Duffy wrote:
my son has several biological siblings he's never met. His birth mother gave up parental rights at birth and he immediately became a ward of the state.
We don't have much more info than that.
I was also adopted, have an older brother and sister (also adopted (all from different bio moms)).
As an adult I found my birth parents. On my birth mom's side I have a brother and 3 sisters (half). On birth fathers side I have 2 half brothers. We are all Facebook friends but I never interact with them in person.
A general note to everyone involved in adoption:
When you go searching you might never be prepared for what you find.
When a mother gives up her child the circumstances that predicated it are never good.
I'll just leave it at that.
A bit of a crazy adoption related story:
An old co-worker of mine was adopted. I knew she had a rough childhood, but, didn't really know the extent of it. She was one of 9 (9!!!) kids adopted into one family. This family consisted of the Two parents, who had 3 biological kids, and 9 adopted kids. When I met these people, the kids were all grown (teenaged to late 20's), and all wonderful, kind, intelligent, and genuinely warm people to be around. I don't believe in angels, but, I think those parents are the closest living thing you could find. How you can build a family like that, so full of love and success, from such broken beginnings, is beyond me.
Anyways, 10 years later, my old co-worker, now a mom of 2 herself, lifted the publication ban on her backstory and wrote a memoire. Herself and her 2 bio siblings were all being molested and abused by her bio dad. Bio mom was being beaten by bio dad. Eventually, bio mom snapped, drove the kids to a park, doused them all, herself included, in gasoline and lit a match in the car. My friend was the oldest (I think 6-7 years old), and was able to get out of the car. She was the only survivor, and she sat there, a child, in the dark, watching her siblings and mom burn to death. Her dad is in prison to this day, where he will be until he dies.
It's a really hard thing to make sense of. How she turned out to be so, for lack of better words, normal, is just incredible. Like I said before, she is a great mother of two with this incredibly large, loving family. She now volunteers extensively with various groups for abused women.
I'm not posting this as some adoption horror story to scare Francois, but more-so as an example of what good can occasionally come from the absolute worst scenarios.
Long Chile was a silly place.