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I got this off the New York Cyclist site--it's petty revolting. --tripoet

This morning Matt Lauer, on the "Today" show, interviewed a teary former Miss America (2000), the wife of the former Lt. Gov. of Kentucky. We were supposed to feel sympathy for HER because SHE, driving, hit and killed a cyclist, a German woman who was the mother of four.

Yeah, sure, Miss America expressed all the right sentiments for the killed cyclist, but the transcript may not reflect the full measure of Lauer's solicitiousness of her and her seeking sympathy for herself. Read it and retch.

RICHARD ROSENTHAL

From the Today Show on November 17, 2003...

MATT LAUER, co-host:

It has been quite a year for former Miss America Heather French Henry,
one she probably wouldn't wish on anyone else. French first gained
national attention when she was crowned Miss America back in 2000. Her
platform was America's war veterans. French then became one-half of a
power couple when she married Kentucky Lieutenant Governor Stephen Henry.
But last month tragedy. She was at the wheel of her SUV when she hit a
bicyclist, killing her.

Heather French Henry, good morning. Nice to have you here.

Ms. HEATHER FRENCH HENRY (Former Miss America): Good morning, Matt.
Thank you.

LAUER: I called and talked to your husband just a couple of days after
this happened. I think you were in the room...

Ms. HENRY: Right.

LAUER: ...and he said you were just unable to even talk. Give me an
idea of what these last couple of months have been like for you.

Ms. HENRY: It was almost impossible to talk about, especially the first
couple of weeks. And, you know, even now, getting to come out now, is
more to help others who've been through it, and more so to say thank you.
Thousands of letters and e-mails from peo--all around the world that
people have been through the same situation. And a gentleman from
Australia e-mailed me and said, `This happened to me. You don't know
me.' And then, of course, the veterans work that I had done, it was just
so ironic, you know, having helped veterans for so long, trying to live
with the aftermath of war and death...

LAUER: And trauma.

Ms. HENRY: ...and now--and trauma--and now a lot of those veterans are
helping me.

LAUER: Let's talk about it. It was October 12th.

Ms. HENRY: Right.

LAUER: And you're in your SUV. And you're at a light waiting to make a
turn. The light turns green. Take me from there.

Ms. HENRY: It--you know, the hardest thing to live with is seeing her
face, her hand in the air and her screaming, `No,' and trying everything
you can to avoid an unavoidable accident. And it replays through your
mind all the time. You know, you swerve the car to the right, because I
was fully aware that there were cars to the left, and I had my daughter
in the back, and it was--there was just no way to get around it. And
then you stop...

LAUER: So you made--you made this turn. She was on a bicycle.

Ms. HENRY: She--it darted out from...

LAUER: Outside the crosswalk.

Ms. HENRY: Right, mm-hmm.

LAUER: And from what I understand, there was a lot of sun glare on the
road.

Ms. HENRY: There was a lot, and not blinding sun I will say. But it
made me concentrate really hard. It's a very busy intersection. There
are six lanes of traffic going in and out of that area. And you're
always very aware of how much room you're taking in that turn, especially
in a truck with other cars there. And so I was paying very good
attention to where my car was actually going in that turn. And
when--it's just like when a child darts out in traffic to get a ball. I
mean, it's just--there's--your instinct is automatically, of course, to
swerve, but it was just--it was just no...

LAUER: You hit her with the center of the grill, basically. What did
you do immediately after?

Ms. HENRY: You know, I think I take a lot of strength from my mom. I am
very calm in those types of situations. But 20 minutes later I was not.
I immediately checked on my daughter and then got out of the car. And
luckily there was an off-duty EMS worker at the gas station, right there,
an off-duty doctor right there. And so they had already called 911. We
all convened over at--at Karola side. And then my husband--we live
literally less that a half mile from that scene, so he ran down within 30
seconds.

LAUER: He is a doctor, I should mention.

Ms. HENRY: A trauma doctor, so he's very used to these situations.

LAUER: What was your reaction when you got the word later that night
that she had died?

