Yep- the world of fitness, cycling, and eventually multisport was the catalyst in my last divorce. My 260 lb ex wife could not handle the fact that I was gaining confidence and a new, svelte look. I went from a 215 lb, pasty, low-confidenced slob to a tan, toned man who could take on the world. She wanted to "talk" when I was trying to get my sleep. She would ask me who I was doing this for and did not believe that the answer was "for me". The last change at that period in my life was my job, which changed about six months later.
I lost alot of things. I even took on a boat load of debt just to get my freedom. The only things that were important to me were my bike, my clothes and my rabbits (Ivan and Anastasia, G'd rest their souls). My bike was important because it was the device needed to release the stress, my clothes were needed as I could not go to work naked, and my rabbits were my best friends (especially since my ex isolated me from my old friends). But my freedom came at a very high cost, and it was worth every penny I'm still paying (and that was seven years ago).
Allison's column made me relive those days-albeit not in a negative way. Just don't let yourself lose sight of what simple things you need when things settle down. A car wreck in late 2000 made me wish for the simple things (like the ability to run or cycle without pain) again. It took twelve weeks of hard, complicated work to get back to the simple things, and that was to get to a very base level of fitness. Keep focused and keep it simple, no matter what temptations come along.
I lost alot of things. I even took on a boat load of debt just to get my freedom. The only things that were important to me were my bike, my clothes and my rabbits (Ivan and Anastasia, G'd rest their souls). My bike was important because it was the device needed to release the stress, my clothes were needed as I could not go to work naked, and my rabbits were my best friends (especially since my ex isolated me from my old friends). But my freedom came at a very high cost, and it was worth every penny I'm still paying (and that was seven years ago).
Allison's column made me relive those days-albeit not in a negative way. Just don't let yourself lose sight of what simple things you need when things settle down. A car wreck in late 2000 made me wish for the simple things (like the ability to run or cycle without pain) again. It took twelve weeks of hard, complicated work to get back to the simple things, and that was to get to a very base level of fitness. Keep focused and keep it simple, no matter what temptations come along.