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Lol. Thanks for the kind words and HTFU's everyone. Looks like I need to get my ass up and moving again.

I just went through this in an epic way. 15 year marriage ended. I got severely depressed and didn't do any training for months. Couldn't get out of bed.

What got me moving is:

1. After dropping 10+% of my body weight in the first two months I gained all back + 15 lbs.
2. Stood on the scale at the gym and got my bf% taken and I was absolutely horrified.
3. Realizing my life is contining to move forward with our without me so I might as well engage and participate.
4. Finally getting in touch with all the big goals I've had for years but had died out over the last 2 or 3 years.
5. I missed being an athlete.

My advice for getting moving again:

1. Wallow. You will get advice of the opposite, as has already happened, but it is fine to mourn the relationship. How you mourn it is personal. Respect the process.
2. Write down your training schedule starting next week and hang it up where you can see it. This gives you a timeline to get moving again. This doesn't mean you are "over" the relationship but it does mean you will get moving again. Too much time off and you will bigtime regret it. Use me as an example of it.
3. Hang up an IM poster or picture from FL on your wall. Visualization is very helpful. I'm gathering posters for my big goals as well.
4. Starting Monday keep your training stuff by the front door. Pick it up on the way out and put it in your car. That can be half the battle.
5. Commit to 15 minutes of activity. Once you get going it is easier to commit to the whole workout.

My new mantra is: I rarely regret going for a run but I almost always regret not going for one. It has gotten me off the couch and out the door at 8:30 pm.

Good luck to you. You will get your mojo back, it just takes some time and a commitment to do it.

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"In order to keep a true perspective on one's importance, everyone should have a dog that worships him and a cat that will ignore him." - Dereke Bruce

OH gawd... I sympathize. I remember the last time. It sucks. As much as you rationalize it and try to tell yourself the pain is temporary (kind of like racing?) it doesn't make it feel any better.

Take a few more days off. Eat a huge thing of ice cream. (Soy or coconut milk, of course! I recommend Purely Decadent PB Zig-Zag.) Then go do a swim workout to get your body used to training again. Then go out for a long bike ride or a run. You'll feel great afterwards. I promise. :)

well, kid,regardless of whether this was a troll, you will always be able to say you beat Lance at something...I am sure you post got more views today than anything about him.

now get on your bike and ride.

This is somewhat similar to a physical injury, gotta nurse it right and let it heal completely or it'll come back and bite you in the rear end. No magic pill or specific plan, you'll know when you're ready. No need to make things worse than what they really are, get out and moving, even though the quality of the workouts may suffer a bit, being outside right now is the best way to keep depression at bay.

You'll find sources of joy in other areas of your life. You'd be surprised how some things in your life that were a little in the background and somewhat forgotten come back to the surface (old friendships, family, other hobbies/interests, career/job, etc)

Good luck and hit it out the park in that race, it'll be nice to know you PR'd dealing with the emotional blow during training.

No offense... but WTF did you just say?

As of 4pm on August 7th you have about 2,000 more people rooting for you at IMFL. Now, make us proud.

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What I do: http://app.strava.com/athletes/345699

Woo hoo!

Go and sign up for a race that is really close and just effin hammer it. Worked for me, sort of, as I was dealing with something a little worse that a bf breakup.

There are plenty of fish in the sea!

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Disco
South Bend, IN

Habitual Line Stepper..

As for advice I'd tell you to get moving again. You may not feel like real training and that's perfectly fine, your body may not even allow you to push hard, but doing something will maintain your fitness and you'll know when you can push it. Keep eating healthy food of appropriate portions. You do not want to go up or down dramatically in weight. Only go out drinking once. It's pointless after the first binge.
Most importantly, work on making yourself happy, you don't have to look for a rebound unless you want to.

Oh damn! This is the shit!!!!!!

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DISH is how we do it.

You are training for yourself and bot someone else. Don't let his issues impede your progress.

Gatordeb, you rock! I've lost 40 and have 40 more to go.

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You will remain the same person, before, during and after the race. So the result, no matter how important, will not define you. The journey is what matters. ~ Chrissie W.

This thread needs pics.

When I had my breakup I decided to work outagain and work out hard. I guess it is just my method of coping. I am trying to outrun the demons, and so far it is working well. Just run and bike and swim to forget it.

+1

Damnit, WHY did I sign up for IMAZ???

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"Hold on, you run a marathon AFTER you ride your bike?!?....oh, you people are just insane"......(my Mom)

Rockin' the W in 2013!! Wattie Ink Elite Team

Wow you are cute. Can I still sign up for iMFL?? I need a cute roommate

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Hold my Beer and watch this!

Will you marry me? Oh, and my family has a house on Pensacola Beach.....

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What if the Hokey Pokey is what it is all about?

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Holy cow, she is going to need a serious supply of chamois cream and a few free days before to fit that schedule....Hang on does rooting mean the same thing in the US that it does down here?

Talk about an Ironwoman!!

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When I did ironman in 2010, I was very close to divorce. I bailed on workouts sometimes as I just couldn't concentrate and nothing seemed to matter. I get what your feeling.

Realize that missing a few workouts isn't going to make or break your race. But, ironman will HELP you get through this. You need an outlet. If your doing workouts alone, find others to train with to be more social.

As far as IMFL, I could call a friend that could room with you, but you would probably not get much sleep for your race.

LOL

I would guess no lack of sodium or protein.

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What if the Hokey Pokey is what it is all about?

Tempo running helped me through a smaller version of the same thing (I wasn't training for an IM, just a local olympic series). LSD gave me too much time to think and intervals just made me want to die, but tempo was perfect.

Very impressive!!! Great job!!!

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"Anyone can be who they want to be IF they have the HUNGER and the DRIVE."

It's all subjective.

Think about it......

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"I was watching the London Marathon and saw one runner dressed as a chicken and another runner dressed as an egg. I thought: 'This could be interesting'."

How are you doing young lady?

I had to bump this thread. I enjoyed reading all the responses. I applaud everyone who contributed.

I feel for ya, my last ex (of 9 months) made it almost 3 weeks after my first IM of the year was over right up til she realized that the training was only going to be more time consuming with nicer weather and IM Part Duex three months down the road it wasn't going to be what she wanted. I took a slightly different post break up approach with over zealous training followed by binge drinking. And by binge drinking I mean being down for the count after 3-5 drinks, IM training will do that to you.

In the end though you have to get over your personal pity party, suck it up, and quit being a pansy ass cry baby. (It took me the better part of a week to do so.)

So HTFU and get a move on.

It's an Ironman not an Ironmaybe. When you get done wallowing in the tear stained, over sized tech-t that he left behind in your apt IMFL will still be there waiting for you, taunting you.