into someone elses bed that night. Luckily he was blacked out and did not know why he woke up In another guys bed [who thankfully was staying in his girlfriends dorm room (she had a single)].
Suggest that she get a blow up mattress and put in the common area for when he stays over. After all it is like they seem to have an overwelming need for privacy...

This reminds me of a story a friend told me once. He got really drunk and slept over at his brother's house one night. He woke up in the middle of the night to go pee, and went into what he thought was the bathroom. Lifted the lid and proceeded to pee, and kind of woke up in the middle of the pee to realize he was pissing in the washing machine. He didn't mention it the next morning. :)
Jessica

Jessica

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Nov 13, 08 13:55

Post #77 of 212 Views: 8698

my thesis is coming along soooo well - had a really good mtg with my advisor today.

So, I'm being a nice roommate. She slept over at his place last night -I got up and got in 2:40 on the trainer, was PSYCHED to be able to ride so early. Tonight, I had planned to drive home, but am too tired. Called her and said "if you planned already to have Ryan spend the night, I'll be here, but is fine with me."

we're getting along...

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Nov 14, 08 10:37

Post #78 of 212 Views: 8603

She is serious about their marrying each other. THEY WENT TO LOOK AT RINGS YESTERDAY.

Part of it - she insists that they love each other, want to spend their lives together, she tells me she has "that feeling." The only thing I know for sure I want to spend my entire life with is my cat, I am not sure my feeling there compares to her feeling or no. Anyway. But she is Israeli (recruited to swim, she's a 2:07 in the 200 fly) and it will be easier for her to get a visa if they get married. She says this isn't WHY they're getting married, but why they are *rushing* it.

I looked at her last night without the Calvin reaction - happy for her that she seems to be so in love - but scared that, because they only have been together for 2.5 mths, that something will happen, they'll break up, and she will be so incredibly hurt. I do not want her to get hurt (I am a caring roommate after all :P)

there's another good story here involving a pregnancy test (she's not pregnant) but I can't spill that one, would be unfair to her, too private. sorry for the tease...

So my roommate is practically engaged she just doesn't have the ring????

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Dec 1, 08 17:59

Post #79 of 212 Views: 8411

WHINING AHEAD!

- A bunch of HIS shirts are hung up in the closet. This I think is not okay. He does not live here... I do not like where this is headed... why would he needs clothes here except for overnights? no no no no no.

- They are still here and haven't left for his place yet, she doesn't have morning practice tomorrow. I seriously hope they both leave soon... if not I am sending him home... am tired and need sleep tonight, I've an exam tomorrow.

(hey but I got major thesis work done today!!!)

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 1, 08 18:04

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Are they engaged yet?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [deee] [ In reply to ]

Dec 1, 08 18:10

Post #81 of 212 Views: 8410

not officially, no ring, but I'd say it's pretty certain.

They are still pretty much attached at the hip (or maybe mouth :P)

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 6:11

Post #82 of 212 Views: 8358

Ack!!! The appearance of clothes is never a good thing ...I thought you two had worked this out!?!?

I hope they relocated and you were able to get some sleep.

Good luck on your test :-)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 7:29

Post #83 of 212 Views: 8337

It's good that sometimes you are able to quell the Calvin. It's also good that you are happy for her. It's normal for you to be frustrated by her (and him) as well. Just try to keep in mind that sometimes different people have different priorities and have feelings on a different plane than our own. Not necessarily wrong or right - just different.

Just becuase there are some shirts there doesn't mean he's moving in. You've negotiated the occasional overnight and agreed to it, if they're serious about this thing and it's not taking over your space then there shouldn't be much harm in a few shirts. That's my opinion though, and I could be way off base. If he lives so far away (read: soooooooooo in roommate tone of voice) then it's probably not convenient to go home to get clothes before beginning a day, eh? I wouldn't stress on it too much unless the agreement gets broken again. Just trying to find a compromise.

I'm in a relationship that's different than most "normal" relationships. We live very close to each other but only speak every few days and see each other maybe once a week. We both have separate lives but we do care about each other and have been together for a long time. Most of my girlfriends (and my mom) think it's awful and he doesn't treat me right or do enough for me. It works for us and it's nice that he allows me to live my life and we get together when we can and when it's convenient. My point - it's not what others might choose, but it works for me/us for now. It may seem crazy that they're moving so fast to you/others, but it may be what works for them, for now.

You're a good friend/roommate to care and be concerned, and you're absolutely entitled to respect as well. Seems like things are going better than they were....right?

AW

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [AWARE] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 8:34

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yes. and they did end up at his place last night.

I think I am suspicious of shirts LOL

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 9:12

Post #85 of 212 Views: 8297

Those shirts...you've got to watch them...they've always got something up their sleeves....

I'm lucky I have an understanding roommate (and that we're not still in college), he pretty much just puts up with my crap and whining without too much complaint. It does help that we're both triathletes and have a bit of an understanding regarding the trainers and the living room. It's just another piece of furniture in our house! I think if either of us had to study for anything, one of us would already be dead....

AW

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 14:13

Post #86 of 212 Views: 8237

Carefull. Next she'll make you lock your bike up outside....

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [AWARE] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 14:23

Post #87 of 212 Views: 8232

Those shirts...you've got to watch them...they've always got something up their sleeves....

Oh no you didn't... ;-)

Come crawling faster

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [runxner] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 15:36

Post #88 of 212 Views: 8209

LOL.

He treats her so well - came over and had dinner ready for her when she got back from practice. I hope it works out for them, because it really is a good relationship.

I think most of the trouble lately, is she has been really cranky for some reason, I've just been tired, so we're kind of rubbing at each other's rough edges. But since she's always with him I don't know what it is that's stressing her out. The most time I've spent with her all semester - well I can think of 2 nights, one we had dinner together and played cribbage the other was a grocery shopping trip. I think a trip to Dairy Queen for ice cream would be beneficial for both of us come to think of it, maybe that'd take away some crankiness... no boys allowed!!!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 15:57

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I think a trip to Dairy Queen for ice cream would be beneficial for both of us come to think of it, maybe that'd take away some crankiness... no boys allowed!!!

