For us, recognizing the ages of our kids and assigning age-appropriate chores has been a big thing. But we also won't let it be an excuse for them doing poor quality work that they can do for their age. One of my 5.5 year old daughter's jobs is to clean our downstairs half bathroom weekly, but she often tries to get away without cleaning the base of the toilet or behind the sink faucet, so I call her out on it and take away privileges until she completes the job satisfactorily (no playing outside with friends, no treats, no screen time). She doesn't get punished for it, but taking away privileges is our message that we don't extend extra unnecessary things to those who don't participate in our family "team." When the job is complete and I do my inspection, I always praise her profusely for the nice work, and she runs off to tell her neighbor friends how she did a good job cleaning (and their parents look at use like "how the hell do you get your kids to clean?").
As our kids have grown we've extended more difficult chores. Hopefully within the year I'll be able to get the boy (9) to cook a meal once a week. He's still too small to operate the lawn mower, but that'll come. Both kids have their regular chores and both participate in helping with one-off projects, like yard clean up, garage clean out, cleaning up after we've had guests, etc.
AndysStrongAle wrote:
Good thread as we are trying to get our kids to do more (ages 5 and 2).
Besides cleaning up toys, we got the 5 year old putting some dishes away, got her to start shaving potatoes and carrots, and fold some laundry. The two year old is pretty much putting away toys. Any other ideas they can do??
I think the key is to acknowledging that they are going to do the quality of work a 5 year old or 2 year old can do and know it will take them much longer than you or not as good as you. Correct them them when they do it wrong or hasty but don't yell at them.