I would just apologize to her and tell her you were having so much fun with her, you lost track of your drinking... and that never happened before. Don’t apologize more than once. Then, ask her out again. On this date, watch your drinks.

I would do that - with one exception. Don't tell her that "it never happened before". This is one instance where telling her she's the "only one this has happened with" will not make her feel special. Everything else is spot on, though.

I would also recommend adding rhino horn, tiger penis, bear paw and shark fin soup to your diet.

This happened to me when I was as dating no my wife. Stopping to put on protection threw everything off. But she liked me enough to keep me around and after a short period of time it went away. It was horrible though, so much anxiety.

Option a: go all in on the next date knowing that it’s do or die. Positive psychology, you’re a hero.

Option b: move on now because it isn’t meant to be. The anxiety of it happening again will probably make it happen again

Option c: put the blame on her. If you go out again, ask her to make a movement or a sound once in a while when you’re pleasuring her because you thought she was dead, thus the flaccid performance. (Don’t do option c, but seriously that would throw me off too)

There are days it doesn't happen and days it does. Most of that is tied to alcohol consumption, at a certain point of alcohol you seem to get additional stamina, but much past that and you get limpness.

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Washed up footy player turned Triathlete.

If you're not able to shake it off, I would recommend going to see a counselor. Otherwise, you'll probably end up with anxiety around intimacy.

Where is Duffy when you need him?

I'm 100% sure it's alcohol related, combined with the fact it was the first time with her. I'm not worried about it being a problem long term, but round 2, it will be playing on my mind for sure. I've popped to the doctors and got a prescription for a Cialis. It's like Viagra. I'm not gonna spank the monkey for a days, so she should be apples. Although that might produce another problem haha.

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"100% of the people who confuse correlation and causation end up dying."

Just a bit more advice. Instead of paying the crazy money for Viagra/Cialis - get them to prescribe Revatio or Seldanfil 20mg. Then get a coupon from GoodRX for it. You'll end up paying about 50 cents per 20mg pill. It is the same thing as Viagra, just 20mg instead of 100mg at a fraction of the cost.

One 20mg pill works for me though I usually take 2 for extra staying power.

I'm in Australia champ. Not sure about those drugs or discount coupons. Defo no Goodrx here.

Two surefire cures for this:

1) Be 18. A priapic, testosterone-fuelled teenager.

or

2) Be late-40's, married forever with lots of kids and have sex so infrequently that you basically never get a chance to care about it anymore and you go play on your bike instead.




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And here I am thinking its only my wife that is so damn quiet.
I do get the odd "that feels nice" when she's close, but other than that, nope.

My first wife was very quiet. My second wife . . . not so much. Guess which one I prefer . . . .

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''The enemy isn't conservatism. The enemy isn't liberalism. The enemy is bulls**t.''

—Lars-Erik Nelson

The first?? :-)
Here's the thing though, generally I have to stick a pillow over her head because she's so damn vocal, except when Im going down on her.
Its like she's deep in thought to something...