A trip to DQ is ALWAYS beneficial :D haha

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Dec 2, 08 16:04

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But how is she going to be able to breathe without him at her side? She's completely forgotten how to function without him!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 16:53

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Total bonding moment allowed.

And yeah, Pugs, I went there. How sad is that?! Bet it made you laugh though...

AW

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Dec 2, 08 17:49

Post #92 of 212 Views: 8170

The thing is that doesn't even need to be in pink.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 3, 08 7:28

Post #93 of 212 Views: 8117

All I know is I'm so thankful I didn't marry in my 20's....people change and I'm such a different person now in my 30's than I was in my 20's!!!!

We all have our own lessons to learn and I'm hoping things work out for the best for your roomie, and of course you as well! :-)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Kestrelkerri] [ In reply to ]

Dec 3, 08 13:18

Post #94 of 212 Views: 8059

Could not agree more Kerri! People have a ton more growing up to do in their 20s, they just don't know it. Hell, I'm 44 and STILL growing up.

dating 2.5 MONTHS? and they are getting engaged? At what, 21???? The words starter marriage come to mind.

BTW, I love the part that she has the "special feeling about him". Oh, WAIT for it.... what COULD that be, perhaps THEIR RAGING HORMONES???

As a parent, there is NO WAY I would condone a marriage at this stage. I hope their parents are aware of what is going on.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Kestrelkerri] [ In reply to ]

Dec 3, 08 13:22

Post #95 of 212 Views: 8056

I got married at 27, almost got married at 22. First guy would have been a huge mistake based on all the wrong things. Second guy and I have been together for over 13 years, married 12. I'm super happy I took the time to be my own person, experience different things and live on my own before getting married.

I can't fathom getting married in college. I was a total dope.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [sto] [ In reply to ]

Dec 3, 08 16:37

Post #96 of 212 Views: 8023

huh, I don't know how their parents feel about it. Because I never actually get to talk to her :P they're wrapped around each other in a human candy cane right now...

Her parents are in Israel. We're in Maine. He's from NY. I dunno. They're both 23 btw.

engagement, marriage, is their choice, my fear is something will happen and they'll break up and she will completely SHATTER, because she is so attached to him. But of course we cannot talk about this, because, first of all I can't pry her away from him and secondly how do you tell someone "this is maybe not a good idea" without having them hate you?

I'm stuck so I just keep quiet on my half of the room ;-)

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [sto] [ In reply to ]

Dec 4, 08 6:30

Post #97 of 212 Views: 7972

My feeling exactly. From the way TC describes them, this sounds like some lusty fling ...but I also have no idea where this guy is coming from!!! Most 20-25 year old guys run in the other direction when a gf, especially one of a few months mentions marriage/kids/serious commitment :-P He must really care about her, but whoever used the phrase 'starter marriage' is probably dead on. And, yes, what are the parents thinking??!?!?!

...Although I am totally hypocritical to say most of that. I am 23 and engaged. However, I feel like I grew up pretty fast, and he is older (27) with a, um, disastrous experience in the young and stupid marriage field. He and I have been together 3.5 years, moved to a different state and bought a home together, have joint checking and credit cards, have our 2 awesome doggies, are head over heels for one another, are not afraid to fight/speak our minds, and are first and foremost best friends. We will probably sign the official papers and have a ceremony in a year or two, but we're not in a rush.

As for TC's roomie, maybe this is one of those freak couples that work it out that young. My parents got married at 27 (way different than 23, but still) having known each other 3 months. We celebrated their 31st anniversary this past summer.

I wish them all the best and truly hope I am wrong with my gut feelings about where the relationship is going!

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Leloo] [ In reply to ]

Dec 4, 08 17:47

Post #98 of 212 Views: 7911

I realized today that I think all my 'hostility' toward their relationship is that she does not exist without him. It's like they've merged or something, there is no "Adi" anymore but there is "Adi-and-Ryan." Does that make sense?

anyway she's been spending every night at his place. fine with me

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Dec 4, 08 19:04

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The primary reason why I keep coming back to this thread is that I'm waiting for the reply from you "Well, Adi came back home tonight crying her eyes out and in hysterics. Her and Ryan broke up tonight and she is now saying that she doesn't know how to live without him."

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Dec 4, 08 20:43

Post #100 of 212 Views: 7898

LOL
That's cold man... but I'm waiting for it too hah

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [deee] [ In reply to ]

Dec 4, 08 20:45

Post #101 of 212 Views: 8988

We all are.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [jenhs] [ In reply to ]

Dec 5, 08 5:37

Post #102 of 212 Views: 8971

the swim team goes to Ft Lauderdale for 10 days over Christmas break for a training trip. I wonder if she has thought of how she'll cope with this. I have a feeling if they break up it will be right after that. If not then I give it until early spring. (Add me to the evil, awful, pessismistic this won't work out group)

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 5, 08 11:02

Post #103 of 212 Views: 8921

Don't be too hard on yourself, I don't think you are being "evil", just realistic, and having been cast aside and compromised during her little romance. I think most of us realize from experience that this is one of those mad, crazy infatuations that happen at that age, and well, the generally almost never hang in for the long term. It's almost inevitable that will become disenchanted with each other and some point (I'm going with the 6-7 month range, BTW!) and POOF, it's over. I see him as the one bailing, too.

They probably have not had any fights yet. It's coming, and when it does, the shine will come off this gold-plated turd faster than I can run to bathroom after drinkin my Starbucks.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [sto] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Dec 5, 08 11:20

Post #104 of 212 Views: 8913

You too? It's like clockwork for me. About 45 minutes after I start drinking a cup of coffee, I'm head to bathroom for a nice sit down.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Dec 5, 08 13:01

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absolutely! did you see that Thread on the main page called "master cleanse". first thing I though of, was, well, it's that what happens about 45 minutes after the Bucky's hits. who needs some wierd drink, just have a few hits of coffee.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [jenhs] [ In reply to ]

Dec 15, 08 14:54

Post #106 of 212 Views: 8738

So I asked her tonight, "when are you guys getting engaged?"

