That might be the best solution for you. I have found that in the smaller groups, I felt a lot more accountable and I got more out of it. In the perfect world, you find a couple or three nice guys who are complete hammers and the whole thing is good competitive fun (no mercy, of course). The other part of it, and I think it might have been said before, but you can always get some miles in with the existing group on your easier days.
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This is the best advice so far. The more I read, the more I'm persuaded that the OP shares much if not most of the blame for whatever this problem is.
It's called social awareness. If conforming to the ride norms doesn't work for you, ride alone or find a group that better fits your style.
It’s these type of threads that make me happy i ride solo. Avoid the drama. I do realize not all group rides have drama but I hear a lot of bitching about issues in group rides.
This. My dad used to say - "if you're in a group and you don't know who the a**hole is, it's probably you."
In all seriousness, it sounds like the OP did some serious training over the winter and wants to air things out. Good for him, but he probably shouldn't ride with this group anymore. I gave up group riding in about 2010 - I still like all the guys I rode with then (mostly they're older and I know them from work), but I had started doing triathlons again and it just didn't work out. It may be a good solution for the OP to start his own "club," even if it is only a handful of riders. No reason for anyone to be a jerk about it, though.
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mwanner13 wrote:
This exactly. I’m already down to one weekly club ride, which was the Wednesday night hammer fest. At this point it almost seems like that ride isn’t going to benefit me very much anymore either. I’m better off doing my own thing or at least finding a couple riders of similar abilities that can make the rides fun, challenging and beneficial. I have some friends that I can get together with on the occasional weekend that are an hour away. PatMcNichol61 wrote:
mickison wrote:
lanierb wrote:
AlanShearer wrote:
Take a look in the mirror This is the best advice so far. The more I read, the more I'm persuaded that the OP shares much if not most of the blame for whatever this problem is.
It's called social awareness. If conforming to the ride norms doesn't work for you, ride alone or find a group that better fits your style.
It’s these type of threads that make me happy i ride solo. Avoid the drama. I do realize not all group rides have drama but I hear a lot of bitching about issues in group rides.
This. My dad used to say - "if you're in a group and you don't know who the a**hole is, it's probably you."
In all seriousness, it sounds like the OP did some serious training over the winter and wants to air things out. Good for him, but he probably shouldn't ride with this group anymore. I gave up group riding in about 2010 - I still like all the guys I rode with then (mostly they're older and I know them from work), but I had started doing triathlons again and it just didn't work out. It may be a good solution for the OP to start his own "club," even if it is only a handful of riders. No reason for anyone to be a jerk about it, though.
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PatMcNichol61: Apr 22, 19 12:04