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Ah, Duffy. I have no issue with his sense of humor. I take it as a defense mechanism. I think much of his razzing, sarcasm, humor are likely his technique for coping.The family I grew up in aways laughed and had fun. My grandfather was an undertaker with a wicked sense of humor and little sense of anything else. My father carried that on and was a practical joker (both the victim and the perpetrator) to the very end. When things got tough the jokes kept coming. It's not really a coping mechanism, per se. It's just how our family rolls through life. It just so happens we've had to put up with a lot of loss and insanity.
I'm lucky to have a sense of humor.
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I respect greatly that as an adoptee he is also an adoptor.Thanks.
We tried to have kids the regular way and it didn't work (no matter how much sperm Mrs. Duffy swallowed she just wouldn't get pregnant). The decision to adopt was a no brainer. For me, adoption is the normal way. I was a little surprised that Mrs. Duffy jumped on the bandwagon so quickly.
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That is not normal.It is for us.
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I couldn't. The pain would be overwhelming.Obviously our situations are different. And, again, PM me if you want to talk (I mean it).
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So while he will say he doesn't need big props for being and adoptor, yeah, as an adoptee he needs all he can get. Big, big props to you Duffy. Thank you.I appreciate the sentiment, I really do, but in all candor we just wanted to have and raise a child. Our reasons for adopting were purely selfish. The outcome is that a boy doesn't grow up in a Russian orphanage but our intent was never to save children from Russian orphanages.
Again, though, I appreciate your kind word.
I have a friend who is having trouble making babies the old fashion way and have been going through much the same shit we did (I actually have a lot of friends who have gone through fertility problems (something in the food?)) and I've brought up adoption with them but, like many, they're 'uncomfortable' with idea. Same shit, 'passing down genes' and all that.
Passing genes was never important to me because my father's genetics hit a dead end, and so did my own (must be genetic…). Plus, honestly, Mrs. Duffy has some seriously fucked up genes in her lineage.
But to many 'blood' is important.
As a side note when I see families together and they all look very much alike it's kind of creepy.
Civilize the mind, but make savage the body.
- Chinese proverb