wintershade wrote:
What's worked for me on the long ride is I wake up at 7am Saturdays to take care of the kiddo while my wife sleeps in, often until around 10am. I make her breakfast, do chores for her with our son, etc. Do stuff to make her life easier.
You sir are a genius! Wish I had seen this years ago.
When I started triathlon training my son was 2 the first year or so was rough on my marriage, at one point my wife was seriously considering divorce.
What's worked for me:
1. Shorter distance. I'm not even thinking about 1/2 or full distance until the kids are older and self sufficient. We'll see then.
2. As others have said, try to make it as invisible as possible.
3. If it's not invisible, make the family part of it.
I swear one of the best pieces of equipment I've bought was a kid carrier to go behind my bike. Tell your wife your going to take the kid for a couple hours on a Saturday morning? She'll practically push you out the door. Better yet, invite her with you. Now it's not just training time, but time your spending with your kid. Your coffee stop becomes a park, play time stop. And your kid is seeing a healthy active lifestyle. It's been awesome watching him go from carrier, to third wheel, to now he rides his bike while I run. I'm hoping someday he'll be running with me and probably kicking my butt. =)
My wife's thing is HIIT style workouts, so once or twice a week I do a session with her as my strength training. (I'm pretty sure she gets a kick out of kicking my ass) Lately she's started running, so we plan to do at least one run together per week, her long run = my easy run (though she's catching up fast). And we're looking for a HM to do together this spring.
Triathlon will always be there. If you don't make them a priority, I can't promise the same for your family.