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In 2014, Lucy donated a kidney to her brother. They have both been doing really good and he is enjoying his second chance at life with a vigor. Which makes Lucy very happy.

Here's the kicker, part of that vigor is him sending us gifts all the time. They are well thought out and very nice so that's not the problem. The last gift was a box from one of those steak places with all kinds of steaks, so like I said, nice gifts.

Lucy tells him to stop and he tells her not to tell him what to do with his second chance at life, that she gave him. We are grateful, but he can't work and the gifts aren't cheap.

Do we shut up and just thank him, or beg him to stop, he's thanked her enough?

"When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace." Jimi Hendrix
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Re: The impossible question [Nova] [ In reply to ]
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Giving to others is one of life's most rewarding choices. The gift giving fulfills his needs. Assuming there is no significant financial risk to him - accept graciously and enjoy. It's a wonderful "problem."
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Re: The impossible question [Nova] [ In reply to ]
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It is great that he shows gratitude. Does he live near the two of you? If so, since money may be tight for him - ask him to come help around your house instead of buying things. Tell him that you would be able to enjoy his gratitude more if you didn't feel guilty about it depriving him of needed resources, and ask him if he could help prune some bushes or watch the dogs while you and Lucy go out.
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Re: The impossible question [rick_pcfl] [ In reply to ]
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rick_pcfl wrote:
It is great that he shows gratitude. Does he live near the two of you? If so, since money may be tight for him - ask him to come help around your house instead of buying things. Tell him that you would be able to enjoy his gratitude more if you didn't feel guilty about it depriving him of needed resources, and ask him if he could help prune some bushes or watch the dogs while you and Lucy go out.

I would love that idea, but he lives in NY and I live in S Florida. We have sent him tickets to come down and stay with us in the past, I think it's time for another set. Thanks for the insight.

"When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace." Jimi Hendrix
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Re: The impossible question [Nova] [ In reply to ]
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You've been ensnared by gift-giving protocol:



Seriously, I think all you can do is just to say thank you, and maybe remind him that such gifts aren't really necessary.


"100% of the people who confuse correlation and causation end up dying."
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Re: The impossible question [MOP_Mike] [ In reply to ]
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MOP_Mike wrote:
You've been ensnared by gift-giving protocol:



Seriously, I think all you can do is just to say thank you, and maybe remind him that such gifts aren't really necessary.

Hahaha.

Do I have to give him another kidney?

"When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace." Jimi Hendrix
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