Britri1984 wrote:
My wife is due with our second child in early Dec. Realistically, my time to train will be drastically reduced. Races i am considering - IM Maryland, a few local marathons, or do i just enjoy this time to load up on sleep and rest. Curious to hear if other ppl had similar situations
worth noting, i am not dying to go out and train for another IM, its just the "i wish i raced once more" regret i am trying to avoid..
I have nine children, aged 2-22, so all of the triathlon training I have ever done has been in the context of having young kids around the house. It can be done and does not need to involve any real sacrifice of family time. Kids are demanding, but not as demanding as some people would have you believe and a day has a lot of hours in it if you are willing to be creative and flexible.
A few things that worked for me:
1. split training into smaller chunks - I found it way easier to fit two one-hour workouts into a day than find one two-hour slot. Some days I do three 30-minute "workouts" because that's what fits. If you get into the mind-set of "some is better than nothing" you will set yourself up for success.
2. line your sleep hours up with your kids' - I go bed earlier than I did before having children and sleep 10-5.30. This gives me an hour to 90 minutes in the morning before the kids are up.
3. train at lunch time - this gets me 5 x 40 minutes every week.
4. accept that your training (especially for IM) will be "less than optimal" but that that's okay. I've done three IMs off the back of consistent 90 minute rides with an occasional long ride when an opportunity came up. I've never been able to schedule a "weekly long ride" but have been able to fake it on race day.
5. bike/run to work whenever you can.
6. get the family involved - my long run usually involves some of my kids riding their bikes with me; when I lake swim, I take the whole family to the lake as well (etc.), most of my yoga involves at least one of my kids jumping on my back (which deepens the stretch for sure).
7. have fun with it - when I train it makes me happy and calm, when I'm happy and calm, I'm a nicer person.
8. make sure your partner also has their own "thing" - whatever it is your partner enjoys, make sure they get to do that on a regular basis as well.
Overall, it's about priorities. If triathlon training is important to you, then you can and should find the time for it. Being a good parent does not mean giving up all of the things that you enjoy doing (that just leads to bitterness). If training makes you happy, then that will make you a far better parent (more patient, calmer, more fun).