"February."

"Really. Why February?"

"He wanted it to be closer to Christmas but I didn't want a ring right now because I'd have to take it on and off for swim practice and I don't want to lose it. So we're getting engaged in February when the season is over."

I still predict they break up after winter break when she comes back from her training trip.

Back to studying...

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Dec 15, 08 17:40

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Thanks for the update!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 15, 08 18:34

Post #108 of 212 Views: 8675

She actually KNOWS when he's going to ask her? Seems a bit odd, and maybe I'm old fashioned, but I wouldn't want to know. Isn't that part of the fun?

Come crawling faster

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 16, 08 3:33

Post #109 of 212 Views: 8644

What, you didn't go for the threesome?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [LovePugs] [ In reply to ]

Dec 16, 08 4:45

Post #110 of 212 Views: 8636

LovePugs, they were looking at rings together awhile ago so they have decided together they're getting engaged but he won't tell her the details of exactly when how and where he will propose.

Totally OT but you'd like this

http://forum.slowtwitch.com/...;;page=unread#unread

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 16, 08 4:55

Post #111 of 212 Views: 8634

http://forum.slowtwitch.com/...nread#unread[/reply] I can't get this to show... Well at least part of it will be a surprise... Good luck on your finals!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [LovePugs] [ In reply to ]

Dec 17, 08 3:23

Post #112 of 212 Views: 8540

search "stroke analysis" on the main forum!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Dec 18, 08 17:01

Post #113 of 212 Views: 8395

I wish they'd post physics grades.

Anyway, today I actually got to talk with my roommate for longer than we have all year, I think. It was kind of like having a friend back :P even if all she talked about was Ryan This and Ryan That.

They had a Xmas card picture taken together and are sending them out. Is this weird? Right now it sounds like they're engaged minus the ring (that she'll get in Feb). I still think it's weird.

It was kind of nice to actually talk to her for longer than 5 minutes.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Dec 19, 08 19:08

Post #114 of 212 Views: 8307

I checked my grades today to confirm that I got an A.

It's good that you actually got to talk to her today even if she only had him on her mind. Yes, it is weird because most older, more mature people don't move this quickly.

How did the rest of your finals go?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Dec 19, 08 19:55

Post #115 of 212 Views: 8304

The rest of my finals were easy! I think I aced the one for General Medical Conditions and Disability in Sport. Just waiting for professors to post grades, which they tend to be notoriously slow about doing.

What are you taking next semester?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Dec 19, 08 20:00

Post #116 of 212 Views: 8303

Physics II is the only thing that I'm taking. I'm taking it with the same professor and some of the same classmates. Unfortunately, my lab partner from this semester is also taking the class and let's just say that we had some extracurricular involvement together that ended.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Dec 19, 08 20:09

Post #117 of 212 Views: 8301

gotcha

I am currently signed up for physics II, same professor which is good - I really did like the class - but I need to re-do my schedule now that I've decided I want to get a degree in secondary ed (see Lavendar room post) and may have to drop it. I have one semester left on my scholarship and have finished all my exercise science classes except my thesis, so I have a bunch of paid-for credits that I can use as I like. There are some exercise science classes I haven't taken that interest me - Biomechanics and Principles of Coaching (this one's at the same time as physics) but I need to talk to some people at the secondary ed teaching cert / degree programs and figure out what I could take now that would help toward that degree. The good thing is I want to teach math so I bet I'll get some math classes :-) and math is like physics, fun!!! I am happy that now that I'm not looking at PT school, I do not have to take abnormal psych. But physics II was another thing PT school wanted, so now it is not required... but I like it so might keep it. I will figure that out over break.

ok, I had woken up hungry but now that my "snack" (does 2 big muffins and an orange still count as a snack? my metabolism's been on LIGHT SPEED lately) is done I'm going back to bed.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Dec 19, 08 22:51

Post #118 of 212 Views: 8289

Hey... since you've decided to go with Secondary Ed, I definitely think you should do biomechanics now. You'll find it interesting and you'll breeze through it because of your physics background.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [D!] [ In reply to ]

Dec 20, 08 2:32

Post #119 of 212 Views: 8279

Yes, I think I can definitely fit that class in. It will be T and Th 9:30-10:45, which is where abnormal psych was.

I haven't forgotten about your stuff - I promise - bet I can get it done as a Christmas present for you ;-)

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

S. Pinkfontaine

Dec 23, 08 11:20

Post #120 of 212 Views: 8128

Any info on the physics grade yet?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Dec 23, 08 12:39

Post #121 of 212 Views: 8108

No! They're being dumb. Yesterday they had a half day off due to snow... today I can't get logged on to the school email at all. Not happy.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 9:58

Post #122 of 212 Views: 7851

Back for spring semester! cept it's not spring yet

They are still together.

He is spending the night because his car is in the shop. I have ok'ed this.

He got her a fish for a present. The fish is living in an Absolut Vodka bottle (filled with water though. And it has some rocks at the bottom). And he put a long-stemmed rose in it.

I do not think fish should live in Vodka bottles.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 11:27

Post #123 of 212 Views: 7816

That is such a college guy present. Hilarious! I don't think the fish minds about her home as long as it is clean. They can't read and the definately can't read backwards :-)

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 11:33

Post #124 of 212 Views: 7813

What kind of fish is it?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 11:41

Post #125 of 212 Views: 7809

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Back for spring semester! cept it's not spring yet

They are still together.

He is spending the night because his car is in the shop. I have ok'ed this.

He got her a fish for a present. The fish is living in an Absolut Vodka bottle (filled with water though. And it has some rocks at the bottom). And he put a long-stemmed rose in it.