Ms. HENRY: Oh, I didn't hear that she had until I saw it on the news. I
mean, that--that was--excuse me, that was like one of the hardest parts
was not having that connection and then having to deal with the
second-hand information that just--just totally devastated my life, and
still does today, knowing that, you know, I will have to move on. I have
daughters that depend on me. I have a husband. I still will continue my
veterans work. And that really gives me a lot of hope.

LAUER: You've released a statement through your husband's office saying,
expressing your deep condolences to her family. Have you reached out in
any other way to her family? I understand most of her family is in
Germany?

Ms. HENRY: They are in Germany. And part of the hopes of coming on with
you and being on with others on national, I'm hoping that that family
hears that, you know, this was not an accident that I just walked away
from and just started my life over again.

LAUER: As a matter of fact, one of the things that I understand her
family--she has four children, is that right...

Ms. HENRY: She does. She did have four children.

LAUER: ...that sometimes her children are being told is--is, `Your mom
was killed by that beauty queen?'

Ms. HENRY: Right. That's what I have feared the most, and that
people--I mean people who know me and the work that I've done know that
I'm a very compassionate person towards humans. I mean, I value human
life so much. And I really want them to get that indication that I will
think about her and her family every single day, even though I don't
know...

LAUER: Why not just call? Why not--why not get in contact with her
family personally? Is there...

Ms. HENRY: We've been very...

LAUER: Are there legal reasons?

Ms. HENRY: ...you know, we've been very interested in that. And I just
don't think that either party we are really ready yet for that. I mean,
it's a struggle enough for me to get out of bed. I mean, there are
several projects that I do get to work on now to keep my mind off of the
accident. My kids and I had a children's book about Veterans Day and
those sorts of things have really kept me going. But, you know, on the
off moments, Matt, it's just--it's--it's devastating.

LAUER: You've said that people have reached out to you. People have
said, `You don't know me, but this happened to me.' Do you think, though,
Heather, that being somewhat high profile, the fact that you're a power
couple in Kentucky, has it made it more difficult for you being someone
who is in the public eye and then having something like this happen?

Ms. HENRY: Well, any time anything happens, you know, whether it's your
husband's prostate surgery, or your daughter's surgery, it makes it hard
to live in the public eye, but we understand in public life that's part
of it. We are obligated to the public that they are interested in what
happens to us. And one of the hopes is that people that this is--you
know, people who have been through this will find some comfort maybe
together just like the people who reached out to me. They--I am sure
they relived that. When they e-mailed me, they relived their situation.
And what's strange is that it actually happens more often than you think,
but it's just not on the news quite as often. So we've had best friends
that it has happened to. We didn't even know.

LAUER: Again, I know while--while it's been devastating to your family,
your thoughts are also with this...

Ms. HENRY: Absolutely.

LAUER: ...this woman's family in Germany. And I appreciate you coming
on and talking to us about it?

Ms. HENRY: Thank you. And this will probably, you know--I am trying to
slow everything down now, so it's nice to be on with you. It's still
very hard to talk about.

LAUER: I appreciate it. Thanks, Heather.

Ms. HENRY: Thanks.

LAUER: It's 46 after the hour. We're back right after this.
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Re: Prepare to retch [tripoet] [ In reply to ]
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Those damn evil cyclists. At least she will now be better able to connect to veterans who have survived the aftermath of war.

I'm going to start an on-line support group for motorists who are trying to put their lives back together after having evil cyclists come out of nowhere and wind up smack in the middle of their grills...
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Re: Prepare to retch [tripoet] [ In reply to ]
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As a few of you may know, my best friend of 22 years, Michael R. Rabe, was killed on May 2, 2002 by a 22 year old female driving on a suspended license after using alcohol and marijuana while operating a vehicle (at night) with defective lights and a dirty windshield. She had her two children in the car.

