Saying nothing would be a better response (in this case) obviously not all people/situations are the same.

Basically she uses social media to get external validation that she shouldn't need (ie - if she worked on her issues and had genuine self esteem she wouldn't be reliant on other people to tell her she's awesome, cause she'd already know). It just sets her up for these downward spirals where she looks externally instead of just solving her problems, but she never actually gets "happy". All the external validation does is drive her to seek it more often - for the temporary high.

Even worse one of my brothers and his wife used Facebook like they were emailing or texting back and forth to one another. I had to hide them so I didn’t see it anymore.

Not gonna lie, this is me lately. I have been going through a tough family situation for the last few months and when I get on FB it puts me down further. I continually see happy, vacationing families having the times of their lives and looking tanned and care free. It's childish to compare that to my current situation but honestly it does make me little sad.

The worst posts are the family that takes about 6 vacations a summer to exotic places and takes 20 pictures everyday. Then each time a person comments how beautiful the family is and how much they love them, the mom of said family post back "thanks" so it shows up on the top of my feed each time she comments. So I get the same pictures of them about fifty thousand times at the top of my feed.

I do like the family and they are great people, but seeing others living a great life while you are going through the valley of sorrow is not always easy.

Unfollow them. They are still your "friend" and you can go look at their posts whenever you want, but it won't show up in your newsfeed. Instagram has this now too, theirs is called "mute".

Sorry things are tough right now.

Or another option,...if visiting Facebook makes you depressed, just don't visit Facebook.

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It doesn’t depress so much as it makes me think that all my friends are idiots.

I don’t visit much these days. Deleted the app from my phone.

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How does Danny Hart sit down with balls that big?

Ha ha I know.

I lost a sock in the dryer. After a few more loads and not finding its mate, I threw it away. A week later, I found the lost one between the washer and dryer. I blame the liberals.

You know what else? It’s messed up that I’m old enough to be bald and have a fair amount of white beard, but I still get zits. I blame white people.

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It's like being bipolar in opinion is a requirement around here. -TripleThreat

i'm more reluctant now to post vacation or any "look at my amazing life" pics. With FB especially it seems people are over the novelty. Seeing the same faces in the same situations every year is like "oh yeah, you again." It's fun to see the kids grow up though.

Tip -- you remove yourself from a post's updates by clicking on the three black buttons upper right and "unfollow this post". It's a lifesaver when the whole world piles on.

One last thing, I've got a friend who constantly posts on her husband as the hero of her life. She's one of the most positive people I know, and think she manages it by constantly affirming her blessings. Like self-hypnosis.

I keep thinking facebook is a criminals fantasy. Knowing when people are gone and if they have pets.

It sucks when things gang up on you all at once. I hope it gets better for you.

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They constantly try to escape from the darkness outside and within
Dreaming of systems so perfect that no one will need to be good T.S. Eliot

I should go gush to my wife right now how glad I am she's not (nor ever has been) a FBer ~ except since neither of us does FB I don't have anywhere else but here in the LR to shout it from the mountaintops...

...Although the other day I was visiting an old friend whilst he was house/pet-sitting for some neighbors I don't know, and I happened to see on the fridge they have completely pasted all over with weeks(?) worth of little post-it notes they've apparently left for each other how much they love the other and/or "You Go, Girl!"-type posts how much they're "crushing it" at work/life/etc.

Gotta say it seemed real shallow & weird, but I guess if it works for them...? Although, my buddy told me it was marriage #2 for each of them, so that sorta made them seem more needy to me.

It sucks when things gang up on you all at once. I hope it gets better for you.

Thank you. This has really been a hard one-two punch! Just taking it one day at a time! Staying centered. Enjoying the small things each day.

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I saw a social media post (ironic, I know) that summed up the platforms pretty well:

Facebook: "Look at how awesome my life's highlights are!"
Instagram: "Look at my kids/food/pets!"
Twitter: "WE'RE ALL GONNA DIE!!!"

Of them all, Twitter is the absolute worst.

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