JSA wrote:
I know you identified these, but, I am going to run down the list:
1. Tax benefits.
2. Ownership/probate. In most states, if you die intestate, the "life partner" gets nothing. If you die with a will, the bequeathing in the will is still subject to challenge by blood relatives. If married, those issues go away. Also, most states are "marital property" states. So, you get joint ownership of all each other's assets (and debts.).
3. Financial transactions. It is much easier to get a home mortgage, auto loan, etc. when you are married and both on the account. Especially when a home mortgage, it is a lot more difficult if you are not legally married.
4. Medical and end-of-life decisions. A spouse is the default decision-maker. Otherwise, the "life partner" has no rights to make decisions. Even if you have a power-of-attorney or a living will, blood relatives have standing to challenge your decisions.
5. Health insurance. Nearly every health insurance plan has a family or "plus one" option for a spouse. Very few allow "life partners" to join the plan.
6. Social security benefits, IRA, pension, other retirement accounts. Surviving spouse gets benefits.
7. Leave benefits under the FMLA. You get up to 12 weeks leave to care for a spouse (or other family member). Does not apply if not married.
Thanks for your input. I was wondering whether #1 was true, and another person touched on that on page 3, I think. #2 was on our minds. #3 seems a bit surprising to me as I had no trouble buying my house (or cars) as A Single, Unmarried Woman (as it is spelled out in my house documents), though can appreciate that listing more income probably allows more buying power.
I hadn't thought of #4 or 6 at all. Do you happen to know how far the blood relative bit extends? I'm asking out of curiosity. My dad's alive, but I have no siblings so unless an aunt would count, or a half aunt (father's half sister), I think I'm out of relatives.
On #5, my company recognizes Life Partners. When I listed him as the beneficiary for something, he apparently got auto-added in the spouse field of my benefits. I hadn't realized that would happen. I can add him to my insurance too, and we are currently trying to figure out whether it makes sense to do so, since we pay less in total as individuals than either would by covering both of us. (I think my insurance is better.). I wonder if my companies recognition of Life Partners would actually work for FMLA...
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