After looking at the whole thread about a man getting concerned about his girlfriend hiring the strippers for a hen night/divorce party/retirement party/milestone birthday/let's hire strippers for the hell of it night/etc., I have taken this problem to the laboratory and the field. I have over three hundred subjects that I can survey.
Here is what I have found:
a) Both men and women like to see strippers. This only applies if the people participating in the ritual are not objected to it from a moral/religious point of view, or if the stripper is reasonably attractive.
b) Women get turned on by strippers just like men, they just don't admit to it. I don't care what any of you say, just admit it. I talk to a variety of people, and know their deepest secrets and peope level with me because they see me as a non-judgmental person. Yes, it has been admitted to me several times.
c) Some men and women just can't bear the thought of their significant other seeing someone else naked, getting turned on by someone else, having someone else tease them sexually, rub their naked body all over them, or stuff dollar (or bigger denominations) down a G-string. Face it, we all fantasise about someone else, just a stripper is a real live person making the fantasy a bit more real. Get a little self-confidence, go see some strippers yourself.
d) Most people see a party with strippers as good, clean fun. It is, plain and simple. I have only heard tall tales about sexual things happening at stag nights, etc.; I plain think that those are JUST tall tales.
e) I will admit that women hire strippers to sometimes embarass their guest of honour, but they also can't wait to see him in his G. The only time it's truly for laughs only if it is an ugly strip-o-gramme.
I will admit that (at one time) I had a little thing about the women in my life seeing strippers. I only thought that single and newly divorcing people should see them. My ex forbade me from going to stag nights or even getting an issue of Playboy, so I had thought that was the way it was between marrieds.
But after analising this myself, I have become a changed person. I don't particularly want to see a hen hight myself, but it's okay to me for my wife to see them as she has no jealousy issues with me going to a strip club myself. She has no issue with me looking at Playboy magazine, going to nudie bars, or renting pornographic videos. She has even taken me to a strip club to show me that it's okay. She even got a good laugh out of the way that the dancers fawn over me while I am there, and had an even bigger laugh when she bought me a table dance. I know that even though I do not have a 52" chest and a 26" waist, I am really the only one that she wants. She knows that even though I frequently watch one dancer that can put her legs behind her head, I only want my wife. I don't care that there is a hawaiian who has long, dark hair and very large arms that she has stuffed multiple dollar bills down his draws. She don't care about me going to the Hustler Club to see an adult film star's show. It is all cool. And when we go to a strip club where there are both men and women stripping, we have a fantastic night when we get home.
The end result of my research: get looser about the strippers, go see a few, but don't become a VIP like I have. I could buy a Colnago C-50 with full Record and ADA wheels for what I have spent to become a VIP (just kidding- I am not a VIP). It's a good thing.
Here is what I have found:
a) Both men and women like to see strippers. This only applies if the people participating in the ritual are not objected to it from a moral/religious point of view, or if the stripper is reasonably attractive.
b) Women get turned on by strippers just like men, they just don't admit to it. I don't care what any of you say, just admit it. I talk to a variety of people, and know their deepest secrets and peope level with me because they see me as a non-judgmental person. Yes, it has been admitted to me several times.
c) Some men and women just can't bear the thought of their significant other seeing someone else naked, getting turned on by someone else, having someone else tease them sexually, rub their naked body all over them, or stuff dollar (or bigger denominations) down a G-string. Face it, we all fantasise about someone else, just a stripper is a real live person making the fantasy a bit more real. Get a little self-confidence, go see some strippers yourself.
d) Most people see a party with strippers as good, clean fun. It is, plain and simple. I have only heard tall tales about sexual things happening at stag nights, etc.; I plain think that those are JUST tall tales.
e) I will admit that women hire strippers to sometimes embarass their guest of honour, but they also can't wait to see him in his G. The only time it's truly for laughs only if it is an ugly strip-o-gramme.
I will admit that (at one time) I had a little thing about the women in my life seeing strippers. I only thought that single and newly divorcing people should see them. My ex forbade me from going to stag nights or even getting an issue of Playboy, so I had thought that was the way it was between marrieds.
But after analising this myself, I have become a changed person. I don't particularly want to see a hen hight myself, but it's okay to me for my wife to see them as she has no jealousy issues with me going to a strip club myself. She has no issue with me looking at Playboy magazine, going to nudie bars, or renting pornographic videos. She has even taken me to a strip club to show me that it's okay. She even got a good laugh out of the way that the dancers fawn over me while I am there, and had an even bigger laugh when she bought me a table dance. I know that even though I do not have a 52" chest and a 26" waist, I am really the only one that she wants. She knows that even though I frequently watch one dancer that can put her legs behind her head, I only want my wife. I don't care that there is a hawaiian who has long, dark hair and very large arms that she has stuffed multiple dollar bills down his draws. She don't care about me going to the Hustler Club to see an adult film star's show. It is all cool. And when we go to a strip club where there are both men and women stripping, we have a fantastic night when we get home.
The end result of my research: get looser about the strippers, go see a few, but don't become a VIP like I have. I could buy a Colnago C-50 with full Record and ADA wheels for what I have spent to become a VIP (just kidding- I am not a VIP). It's a good thing.