I do not think fish should live in Vodka bottles.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [swimfan�] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 11:43

Post #126 of 212 Views: 8250

I wish I was a fish in a vodka bottle...

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [D!] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 11:54

Post #127 of 212 Views: 8247

Beta fish

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [JenHS] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 11:55

Post #128 of 212 Views: 8246

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That is such a college guy present

the rose, the fish, or the 'bowl'????

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 11:56

Post #129 of 212 Views: 8241

Beta is totally fine in the bottle. That's MORE than enough room for it. They live in puddles normally so it's almost got too much room :)

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 12:11

Post #130 of 212 Views: 8235

The whole package. Cheap fish, got the bottle somewhere in his room and the rose because he feels like it is obligitory.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [JenHS] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 14:41

Post #131 of 212 Views: 8175

Yep, I can see it now. While they were apart, drunkenness ensued. Dude, I'll give you a dollar to eat this fish. No way man. OK, $5. OK. "gobble" Eeewwwww, that was gross dude. I think I am going to throw up. BARF! Dude, give me $5 and I'll put that think in that empty bottle we just drank and give it to that ho I am banging for Christmas. Dude, you're on!

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [bluemonkeytri] [ In reply to ]

Jan 12, 09 16:35

Post #132 of 212 Views: 8150

All I can say is I hope the fish likes ROCK BAND.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 13, 09 15:53

Post #133 of 212 Views: 7988

I asked the fish's name. "Fishie." She has to be kidding.

I need a new name for the vodka-fish.

Also: "Ryan is spending the night because I have 6 am practice.

Me: Okay for tonight.

Adi: Actually we thought he could spend every T and Th night becuase I have AM practice.

Me: (WITHOUT THINKING) I guess that sounds like a compromise.

I think she has this idea that they *have* to sleep together EVERY SINGLE NIGHT.

how do I get that one through her head?

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Last edited by: tigerchik: Jan 14, 09 9:05

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 14, 09 3:10

Post #134 of 212 Views: 7955

In Reply To:

I asked the fish's name. "Fishie." She has to be kidding.

I need a new name for the vodka-fish.

Eff-fer. :-)
Chips
Harvey Wallbanger
White Russian
Cosmo

So you've basically agreed to allow him to stay Tues and Thurs, and they bugger off for the weekend, Mon, Wed, and Fri?

"Here's how you run a marathon. Step 1: You start running. Step 2: There is no step 2." - Barney (How I Met Your Mother)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [neil_laing] [ In reply to ]

Jan 14, 09 9:05

Post #135 of 212 Views: 7908

M,W, yeah. I go home on the weekends so I'm not here F/S/S nights. So they can stay either.

He was here last night, as long as they don't make noise and wake me up. If I get woken up by ROCK BAND however they will be in trouble.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 14, 09 11:06

Post #136 of 212 Views: 7869

Better name for the fish. Pished* phish.

*Tis a Scottish word for drunk

"Here's how you run a marathon. Step 1: You start running. Step 2: There is no step 2." - Barney (How I Met Your Mother)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 16, 09 15:23

Post #137 of 212 Views: 7734

I say name the fish Axe Grinder.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [CycloneTri] [ In reply to ]

Jan 20, 09 17:16

Post #138 of 212 Views: 7575

tonight she asks him "when is the movie honey"

"honey" this is a word married couples use I think!!!!

Maybe I'll call the fish "honey."

She said they've picked out an engagement ring - haven't bought it yet but they've picked it out. And are searching for an apartment to move into together for the summer. And they have travel plans for June to go to Israel (her home) - together. I asked "so when's the wedding, if you're moving in together, and going to visit your family?" No date yet...

I could've done without the french kissing when he came in. But before that she and I actually had a conversation... she treated me like a friend again rather than the girl who just occupies the other half the room... that was nice!!! LOL. What I resent about him, is that he has totally stolen my best friend here. We were so much closer last year when she wasn't so involved in dating.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 20, 09 17:21

Post #139 of 212 Views: 7575

... she has, however, informed me that I can be the maid of honor in the wedding. "You can wear a yellow dress and you will look like a baby chick!"

I do not know where THAT came from.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 20, 09 18:12

Post #140 of 212 Views: 7567

Yellow looks good on very few people. Fair skin and blonde hair do NOT work with yellow.

Tell her you want a parisol too.

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Jen

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [JenHS] [ In reply to ]

Jan 20, 09 18:43

Post #141 of 212 Views: 7562

What color should I request? My favorite dress is a coral pink color. If they get married in the summer at least I will be tan.

She's on my good side right now for having let me borrow some Nutella for my bagel bedtime snack :-) plus she and her HONEY are at the movies so it's quiet here and I'm going to bed soon.

Parasol sounds like fun!!!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 20, 09 18:56

Post #142 of 212 Views: 7557

Pastels and light colors generally don't look good on fair skin like ours. Rich colors like jewel tones or a deep pink look good.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 20, 09 19:57

Post #143 of 212 Views: 7546

In Reply To:

What color should I request? My favorite dress is a coral pink color. If they get married in the summer at least I will be tan.

I don't know about you.. but I have some gnarly tan lines from training in the summer. I'm trying to explain to my sister how I'm going to ruin her fairytale wedding in August with my tan lines after training for Placid.

Then again, apparently the answer is "spray tan". yikes.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [JenHS] [ In reply to ]

Jan 21, 09 1:30

Post #144 of 212 Views: 7533

I am pretty touched that she wants me to be the maid of honor. That didn't really hit me last night but that's kind of a big deal!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [swimlinz] [ In reply to ]

Jan 21, 09 1:31

Post #145 of 212 Views: 7532

Tan lines, LOL. I think that is a small detail that will be somewhat unimportant to her.

