Be yourself. Be open. Say what's on your mind, within reason- in other words, don't say I want to grab your tits if your thinking it. Do say, I'm sorry if I seem off- I have not been on a date in 10 years and I am really nervous!

Dress nice, but casual nice. Make sure your groomed, brush teeth and all the hygiene stuff.

Don't think of what to say. Just go there, say hi. Shake hands when you meet, or a gentle hug if you read that the moment is ok for that. Ask lots of questions about them. Only talk about yourself if it is relevant. If you say- where did you grow up? They say- Michigan. You can say, wow, I am from Michigan too! Otherwise, keep asking about them.

If they don't answer questions we'll- using one line answers and it seems awkward, say what's on your mind again- hey, I hope I'm not being too forward. You seem interesting and I would like to get to know you.

Anyway, good luck.

I spoke to a woman from Japan while I was in Hong Kong visiting using Google translator the entire night. She spoke limited English and I don't know a lick of Japanese. You would be surprised how powerful body language and a smile is. Show interest in your date and be yourself.

I like the Seinfeld episode when George decides to be himself. He approached a woman and said, I am George. I have no job and I live with my parents. The woman smiled and began to speak to him and they started dating! Granted it is a tv show, but still.

Practice snapping your fingers and whistling, figure out which one is louder to call the waiter!

Order for her and base it on her weight and let her know.

Ask to look through her phone's photos and texts.

After the meal, put your feet up on the chair next to her so she can see your big feet.

Wear big shoes!

Chew with your mouth open so she can she your great teeth.

Tell her you have to sit facing the door just in case the place gets robbed. Pat your gun in your shoulder holster and tell her you'll take care of any trouble.

having a conversation is good. Asking questions like it's an interview is bad.

Use the time to find out what they are interested/passionate about and why.
Topics like, Favorite Vacations, what made it stand out from others. Activities they look forward to doing. What they do to relax and recharge

You are a bad person

He's at his best when challenged!

LMAO. You've got the makings of a reality tv star. The cameras could follow you around for all the first dates and record their reactions.

Definitely this!^^


Women like confidence, so have some, if you don't, fake it. Being nervous might be "cute" for a few minutes, but it quickly gets old. Get the expectations out of it and just enjoy a good conversation. If the conversation sucks then you know not to call her again. No big deal, no reason to be nervous.

Flower idea is bad, makes you look desperate and cheesy. Having an idea for afterward is good, if it goes really well you don't want to be standing there playing the "I don't know, what do you want to do" game. Have a couple ideas of other activities available.

Good luck, have fun. Confidence, not arrogance, is attractive.

No, I'm not. You should have been on some of the dates I have been on.

One guy used a picture on his profile that wasn't even him! The only way I knew it was him is that he came up to me and introduced himself.

Another guy showed up looking like he just got done playing a game of some sort. Dirty baseball hat, dirty clothes and sweaty. We had nothing to talk about at all and I just couldn't handle it anymore. I excused myself to go to the bathroom and left. He obviously didn't care about the date, why should I?

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"When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace." Jimi Hendrix

Duffy's urban cowboy hat is pretty chill. Maybe wear one of those?

Just because you do an extremely poor job of screening your dates does not give you Carter Blanche to act like a cretin.

Be an hour late because your junky car refuses to start. Kick some ex boyfriend guy out of her room when you arrive with an uncomfortable stare down. Don't bother to go out and have sex.

Wait. That was my 1st date with my wife 27 years ago.

I've sat through plenty of really bad dates because I knew the guy was at least trying. I don't feel bad at all leaving if the person misrepresents themselves in a profile. I usually have a few conversations with them prior to going out too. If they are gonna lie and then show up like they don't care, I'm outa there.

I will admit it's s hitty thing to do and I've only done it when the date is completely fucked up. I ave told a few guys that this wasn't going to work before we even ordered dinner.

