I am having an issue with a friend of mine. I have known her since I moved to this area, and for a few years things were good - we were comfortable with each other, had fun, etc. Recently, things have been getting kind of crappy. She has very low self-esteem, which affects her a lot. So when she said that she wanted to get fit and lose some weight, I was really happy because I could help her out (which she said was good for her). Unfortunately, she is all talk and no action. She began ditching out on our workouts right away, and it has been months and she has not made any changes even though I was trying to help her. I was careful to not be too overbearing and not push her if she wasn't ready, because I know it has to be her choice, not mine. I only wanted to be a good friend and support her - thinking that it would be good for both of us to have a workout buddy. But now that she has not followed through on what she had initially asked for my help/advice with, I am finding that I'm annoyed with her and don't want to hang out with her. I think I have a problem with the fact that she stood me up so many times and that she doesn't put her money where her mouth is. And I think I'm really disappointed that I "lost" a training buddy - even though I never really had her in the first place. I think that living an active lifestyle is really important and it really bugs me when someone can't follow through on stuff. I know I can't control what she chooses to do, but I feel really emotional about the whole situation. I feel like an ass because I don't know how to get past it and it seems like a bad reason to ditch a friend.
Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do?
Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do?