You must be in your sister's wedding party?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 21, 09 5:10

Post #146 of 212 Views: 7523

yep, maid of honor as well. I'm happy for her and all, but not exactly thrilled she went with a date 2 weeks after Lake Placid (I registered before she was even engaged). I have to *hope* work is okay with me taking 5 days off for Placid, and then turning around in another 2 weeks and taking another 4 days off, since her wedding isn't close by.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 21, 09 9:59

Post #147 of 212 Views: 7481

That depends, if the wedding is in IL or the USA.... And are they moving back to IL after the wedding? (I work with Israeli's. They are very family oriented, so I would not be surprised if she wanted to go back.)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [sto] [ In reply to ]

Jan 21, 09 11:26

Post #148 of 212 Views: 7452

They're having the wedding in Maine. She loves her family but wants to stay in the states. For the ceremony they're planning on combining stuff from Jewish and Catholic weddings.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 21, 09 11:56

Post #149 of 212 Views: 7444

Is your roommate in the US on a student visa? If so, are their any Visa requirements before she can get married? Just wondering as I had a friend who lived in Germany for about 3 years on a work Visa (she is a US citizen) and met her finance (German citizen) there. She is now back in the US and is trying to get a finance visa so they can get married. It is taking a long time and a ton of money. If she would have just married him in Germany, there would still be similar (if not more difficult) requirements for him to be able to stay here. Guess I am wondering if there are implications for the other way around (with the foreign citizen living in the US and marrying a US citizen with plans to stay in the US)?

I always just thought you could get married but I guess things have changed with Homeland Security screenings and whatnot.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [instigator] [ In reply to ]

Jan 21, 09 13:37

Post #150 of 212 Views: 7421

I don't know anything about the VISA things though she is on a student visa and if she marries him here it is easier for her to get a permanent visa.

She was around this AM, again without him, and we chatted while we did hair/makeup/etc. It is nice to feel like I have my friend back! Also I realized how cool it is for them to have such a neat relationship... one of them makes sandwiches for the 2 of them every morning... it was cute to watch her making their 2 lunches as I made my breakfast. I'm starting to believe it's going to last.

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In which I discover he is maybe not such an awful creature ;-) [ In reply to ]

Jan 24, 09 3:57

Post #151 of 212 Views: 10127

Last night, I think I just about fell in love with him...

I was packing my car to go home and found I had a flat tire. It was 14* out, snowing, like I could even change a flat tire myself in GOOD conditions. I figured I was going to get stuck at school and have to wait for my brother to help. Called mom to tell her I wouldn't be coming home after all.

"There must be someone around who can help you. See if you can find a guy."

I don't know many of our neighbors, everyone kinda keeps to themselves, so I didn't think I'd be able to find help. But I went up to my room and Ryan was there.

"Hey Ryan, could you please help me change a flat tire on my car?"

He did it without complaint, so helpful and gracious, even though it was so cold out and stuff... what an incredibly nice guy. Roommate was at a swim meet. I called her and left a message and told her how lucky she was... and then I called mom and said "guess what! I found a boy!!! I'll be home in an hour."

LOL. I am starting to like him better :P

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 24, 09 23:14

Post #152 of 212 Views: 10046

Just ridiculous! Good on you for standing your ground! My roommate always had her boyfriend over, too. At least he brought us Mexican food from time-to-time (probably an intentional effort not to wear out his welcome). My "favorite" memory is the night I came home from somewhere and there was a note on the door that said, "Knock when you get here and then come back in ten minutes!" Um. Where am I supposed to go for ten minutes in the middle of the night? At least he went home after that, I guess.

He would paint her toenails while they sat on her bed, which always made me want to throw something at them.

Triathlizer in the making
Mom of 2 crazy boys

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [jenrford] [ In reply to ]

Jan 25, 09 10:34

Post #153 of 212 Views: 10022

In Reply To:

He would paint her toenails while they sat on her bed, which always made me want to throw something at them.

You would have been completely justified in doing that. What type of guy paints a girl's toenails???? that sounds weird.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 25, 09 10:55

Post #154 of 212 Views: 10019

Weird-unless you are pregnant and can't reach your toes comfortably :-)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [pookie87] [ In reply to ]

Jan 25, 09 10:58

Post #155 of 212 Views: 10018

true but hopefully college chicks aren't pregnant!

If you were pregnant then it turns into a very loving thing for a husband to do.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Jan 28, 09 17:09

Post #156 of 212 Views: 9848

It is wicked snowy and the roads are a mess so they're staying here tonight.

Remember she is Israeli - and her English is pretty good but she misses a lot of idioms and figures of speech -
"I think we need to get Ryan a doghouse, in the middle of the room, since so much of his stuff is here" (like the shirts ;-)

I laughed and had to explain to her what 'being in the doghouse' means in English.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Feb 1, 09 10:49

Post #157 of 212 Views: 9685

So...it is now February-the big engagement month! Any news??? Or is he going to wait until Valentine's Day?

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [pookie87] [ In reply to ]

Feb 1, 09 11:14

Post #158 of 212 Views: 9677

They're waiting until the 22nd, which is the day after her championship swim meet. She didn't want to have to keep taking the ring on and off for 10 practices a week + meets.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Feb 1, 09 13:21

Post #159 of 212 Views: 9655

Wow, so much for being spontaneous.... My wife only had a clue the day that I proposed (We had talked about it before hand), because I was nervous and fidgety. The best part about it being spontaneous, is the reaction from the other person. In my case it was a "Yippeeee!!!!!!" at which point I asked if that meant yes...... ;)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Tri 2 Tri] [ In reply to ]

Feb 1, 09 13:35

Post #160 of 212 Views: 9650

I think they're having fun planning it together.

The homework I am supposed to be doing is just NOT holding my attention today :P must get back to it... LOL

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Feb 1, 09 13:39

Post #161 of 212 Views: 9652

Haha, I feel the same way about my homework!!!

