From your name, I thought you were a really fast girl...

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i thought you had a speedy moose knuckle?!?!

I picked up an S-Works tarmac last year to upgrade a Tarmac Expert... I thought she wouldn't tell the difference...

She saw it right away lol..

Try telling her your frame is cracked and they are replacing it for you. That should work.

It is very unsafe to ride with a cracked frame. I think you did the right thing. ;-)

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Try putting on the pants and telling her. You don't need to be sorry for anything.

Let us know how the black eye is afterward and how long she withholds sex.

Or you can try my solution. I got doored by a parked car not too long ago. Insurance covered the replacement of the road bike, and the cash settlement covered the new MTB. The accident could have been much worse than it was however. I don't really recommend this as a "Plan" per se.

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How do you know she is not?

I dunno, maybe you should have discussed it with her first. You know, that whole communication thing.

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I have the opposite problem. I have a crack in the frame of my 1994 Trek OCLV and I am loathe to give it up but husband is insisting on a proper tribike. Ugh.

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Because women don't need to say I am sorry...at least that is what my wife says.

True but how you know "she" is not fast? :)

Worry less about your wife and more about her lawyer.

My boss said sounds like she is getting diamonds for Christmas

I was worried about the same thing once and then my Dad said "man, she's not going to divorce you over a bicycle, just get the F-in bike."

Jesus, man, what are you 8? How about showing her some respect by being honest.

In my house, we have money to spend - sure - but we TALK to each other before any purchase over ~1k.

I guess you have tons of disposable income so it doesn't matter where you spend your money, which is also her money. Maybe next time ask her about where you want to spend her money.

Sorry but shit like this pisses me off. It comes off as incredibly disrespectful of your wife.

Rant off.

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 I hope you don't rant to your wife with that mouth mr. perfect... Ahhh give the guy a break, he just said the wife has a hard time with the other bike purchase(s). Sounds like you get pissed fast. Now I feel bad for your wife, geeze.

Anyway, fast beav, might as well tell her! Do something nice for her, take her out to a romantic dinner and buy her some flowers out of the blue and talk it over. You're probably feeling guilty for spending some money on another bike maybe. Hell I feel guilty spending anything over $200 dollars on myself. You gotta spend your hard earned money on you every once in a while. My wife made a deal with me telling me that if I put up crown moulding in the rooms she wanted, I could buy whatever bike I wanted (the moulding had been something she had been wanting to do to the house for a year or so). Man I never learned a trade so fast... You just gotta open the communication up and let her have an opinion about it even though you are going to get it anyway. Of course like they always say: Communication is key, especially about finances too. I doubt you're as disrespectful as easily offended mr. perfect over here but sometimes communication makes the other feel more at ease rather than dropping bombs on them about decisions you made by yourself. It's a team effort brother! Either way she'll get over it like the other post said, she ain't gonna divorce you over a bike. It just may take a week or a few days for her to realize that it's just a bike. Now on the other hand if you got crap you gotta take care of first that requires a little money and you're ignoring it and then buying a new bike then that's a different story.
Good luck with 'the talk'!

um....Andy is a womens

sorry. LOL! Well then... take all that is said and apply either gender as needed.

BIngo, the rest of your reply was spot on tho - if there's already resentment or unhappiness at these kinds of big purchases, then sit the f* down and talk about it first. Sometimes you just gotta say "honey I really want that bike and here's why..." but if they give you that "go f* yerself" look after you say that, then there are waaaay bigger problems. My SO wanted a new MTB. We had some cash come our way. We could have done a number of things with it, but I knew he really wanted one - so we talksed about it, and lo and behold he got one. But he sure didn't as hell go behind me and hide it from me.

Remember: these are just things.


Sometimes it has to be about the person and not the things.


Good luck to the OP.

AP

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What did you do for her first? Women are actually fairly simple, just put them first and they let you do/have whatever you want. BUT, you have to really do it - emotionally and secularly. IF you do that AND you can afford it, she will let you do whatever you want.

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My wife and I discuss any major purchase over $500 unless it comes to presents (plus she deals with the money anyway). You could always say the bike was for her but they shipped the wrong size and gosh darn it all it fits you perfectly.

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How would you feel if you discovered your wife had gone out and bought a $4K jacket and you only found out when one of her friends asked you "Don't you just love her new coat?"

This is more about honesty than finances.

Damn, I thought this was a thread about work bosses as I wanted to rant.....so going to rant anyway. My boss once asked me if I thought I was great because I did triathlons and if it meant I could take him in a fight.....this is a 50+ man! I did come very close to punching him straight in the face there and then and to this day think he's a total wanker.....

