This was in my email today. I thought it fit.
clm
Dr. Samuel Johnson once observed, “When grief is fresh, every attempt to divert it only irritates.” Whenever we learn someone is grieving the loss of a loved one, the temptation is to rush in, offer comforting words, and then try and divert another’s angst, as if this will somehow help. It probably does help the one reaching out, though often words alone may do little to assuage another’s sorrow. Not that words of comfort are unimportant but maybe it’s simply awareness that you care that carries greater import. A parishioner once told me that when his father died, his minister came to visit, sitting with him for an extended period before leaving without saying a word. “It was,” said the congregant, “among the most meaningful acts of ministry displayed during my grieving.” One of my three brothers recently died and while much comfort was received from the words of many, I can relate to one whose wise clergyperson came and simply sat. Sometimes our mere presence most eloquently states: someone cares. This, however expressed, is among the best gifts we can give those who mourn.
clm
Nashville, TN
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