For some reason, doing a paper on Scanning Electron Microscopy doesn't constitute as a fun thing in my mind :p

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Tri 2 Tri] [ In reply to ]

Feb 1, 09 13:44

Post #162 of 212 Views: 9651

I'm reading "My Happy Life" and need to write a book review on it. If I finish the book we will call that "good" for the day.

just not holding my attention.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Feb 1, 09 14:03

Post #163 of 212 Views: 9648

Sounds like a ZzZzZzZz interesting ZzZzZzZz book ZzZzZzZz.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Tri 2 Tri] [ In reply to ]

Feb 1, 09 15:16

Post #164 of 212 Views: 9631

finished reading!

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The French Club is sponsoring a Kissing Contest [ In reply to ]

Feb 7, 09 7:49

Post #165 of 212 Views: 9441

to celebrate Valentine's day.

I think they should enter since they are attached at the hip...

We had a good week though. I had a rough week and they ended up staying every night, to keep me company/occupied/watch movies with me and stuff. It was nice to have them around, LOL.

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Re: The French Club is sponsoring a Kissing Contest [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Feb 12, 09 2:22

Post #166 of 212 Views: 9280

Thank you Tigerchik, I have just read your thread from page one to end. Very entertaining and I wish your flat mate all the best. You have been a great friend to tolerate all those nights with her ~~boyfriend~~ fianc� in a small room. I presume it has two single beds in one room (no wall between you?). Wow, that�s what I call tolerance and a true mate. I myself would have never coped with that; I am a lone wolf who has no patients for anyone, not even myself. Very enjoyable read. I am not often on this forum.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Feb 23, 09 11:32

Post #167 of 212 Views: 9102

So its after the 22nd (even if just only a day). Did the roommate get engaged??

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [instigator] [ In reply to ]

Feb 23, 09 12:02

Post #168 of 212 Views: 9095

Ha, funny you asked, I've been meaning to come write a bit.

She got back at 3:30 this morning from their championship meet. Really awful way to end the season for her - all the team's relays came in last; no one made finals; no one swam a PB. I told her "it's your coach's fault." Missed taper, maybe not trained correctly, combination of the above perhaps. Anyway, she is still a bit upset over not swimming well and I don't blame her.

Ryan, of course, had picked her up and they spent the "night" at our place. She went to bed as I got up LOL.

No engagement yet, not sure when he'll propose!!! I think it's safe to say it's an informal engagement.

Thursday night she wants to go out dancing and get drunk... both to kick off spring break and relax a bit from the season being over and stuff. She said "do you want to come?" I laughed and said dancing maybe, drinking no.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

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Feb 24, 09 6:48

Post #169 of 212 Views: 9022

Spring Break? I thought spring doesn't start up there until like May or so. Shouldn't it be called Late Winter Break?

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [erichollins] [ In reply to ]

Feb 24, 09 10:47

Post #170 of 212 Views: 8989

LOL.

We pretend :P

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Feb 25, 09 16:32

Post #171 of 212 Views: 8920

Tonight she is driving me nuts

this will be boring to you, just my venting.
She never does her chores, but is the dish nazi - god forbid I leave dirty dishes out. I did a bunch this afternoon but not all because we didn't have space to dry them all. I walked in the door tonight and I said "hi." she said "can I ask you a question?" I said "sure." "Are the dishes in the sink yours?" Not even like a hello... goodness. I did them right then just because I didn't feel like fighting about it.

Not happy that he's here, except I guess since he is her, *I* do not have to deal with her and this is a good thing because I (1) ran 20 miles this morning (2) spent 3 hrs working on my thesis (got SO much done!), (3) spent the afternoon doing homework too and I am TIRED and not up for even really talking :P

venting over!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Feb 27, 09 5:26

Post #172 of 212 Views: 8829

I have a shotgun and a shovel if you think it'll help. :-)

"Here's how you run a marathon. Step 1: You start running. Step 2: There is no step 2." - Barney (How I Met Your Mother)

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [neil_laing] [ In reply to ]

Feb 27, 09 5:29

Post #173 of 212 Views: 8827

:-)

Fortunately we are on spring break as of 5 pm today (and yes I have class up until then unless we get out early) so hopefully that won't be necessary.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 13, 09 7:54

Post #174 of 212 Views: 8637

Okay, it's been 2 weeks-we need an update!

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [pookie87] [ In reply to ]

Mar 13, 09 11:00

Post #175 of 212 Views: 8601

It's been two weeks because it's spring break! More Monday.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 13, 09 11:14

Post #176 of 212 Views: 8166

Sorry, thought Spring Break was over. The roommate is kind of the Womens Forum soap opera!

She's engaged [ In reply to ]

Mar 16, 09 11:28

Post #177 of 212 Views: 8062

I just got back - talked to her on the phone as I was driving so I haven't seen the ring yet.

He said he wanted to do something really special for the proposal (or is it a proposition? :-) outside but the day he planned to ask her, we got a major snowstorm. So he ended up asking her in our apartment - she said "he got down on one knee and I told him "can you look at me, the one knee thing is scary!" LOL. la la la now she's engaged.

No, I don't know if they've set a date yet, or if I am going to be a maid of honor in a yellow dress ;-)

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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 7:44

Post #178 of 212 Views: 8000

Tell her congrats from the Women's :)

Glad she's happy.. to each their own. Good luck rockin that yellow bridesmaides dress! haha

Re: She's engaged [swimlinz] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 8:39

Post #179 of 212 Views: 7990

Now we're fighting over, AGAIN, how many nights he stays at our place. I told her "the rule is 2" and she said "what about when you're not there on the weekends?" and I pointed out that he is in our space - meaning mine, I.'s, A.'s --- the two girls who live in the other room in our two-bedroom apartment. It turned into a fight and we're all meeting with the community coordinator later.

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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 9:07

Post #180 of 212 Views: 7978

WAIT! There's more people in your place? So you have two bedrooms that are each shared by two, and then common living space/kitchen (assuming)? Dude, wow. I'm surprised anyone lets anyone have "nightly" guests.

