My mom. 75 y.o. Widowed 12 years, lives alone. Lifelong athlete, and still fitter than most 30 y.os. Super mentally sharp.
Over the past year or so she's changed drastically. Gained 30 pounds or so. (though still fitter than 99% of 75 y.o.s) Become withdrawn, often doesn't respond to my calls or texts. My sister thinks her house has become a mess because our mom refuses to have us over, presumably because of embarrassment. At a recent family event I caught her watching movies on her phone at odd times (when she should be talking with people) - something she's opposed to. She refused to let us have a TV growing up. She's become sort of angry, always making sarcastic comments.
She's insanely prideful. She angrily retreats from any discussion of health, particularly mental health. She historically sort of views people with depression as weak, and people who aren't fit as lazy. She does not like advice from her children.
I'm torn between using the tactics of just giving her continual positive nudges in the right direction or directly confronting her and reading her the riot act, even if she stops speaking to me for six months or something.
How is this handled?
Over the past year or so she's changed drastically. Gained 30 pounds or so. (though still fitter than 99% of 75 y.o.s) Become withdrawn, often doesn't respond to my calls or texts. My sister thinks her house has become a mess because our mom refuses to have us over, presumably because of embarrassment. At a recent family event I caught her watching movies on her phone at odd times (when she should be talking with people) - something she's opposed to. She refused to let us have a TV growing up. She's become sort of angry, always making sarcastic comments.
She's insanely prideful. She angrily retreats from any discussion of health, particularly mental health. She historically sort of views people with depression as weak, and people who aren't fit as lazy. She does not like advice from her children.
I'm torn between using the tactics of just giving her continual positive nudges in the right direction or directly confronting her and reading her the riot act, even if she stops speaking to me for six months or something.
How is this handled?