trail wrote:
RangerGress wrote:
Everyone has to learn to deal with bullying.Right, like teachers, administrators, parents, and children. Everyone.
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Attempting to shelter our children from bullying is just one more way that we are failing to prepare our children for adulthood.Failing to teach children the proper way to recognize and intervene in bullying is failing to prepare our children for adulthood.
When I was bullied, my dad recognized and taught me a way. Not the proper way, but a way. He told me to punch the guy in the face as hard as I could the next time he did it and then worked with me nightly for a week working on my punching technique. And basic defense. Much to the chagrin of my mom. Worked for me. Maybe not the best strategy for everyone, much less a 12 year-old girl. But I give my dad credit for recognizing the issue (which I tried to hide) and confronting it directly. Not everyone was a good parents, though. It's unfortunate that teachers have to take the role of parent sometimes, but I believe if there are signs a teacher or administrator should not ignore them.
The key lesson there is: I needed help. And I got it. It's nonsense to think that adults or capable children should just let it go so the victim "learns how to deal with it."
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Because....adulthood is coming and they're gonna have to learn to deal with bullies.There's no story more heart-warming to me than the stories of the football team captain intervening on behalf of the bullied autistic kid. That's effing adulthood right there.
I said that we should not shelter our kids from bullying. I entirely support parents teaching their kids how to deal with bullying, your example being a tried and true technique.
Kid says to dad: "Some kid is pushing me around at school. Can you teach me how to hit him back?"
Said no father ever: "No, you're on your own".
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