Thanks you for letting me have my rant.....carry on now

I've asked my sponsor (aka my wife) twice in advance if I could purchase a new bike after owning he first for less than two years. Both times she said yes although the deals fell through.

My wife is so happy I'm doing something constructive and good for my health that she fully supports mt tri's. When you consider what some guys do with their free time, racing tri's is a pretty good alternative.

I'm no expert in marriage but give your wife some credit. Discuss it first - hiding the purchase will not help.

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I would have agreed that I was in the wrong... I had already purchased her diamond earrings... Then our good friend and realtor shows up at the house. While I'm working today she is making an offer on 3800 sqft of owning my ass. Moral of the story... If you can't play with the big kids, stay off the court!

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this is a common problem. Here are some tricks I have learned over the years, especially getting away with multiple bikes:

- keep your bikes separate. for example if you have a garden shed or somewhere she never goes, keep most of them in there. Keep one or two bikes in the house and then rotate them as needed. That way she thinks you only have 2 bikes.
- when you buy a new bike, buy some accessories separately (for a few hundred bucks) and put that receipt in an obvious place. Then you tell your wife you've bought a new bike, but casually ask if she's seen the receipt for your bike anywhere. She will then help you find the one you planted, and to her relief you only spent a few hundred bucks. And rub some mud on your new bike so it looks old.
- components are easy wins. most wives don't notice new components unless they are REALLY avid cyclists themselves. So that new set of Zipp FC is an easy upgrade that should go unnoticed. Getting busted for buying a power meter is a schoolboy error - power meters should be the easiest thing to smuggle into your house... you should go and flog yourself on the back as punishment.

  
You have to hang around really sleazy guys, or at least be aware of the latest neighborhood gossip. Then you can say, "I know I shouldn't have bought this bike, but at least I'm not Bob. I mean, would you rather have me sleeping with the bartender? I mean, we're not gonna get an STD from this carbon frame, now are we?" Or, "Yea, it's $3K. But what about Paul and that DUI? That's gonna cost them at least $10K, before insurance." Then as a last resort, there's always "I'm just making myself better FOR YOU. Can't you see? It's all for you. Hell, I don't even like cycling. But I buy these bikes so that I can stay fit, and be a better spouse." Of course, you must be prepared for "He honey, remember that $5K bicycle you bought last week? Well, I'd like you to meet Fazio - our new Cabana Boy. I know we don't have a Cabana, but he's just so cute and I wanted one."

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Damn, that's a cold ass honkey.

I thought he said they are married.

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Stop worring about the wife/bike bullshite it sounds like you have a much bigger problem. You have no balls or backbone.

Dude, that's a piece of cake. Just show him a few pictures of pro triathletes. Then say: "Do any of these professional triathletes look like they'd be much challenge in a fight? Seriously. BUT - if you want to kick my ass, first you have to catch me..."

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I'm good friends with Andy's wife. She is one Fugly chick...

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Here's one guys solution to a situation similar to yours. Check it out at 5:45 or so. You might scale it back a little though.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vulNlhUI6m0

Sit her down and say "Honey, we need to talk. I have been sleeping with quite a few women over the past few months. I think one of them is pregnant and one of them gave me herpes (or aids, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc). Also, I have taken the kids college fund and been gambling on Division II Womens Field Hockey. I've lost everything. And remember that story in the news about the hit and run that killed that family - yep, I'm pretty sure it was me. I was so coked out of my mind that it took me about a week to realize that it was me."
When she shits her pants and calls her lawyer, then you say "Nah, just kidding. I bought a new bike last week." Makes spending a few grand on a toy much more palatable.

Nice Freelancer and Timbor!

I talk with my wife about it, but make sure I have a plan on where to get the money, bonuses, selling gear, Xmas, Bday, etc so that she knows I'm legit.

That aside, I say all the time:

"You can't put a price on health."

The reality is that exercise will save a lot of money in the long run. And that six pack won't hurt. Just make sure that you buy the bike at a reasonable price so you don't lose your pants if/when you need to resell it. There are lots of great used bikes for sale on the forums, eBay, etc. Be smart and use the bike when you get it. It helps to discuss it with her in advance, but every marriage is difference, so be wise.

Cheers and good luck. We're all rooting for you. We've all been in a similar situation.

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You guys make me feel good about my Mrs. I told her I really liked the new Cervelo P5 Six. After some discussion and making sure our finances were back in order after buying a new house (we close in two weeks)...she says "you handle the money. If you want it, and we can afford it...order it."

A little communication goes a long way. I handle the finances in our house. I'm lucky she doesn't ask for much. But I always make sure she knows where we stand financially so there's never a surprise to her.

I agree. This is more about honesty and commutation than it is about the bike. Talk openly and honestly. You might be surprised when you want something.