philly1x wrote:
LuchaLibre wrote:
So question would be:
1) Name some challenges and benefits depending on which one you are in
2) If you were single again - would you be looking for the other now that you know what one is like (grass greener theory)
The wife does the same as I: swim/bike/run/row.
I could not imagine—dating, let alone—living with anyone who does not seriously train and compete in some sport. Doing the same sports just makes things a lot easier. We train together (maybe same location, sometimes the same workout) 50-75% of the time.
Down side: two (or four or eight) of everything gets expensive. But no kids makes it manageable. :)
This is just about me, minus the rowing.
If I were single, I don't know that I'd be on the hunt for an athlete, but I bet I'd find one just because the social stuff I'd be doing is going to the gym, racing, playing on co-ed adult teams, etc.
I think the best part of having a triathlete wife is the training. First, we can ride together indoors, do our longer runs together, and go to the pool at the same time. However, the most important thing is likely zero tension around training time. We both understand that we need to get in our training so we compromise very easily to allow the other to get in good work. My best example was when I was training for IM, I was doing a lot of indoor riding, but a tri-club I knew was doing an all-women Mother's Day long ride. I needed some outside time but really didn't know the good areas to ride so the ladies on this ride invited me. Spending Mother's Day riding your bike with other women is not something that likely passes in many marriages. My wife, however, pushed me to join the ride.
Like Phillly 1x said, the biggest downside is the cost. We upgraded to tri-bikes last year. If it was one or the other of us to upgrade, we probably would have gone P5. But we settled on two P2s due to cost. We could have swung the P5s, but having two bikes worth more than our cars seemed excessive!
Lastly, there has been more than one occasion that I've had a long work day, maybe flying across the country at 7AM for a meeting and getting home at 10PM exhausted. All I want to do is crash on the couch. But, my wife is there either motivating me or many times we've made a "date" to ride the trainers together when I get home. If I bag my session, I leave her hanging so I always find the energy.