BorrachoMatador wrote:
B.McMaster wrote:
BorrachoMatador wrote:
I am also the guy working 12/14 hour days on top of 2 or so hours of training. I would wager many here do the same thing.
For a week maybe, but you are probably misestimating or have a 30 hour day.
12/14 hours a day at work plus 2 hours of training (plus 1/2 hour of getting to/from pool/gym etc.), plus the commute (hour estimate?), plus 2 showers, eating, bathroom etc (another hour) you are at 16 1/2-18 1/2 hours before even mentioning anything outside of just work and training. What about paying bills, going shopping for food, talking to any-one etc....
I should clarify, I am the guy
willing to work 12/14 hour days at time to get my job done. And yes something does suffer... the last line should have been in pink hence the "don't ask my wife"
I still think though, that its possible to be pretty good at all three. I bet most people here are.
Efficiency and overhead reduction at both work and at play and also with family are key to being able to juggle all three. Most people have way too much wasted overhead in their lives, working on non impactful things super inefficiently, or they split hairs on tasks on all fronts that can be done 50-75% faster and still get to 95% impact. Think like a real estate agent...sell the house at 97% of the final value in 75% less time, and move on to selling the next house and so on and so on.
I coach many athletes and get a window into how different people manage life outside training and how they manage overhead related to training. I can see which guys and girls jam in more into the same 168 hours per week that we all get than the other person does. A "CAN" do attitude is most helpful.
Having said, that, we usually can't be awesome on all fronts all the time simultaneously which brings me back to the 168 hours per week that we all get. How do we priority manage those 168 hours to be awesome in sequence in different aspects of our lives, over the week. Not over the day, but not over the month, but over the week. If one can crack that nut, then it is possible. Over the day, some days family get priority, some days it does not....some days are all about work....other day, everything gets out of the way for sport....and managing the expectations of the people who interface into our lives from all angles on what gets prioritization and when. One month is too long to de prioritize anything.....something will break....no one including yourself has patience for that.
Having said that, coming back to what John Post said, when we were younger, my wife and I did a lot of active things together. Now she does, not and I do. I do miss doing some of the stuff together, but at the same time she sees the positive impact of my active life on our 18 year old and his friends who are athletes that I have coached.
In the end, I don't thing we can be awesome at everything on a given day, but we can and MUST spread over a week. Let any aspect slide too long and something will break....and yes, it probably sucks to be my spouse and have me for a dad on many days, but hopefully it balances out on the good days. That's life I guess.