Weird situation in a million ways. My wife's cousin's dad died. He and my wife's aunt had been divorced for over 20 years, her current husband basically raised the kids, guy who just died was abusive to her during their marriage, not a trustworthy guy at all, yet she kept a nice relationship with him and helped him out in a lot of ways because of wanting to maintain a good facade for the kids (probably enabled him to keep taking advantage of them, really). I only met him a couple of times, never said anything more than "Hi" to the guy. Respect to the deceased, but this is a guy I chose not to associate with in life for a reason when there was the opportunity.
One of Mrs. MWR's cousins is the type of person who takes everything personally, freaks out about everything, cannot handle her emotions...an emotional train wreck. Mrs. MWR and I don't really associate with her more than what's required (especially since the one time I had to publicly kick her out of Little MWR's bday party for her dramatic showing...).
Now the aunt & cousin are sending a text to all of us imploring everyone to come to the funeral then some get together at their house. It's visitation for a short bit, immediately followed by funeral, then the get together...in the middle of the freaking work & school day. Little MWR ain't missing school for that, I'm not keen to miss any work for it because I have deadlines looming and frankly I wouldn't expect this aunt & cousin to go to my dad's funeral, and I sure ain't keen on going to a house where people smoke inside & making myself vomit.
And yet I don't want to cause any drama for Mrs. MWR to have to deal with either...although all of the drama would be created by them and their weird expectations. I'm a "keep the peace" kind of guy, so part of me thinks maybe I should hit the visitation and leave out of respect for the cousin but I don't even want to do that since it'll still eat a couple of unproductive hours out of the middle of my work day and, truth be told, my respect for this cousin is quite lacking anyway & our relationship is purely one of obligation.
What's the collective LR "wisdom" say?
One of Mrs. MWR's cousins is the type of person who takes everything personally, freaks out about everything, cannot handle her emotions...an emotional train wreck. Mrs. MWR and I don't really associate with her more than what's required (especially since the one time I had to publicly kick her out of Little MWR's bday party for her dramatic showing...).
Now the aunt & cousin are sending a text to all of us imploring everyone to come to the funeral then some get together at their house. It's visitation for a short bit, immediately followed by funeral, then the get together...in the middle of the freaking work & school day. Little MWR ain't missing school for that, I'm not keen to miss any work for it because I have deadlines looming and frankly I wouldn't expect this aunt & cousin to go to my dad's funeral, and I sure ain't keen on going to a house where people smoke inside & making myself vomit.
And yet I don't want to cause any drama for Mrs. MWR to have to deal with either...although all of the drama would be created by them and their weird expectations. I'm a "keep the peace" kind of guy, so part of me thinks maybe I should hit the visitation and leave out of respect for the cousin but I don't even want to do that since it'll still eat a couple of unproductive hours out of the middle of my work day and, truth be told, my respect for this cousin is quite lacking anyway & our relationship is purely one of obligation.
What's the collective LR "wisdom" say?