I have often wanted to speak to this woman. I would tell her something very close to this:

"I hope you are OK. The accident you were in killed my best friend Michael R. Rabe. I was closer to him and spent more time with him than any other person in my life. He and I are odd individuals with unusual personalities and interests, and we were very much alike. I know that I will never find another friend like him. I also know that I have been very, vry fortunate to have a friend like Michael R. Rabe as long as I did. Most people are never that fortunate in their lives. I told Michael R. Rabe how important he was to me and how much I admired him on a number of occasions before his accident, so I have no regrets about that. I am terribly sorry for the things that have happened to you, not only this awful accident but also the other misfortunes you have suffered in your life that brought you to this point. You are young and have two children. This is a tremendous opportunity and turning point for you. Something good can from this if you look at it hard on your own and deicde to make changes that will avoid this type of thing in the future and enable you to be a more responsible person in society and a better mother and example to your children. This is a good place to start. I miss my friend very, very much every single day without a single exception. I think you may be able to appreciate that, most people can who lost someone they love. But I am not angry with you. I feel bad for you and I feel sorry that you were connected with this man losing his life. I hope you do begin to make better decisions and your life improves- for you and your children. That is exactly the outcome Michael R. Rabe would prefer and also what I would prefer. If you have ever thought that the people left behind by Mike hated you or are angry with please do not concern yourself with that. Speaking for myself, I have never been and I am not now. Selfishly, I think I have only had time to miss my friend and haven;t devoted much thought to anything else. So I am not mad at you. I just want things to be better for you."

And that is what I would say to the woman who killed my best friend.

Tom Demerly
The Tri Shop.com
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Re: Prepare to retch [tripoet] [ In reply to ]
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Great News! I just got off the phone with my agent. I have the exclusive rights to pen "American Survior: The Heather French Henry Story" It will be a moving account of Ms. Henry's life in the tragic aftermath of being attacked by an evil cyclist. We are negotiating for a two hour network movie deal as I type this.

Brett
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Re: Prepare to retch [timberwolf] [ In reply to ]
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I think what this lady is trying to say is that killing someone, either intentionally, culpably, or not, has a tremendous emotional and psychological impact if you have a conscience. That is, unless you are like Mr. Pastore in Tampa who just says, "Too bad. Accidents happen." I consider myself a good driver, but have had some close calls. I have had friends killed in wrecks, and I have had friends who killed others in wrecks. I wouldn't want to be on either end of the situation. There but for the grace of God...
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Re: Prepare to retch [tri_bri2] [ In reply to ]
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>>: I think what this lady is trying to say is that killing someone, either intentionally, culpably, or not, has a tremendous emotional and psychological impact if you have a conscience.<<

I would disagree. I actually saw the interview and it was all about her--me this, me that. No seemingly remorse for the victim. The feeling I took from it is that the interview was a way for French to assuage her guilt.

clm
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Re: Prepare to retch [ironclm] [ In reply to ]
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I didn't have the same take on the subject as you did until the end when she said she had not spoken to the woman's relatives. Then I thought that, maybe, she had been advised not to by counsel. I thought Lauer steered the inteview in the direction of the defense of Mrs. French.
I don't know if I have seen enough of the particulars of the accident to come to any conclusion.

Bob Sigerson
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I saw the interview, too, and like Cathy, I took it to be all about "poor me, all that I have gone through". It seemed as if Matt, at times, tried to steer the interview in a way to give her an opening to apologise, or at least express some sort of remorse, but her response was always about herself. Her only apology, to date, has been an official statement through her husband's office. Pretty cold. It's been over a month and she has yet to reach out to her victim's family, even to say, "I'm sorry...it was really an accident...I wish there was something I could do".

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With an eye towards fairness [tripoet] [ In reply to ]
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Where as I do find the focus on the killer to be a bit disturbing, what were the circumstances of the collision?

Was she making a left in front of the bike? Did the cyclist have the right of way?

Both collisions I have been involved with on my bike versus a car, I had the right of way. This means something to me. When I am on the road, I am a vehicle and I am bound to the same laws as cars. If I break those laws and get hurt, I have no one to blame but myself. If however, I am dismissed as "just a bike" by someone in a car and I am injured or they break the law, I have every right to be upset.

Let's not persecute someone without a full understanding of the facts.