You obviously haven't used a dating web site or dated in a while. It's brutal out there

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"When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace." Jimi Hendrix

I have and about 7 years (that's when I met my wife). It's still not an excuse to just leave without saying goodbye. How would you feel if someone did that to you. Have some manners and common courtesy, it might make finding someone easier.

Make her laugh, and ask open ended questions.

I was going to go with sit around with your friends playing euchre and drinking beer then go to a midnight showing of The Wall. That is my go to move. It worked once and is all I have.

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I'm beginning to think that we are much more fucked than I thought.

Some guys don't have the courtesy to be reral or show up with clean clothes, they don't deserve a goodbye.

I realize I'm being a jerk, and an ass, but I can only handle so much before I have to get OUT... I always pay my own way and I tell the wait person that I'm leaving. What happens after that, I don't care.

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"When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace." Jimi Hendrix

I agree with all of JHarris's suggestions.

To add to it -- getting to know someone shouldn't be a chore....after the initial nervousness and awkwardness wears off the conversation should flow fairly naturally if there is chemistry between the two of you. I used to go on a LOT of first dates (was on an internet dating site for a year before I found Mr. Perfect-for-me). I knew within 5 minutes if there was even the chance the date would progress to another date. I always made sure the first date was something short and sweet.....a drink at a local pub, coffee at starbucks, fresh cookies at the Nestle's store, (even went to a book signing with one guy) etc....If we were really enjoying each other's company I would still leave within a short period of time. Always leave them wanting more. There is always the second date to start making more progress. I don't need to know everything about you on the first date....just enough to make me want a second one.

If you aren't one to typically make spontaneous romantic gestures (like bringing flowers). Don't do it on the first date. I once dated a man that gave me 5 dozen roses within the first 3 weeks we dated. Then nothing for the next year. It wasn't the flowers, it was that he wasn't the person he presented himself to me to be (and it wasn't just the flowers that clued me into that!)

And...after the date...if you find you are not interested in her.....just tell her the truth. A quick note, text saying had a lovely time, however I just don't feel the stars are aligned for us (or whatever).....don't just not call. I recommend this for the women also. If you aren't interested just be honest.

Make good eye contact. Not the creepy kind though.

Good luck, have fun!

First date with my wife I spoke about my ex and a diarrhea experience.

Been married for almost 12 years!

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How does Danny Hart sit down with balls that big?

Nothing like getting shit out in the open on the first date!

single flower

Tulip, (1)yellow


Have her look it up


smooth move :-)


=Sunshine in your smile

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RayGovett
Hughson CA
Be Prepared-- Strike Swiftly -- Who Dares Wins- Without warning-"it will be hard. I can do it"

Ask? Shouldn't I just grab her phone?

Look man, you go in with one goal: close. Always Be Closing. Make sure you hit the gym on the way to the date, that way you get a badass pump so she can check your physique. Plus you'll be releasing all kinds of "come fuck me" pheremones. Wear tight pants and pop some viagra, that way she can scope your package. Make sure you tell her what a bitch your ex was, that way she knows right off that you tolerate no bullshit. Also mention all the other tail you have sweating you, that way she knows to move fast if she wants in on the action. Finally, let her know that anal is always on the table.

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If I don't, who will? -Me
It's like being bipolar in opinion is a requirement around here. -TripleThreat

My wife asked me on a coffee date, my response "why would I want to do that?" Pissed her right off that a guy would turn her down so she doubled down on getting together with me. Next encounter was at a mutual friends bday party that she "encouraged" me to attend. I was absolutely shit faced when she showed up, she walked right up to me, gave me a hug, we kissed, she took my drunk ass back to my place when the bar closed and hasn't left since.

She still maintains the only reason she was interested was because I had the audacity to turn her down. She was not accustomed to that sort of treatment from guys.

Solid advice from everyone here. Be yourself, say what you mean, mean what you say, and ALWAYS wear clean underwear.