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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 9:34

Post #181 of 212 Views: 7973

Good Luck. But I don't see how you will need it. I really can't see the Community Coordinator siding with your roommate. The room is assigned to the two of you and there should be no one else there. And if you ever do allow guests (when mutually agreed upon) than that is just a bonus. I am curious though, what does dorm rules say about guests? When I lived in the dorm, we were not allowed overnight guests. I mean if no one complained it was overlooked but if someone brought it up -- the guest had to leave.

Re: She's engaged [D!] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 11:04

Post #182 of 212 Views: 7949

Correct as to the set up: 2 dorm rooms, living room/bathroom/sm kitchen in the middle, 4 girls.

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Re: She's engaged [instigator] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 11:06

Post #183 of 212 Views: 7946

rules say no more than 2 nights a week

and I don't think that means 2 nights EVERY week

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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 11:36

Post #184 of 212 Views: 7933

Just because there's a new title with their relationship and she's done with swim season doesn't mean that the rules get reconsidered. Hold your ground, chicky. It's not right that you should have to share your personal space all the time - he's got his own pad for a reason, doesn't he want to get his rent money's worth?! - when you're working so hard at school.

Have her grades stayed the same this semester as always? Hard to believe she has enough time to divide her focus up that much. But doesn't mean you should be expected to divide yours as well.

She's the one that mentioned the doghouse - maybe you could buy him a doghouse and he could sleep on the lawn....

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Re: She's engaged [AWARE] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 17:10

Post #185 of 212 Views: 7884

One of the things I told her this morning was "you do not NEED to sleep with him every night."

I've been wanting to say that for 2 months... just not wanting to deal with her anger, as I knew she'd be mad about it.

She lashed back with "you can't tell me that, he's my fiancee, I want to sleep with him every night."

I said "you may WANT to but you do not NEED to or HAVE to." I pointed out, when she talked about "I don't want to move into his place and pay rent" that she could stay HERE and he could stay THERE. But the brain signals of "it is possible for us to be apart for a night" doesn't fire correctly in her head.

it also flusters her that I can stay incredibly calm and talk, and she gets very upset... I've had enough therapy to be able to very rationally work through stuff, she has an emotional reaction and gets all stirred up.

Anyway I was very proud of myself for finally saying, "you do not NEED to be in bed with him every night" because I really have wanted to tell her that FOREVER.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 17, 09 22:44

Post #186 of 212 Views: 7843

Do they ever stay at his place? Why not? Seems like it would be easier, especially if you give them a hard time.

Re: She's engaged [Sluglas] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 1:19

Post #187 of 212 Views: 7835

They do indeed stay at his place some nights but there are rules about how many nights she can be there too.

My giving them a "hard time" - um - I've been VERY tolerant of his being here for far too long. Now that I am setting a boundary she is unhappy.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 7:31

Post #188 of 212 Views: 7799

You have been tolerant, moreso than I would have been. Things do change now that they are "engaged", there is apparently an expectation that they be together, but you are correct in that it is still not a need. Whatever.

There is something to be said for being able to rationally talk through things...but I'm not there. I either turn into a sniveling, crying mess or screeching banshee. It only drives the emotional response further when there is none from the other person as you feel like you're not "getting through". But still....

It's your space too, you have been understanding. About her not wanting to move in there and pay rent - what does she think will happen once they're "happily ever after"??? They'll just figure it out? School year is almost over, everyone's headed into the home stretch - tell her you've dealt with it for 3/4 of the year - ask her to respect you enough to try to understand that this is a tough season for you - training, wrapping up school, thesis, etc.....

Then tell her to go jump off a cliff.

AW

Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 8:03

Post #189 of 212 Views: 7786

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that you were out of line; I don't think you are. I can kind of understand her point when you aren't there (unless you think he's going through your stuff when you're gone), but when you are there you have the right to say you don't want him there. I was just curious about why it was so important that they stay at your place all the time.

I agree, if they both live in places with restrictions then they probably need to either find different places to live or just deal with the restrictions. I can understand their desire to sleep together, but if it's that important, then they need to figure out a way to make it work that doesn't require everybody else to accomodate them. Her "want" doesn't constitute an emergency on your part. If she needs him so badly, then she should get an apartment or find a different roommate.

Re: She's engaged [Sluglas] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 9:09

Post #190 of 212 Views: 7758

She has the rest of her life-til death do they part-to sleep in the same bed. Tell her not sleeping together will keep that "honeymoon phase" spark in the sack! I had a similar situation in college and the roomate's girlfriend would eat us out of house and home. Many screaming matches ensued. The bright side-the year is almost over and (hopefully) you'll get a better roomie next year!

BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 9:12

Post #191 of 212 Views: 7757

She is moving out :D

her choice - she's moving upstairs.

I just scored a room to myself!

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Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 9:32

Post #192 of 212 Views: 7753

NICE!

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Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [D!] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 9:50

Post #193 of 212 Views: 7744

Yes.

The only thing to deal with now (she'll be gone by Friday) is the hostility that I know will be encountered when she comes in to get the rest of her stuff. As she was moving some things out on Monday, she was completely bitchy to my other roommates. She got very mad at me yesterday, and today, so I'm fully expecting her to lash out at me.

The fight with her this morning resulted in a panic attack. I called mom and was like "can I come home so I don't have to see her for the rest of the week." Mom pointed out that would be giving her an awful lot of power... so I am staying here... and when she comes to get her stuff, I'll just go for a walk/go to the library/remove myself from the situation.

But I'm already thinking of how I can rearrange stuff, maybe make bunk beds, have my bike set up on the trainer... :D

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
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Last edited by: tigerchik: Mar 18, 09 11:03

Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 12:01

Post #194 of 212 Views: 7703

Good for you! I'd stay there while she's there. She has no power over you, at all. Clearly you are in the position of power here and don't forget that. People can be asses and if she chooses to handle this like a child then it is just that, her choice. You've been reasonable and the adult in the situation so don't let her get under your skin. I'd even as if I can help her move :D

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Jen

"In order to keep a true perspective on one's importance, everyone should have a dog that worships him and a cat that will ignore him." - Dereke Bruce

Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [JenHS] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 12:40

Post #195 of 212 Views: 7687

In Reply To:

I'd even ask if I can help her move :D

She doesn't need help - she's got Ryan for that :D

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Re: She's engaged [AWARE] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 12:46

Post #196 of 212 Views: 7684

In Reply To:

Then tell her to go jump off a cliff.

