Jeremy,

With all due respect, and IMHO, once we CHOOSE to be parents and affect the rights the children, we no longer have the right to be "angry/ugly parents" or cheating, or anything else. This just kills me!

Too many folks get married , have kids, and still have an eye on the exit door. How about commitment! Sure marraige is tough at times, but we owe it to the kids to make it work - no matter what! Of course I do realize that there are unavoidable rare exceptions, but statistics show that we are starting to make it the rule.

Having a healthy relationship with a spouse is a choice. I choose to make it work and to be happy....and to keep her happy...and to keep the kids in a happy family. This takes work - more work than an Ironman, but the rewards are great too. I say no excuses (other than the very rare exception).

It is all a matter of desire and attitude. Make our main goal in life to make our family unit a success and it will be. When we care about our spouse and kids more than ourself (or our bike) , there is hardly a way to fail.

david

Happily married dad and intend to stay that way!