Craig
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Re: With an eye towards fairness [craigwsullivan] [ In reply to ]
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The details have never been clearly explained. It smells to me. All we know is that she didn't receive a ticket. Well, a lieutenant governor's wife not receiving a ticket when in an accident is nothing new.

Matt's statement about the crosswalk reinforces my opinion of him a s dim bulb. In many place sit a gainst the law to ride a bike in a cross walk. That's one thing.

The other thing tha really bothers me is that we have never been told the facts of the case. We know she was turning left, that's it. We don't know where the bike came from, whether the bike ran a redlight or anything.

The basic question of who had the right of way has always remained unstated.
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Re: With an eye towards fairness [Kevin in MD] [ In reply to ]
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If this was an accident involving a fatality, I would expect that a police/accident report would have to be filed. Wouldn't that report be in the public domain?

Craig
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Re: With an eye towards fairness [Kevin in MD] [ In reply to ]
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I seem to remember reading a news story indicating that the cyclist was crossing against the light, and did not have the right of way. I'll see if I can find it, and post the link.
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Re: Prepare to retch [tripoet] [ In reply to ]
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I'm always amazed, at the perception on this forum, that the driver of any car that involve in an accident with a bike is a scum-bag piece of garbage. Do you think she tried to hit the bike? Do you think she feels good about it? Of course not. It's nice to know the facts before we crawl up their rear.
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Re: Prepare to retch [jack m] [ In reply to ]
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[reply]I'm always amazed, at the perception on this forum, that the driver of any car that involve in an accident with a bike is a scum-bag piece of garbage. Do you think she tried to hit the bike? Do you think she feels good about it? Of course not. It's nice to know the facts before we crawl up their rear.[/reply]

I don't think the discussion has anything to do with this. It is the fact that Mrs Henry has taken on the role of victim, after taking the life of another person, that strikes me. It sounds like a tragic accident and apparently no one was really at fault, but the fact that she is on a self centered publicity campaign strikes me as just plain wrong. A Yahoo search turns up many media reports (all quite vague) on the accident, where her primary statement was that the sun was in her eyes...no real details of just what happened. More disturbing, I see that during the last week or so she has been doing a whirlwind media tour....Oprah, Today, Fox News, GMK...no doubt further expressing her victimization and the ill effects on HER life after the accident. The media blitz may bring some attention to cyclists on the road, but it sure would look better if she would stop the "poor, poor, pitiful me" routine and take a little responsibility for the death of another and have the respect to reach out to the family of her victim.

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Re: Prepare to retch [jack m] [ In reply to ]
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Agreed.
From a story on thelouisvillechannel.com:
A police spokeswoman said the bicyclist was crossing against a traffic light and was not in a crosswalk when she was struck, NewsChannel 32 reported.

"The bicyclists, as they were crossing on their bicycles, did not have the light at the time," Metro police spokeswoman Alicia Smiley said. "They were crossing against the light at the time." Smiley added that the victim was not wearing a helmet.
Emphasis added
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Re: Prepare to retch [tripoet] [ In reply to ]
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The title is misleading. I though you guys where talking about one of my posts.

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Re: Prepare to retch [andrew] [ In reply to ]
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I agree with Andrew.

Up to this point, I have been inclined to be somewhat sympathetic toward her. I would definitely sympathize with anyone who, without fault, caused a fatality. Also, I can easily imagine circumstances in which a cyclist was at fault in an accident with a car (I can't believe some of the riding behaviors I see-- usually from non-serious cyclists). Anyway, without detailed desciptions of the crash circumstances, it would be hasty to judge her fault in the accident.

However, assessing her blame in the accident was not the purpose of (most of) the thread. As with a number of the posters, I do think it is appropriate to question her motives for making this and any other television appearances related to the accident. I saw a portion of the interview the other day and couldn't figure out why she was on camera at all. She had nothing related or unrelated to promote (i.e., a victim's family support fund or a safe cycling program; or some other unrelated thing would have justified her presence). As such, it appeared that she was there to do nothing more than tell *her* story to a sympathetic audience, which is pathetic and self-serving. Also, given that she was there for that purpose only, her apparent lack of concern/care for the victim was pretty sickening.
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