Oh, the things I would like to say to her, it would be entirely fun to be bitchy right back, I think. But I won't - it would not make it any better, and that is not the type of person I am. (I can think it! I just won't say it)

I think it's safe to say at this point I'm out of the wedding... :-)

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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 13:07

Post #197 of 212 Views: 7674

Keep a smile on your face while she's moving her stuff and be really nice, this will make her even madder. Reminds me of a saying-don't get mad, get even!

Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 15:52

Post #198 of 212 Views: 7625

Do you mean this thread is actually going to end?!?!?!!!!

:-)

"your horse is too high" - tigerchik

LOL [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 17:22

Post #199 of 212 Views: 7613

as of Friday I'd say yes!

I was so tired, I laid down for a nap around 5 pm and woke up around 8, just in time to go to bed. I heard them come in to get some of her stuff... happy to not have to talk to her as I was half asleep.

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 18:21

Post #200 of 212 Views: 7601

You're exactly right, it wouldn't do any good, but it would feel great. And with some time and distance from the situation you might be able to get your friend back.

You'd be surprised how weird wedding people are...I was in one that basically was the worst experience ever - the bride had decided she didn't want to be married and had met the man of her dreams (NOT THE ONE SHE WAS MARRYING) the weekend before the wedding (she's now married to THAT ONE and has two kids) and I was the one that ripped her tail for having been dumb and "fragile" enough to go through the marriage in the first place. It was ugly..UGLY...but she left me in there because she didn't think anyone else would look right and couldn't get a dress in time. Weird. Awkward. Turned out ok though - we're friends again now, even if I never get to see her.

Long story to say that there's maybe some hope. But you do get your space from here on out..so that's a good thing - everyone can be happy.

AW

Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 18, 09 19:32

Post #201 of 212 Views: 6957

In Reply To:

...I'll just go for a walk/go to the library/remove myself from the situation.

Sounds like a good excuse for a swim, to me. :-)

(Yes, I just stumbled onto this thread. No, I'm not a stalker.) ;-)

Ok, leaving the Womens forum now...

"100% of the people who confuse correlation and causation end up dying."

Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 19, 09 6:36

Post #202 of 212 Views: 6906

This reminds me of my experience freshman year in the dorms... My roommate and her bf we in love, he went to the univ 20 minutes north of us. She was drunk all the time and they were always at the dorm. Met with the RA to set up a roommate agreement about visitors. Didn't help, because she felt that they deserved to be together. One weekend I went home and she had a few friends over to drink in our room - my futon was broken, my bed was unmade, and the room was generally wrecked. I absolutely lost it on her, and she moved out over the next few days. I ended up with my own room. I was able to bunk the beds and put her desk and my fridge under the bottom bunk (I still slept on the top - I liked being up high)... made the room seem insanely big with less furniture in it, I definitely had the best room on the floor. I brought my bike and trainer out the next time I went home. This all happened first semester, so people were allowed to come meet me if they were looking to move out of their rooming situation. I made sure I came across as someone they would never want to live with :)

Enjoy the new freedom! Wish it would have happened earlier in the semester for you!

Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [swimlinz] [ In reply to ]

Mar 27, 09 2:11

Post #203 of 212 Views: 6680

Now what am I going to read down under. Can you get another roommate and continue the saga

Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [pine] [ In reply to ]

Mar 27, 09 7:51

Post #204 of 212 Views: 6642

Nope. I am enjoying my quiet!!! I pushed the two beds together so it's like having a queen sized one now. It's awesome!

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Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Mar 27, 09 10:13

Post #205 of 212 Views: 6618

Long twin + Long twin = king

Re: BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!!!! [brikins13] [ In reply to ]

Mar 27, 09 11:16

Post #206 of 212 Views: 6604

something like that

:D

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [DawnT] [ In reply to ]

Mar 31, 09 11:31

Post #207 of 212 Views: 6447

yeah - I ditto on the low blood sugar thing. I carry an extra bottle of water with me so I can choke down the cliff bar I always have on hand. I too will swim insane yardage and feel just fine in the shower and then---walking out the door I start to see things as if they are going sideways. My other secret weapon is a banana for those moments. Hope this helps.

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [Cathena] [ In reply to ]

Mar 31, 09 16:46

Post #208 of 212 Views: 6406

timely post; I forgot an after swim snack today and was SO hungry by the time my class got out.

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Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Apr 1, 09 12:03

Post #209 of 212 Views: 6310

I am glad you have your own room, but, I kinda miss them now. Can you call and ask what they are up to?

Re: So I finally kicked my roommate's boyfriend out... [mccannathon] [ In reply to ]

Apr 1, 09 12:23

Post #210 of 212 Views: 6305

LOL.

But no way :-)

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Re: She's engaged [tigerchik] [ In reply to ]

Apr 3, 09 0:54

Post #211 of 212 Views: 6190

In Reply To:

I think it's safe to say at this point I'm out of the wedding... :-)

and I was so looking forward to seeing you in that yellow dress :-)

Geez - I go away for a couple weeks and miss so much of the soap opera. Congrats on holding your ground and getting the room to yourself.

"Here's how you run a marathon. Step 1: You start running. Step 2: There is no step 2." - Barney (How I Met Your Mother)

Re: She's engaged [neil_laing] [ In reply to ]

Apr 3, 09 1:15

Post #212 of 212 Views: 6188

My other roommates are sweethearts. It is my birthday today - I just woke up - the entire apartment is decorated with balloons!

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