Getting old sucks. Lonliness sucks just as bad

Oh, you had a good year as well then.........

Starting something new, that’s hard and requires years of practice is really reinvigorating.

Making other people better is a lot more interesting than just yourself, but you have to fix yourself first.

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If I don't, who will? -Me
It's like being bipolar in opinion is a requirement around here. -TripleThreat

Oh, and keep moving forward. It will get better.

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If I don't, who will? -Me
It's like being bipolar in opinion is a requirement around here. -TripleThreat

Recovering financially from using your 3-6 months of cash reserves is tough too. Been there, still trying to recover 2 years later...

I learned a lot about myself - some good, some not so good. After kid 4 was born and the initial run with the grandparents came to an end, I had to do it all because my husbands work schedule is just insane (self employed business of 1). No family close so it's just us here in paradise. Still deciding if paradise is worth the trade off of family being closer. I also learned I'm a LOT tougher than I thought I was. My 2018 goal is to be a master at staying at and hopefully under our monthly budget. I spend too much at the grocery store every single time!

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Harry: "I expected the Rocky Mountains to be a little rockier than this."
Loyd: "I was thinking the same thing. That John Denver's full of shit, man."

 That life is too short to put up with crap and you should ask for what you want. And that when you find the right person who motivates you, keep them.

Lastly, sitting with 18,000 of your best friends at the very first ever Stanley Cup final game for your team is the best feeling in the world. Sweeping the Blackhawks in the first round is a close second. 🤣

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clm
Nashville, TN
https://twitter.com/ironclm | http://ironclm.typepad.com

It really pays to get multiple quotes when you need to replace your home HVAC system. The first quote was for $14K. We ended up with someone who did everything for $8K.

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"Human existence is based upon two pillars: Compassion and knowledge. Compassion without knowledge is ineffective; Knowledge without compassion is inhuman." Victor Weisskopf.

On 1 - in the end I suspect that will be the least of my problems because when we have sold up everything I will never put myself in this situation again

On 2 - we are having that very conversation. Live in South of France and whilst London is only 2 hours, parents are ageing and some other factors are making me think moving closer might be a good idea

Maybe you should find a group ride of people close to your age. 😎

You do know the expression (or rule of thumb) is to have 6 months of Spending in the bank for a rainy day. For most Americans 6 months of savings would not be much money.

But once you start dipping into that you need to start cutting spending and getting a plan for months 7 and on. One concept is if you have 6 months spending saved, then if you lose your job in a tough market you can cut spending way back and actually have a year of spending saved. Which really is probably a better way of planning, (IE you should have 1 yr of essential spending saved up for a rainy day)

Good luck.

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Just Triing
Triathlete since 9:56:39 AM EST Aug 20, 2006.
Be kind English is my 2nd language. My primary language is Dave it's a unique evolution of English.

Due to a variety of events I have probably burnt through 2-3 years of cash in 18 months.

At various points in last 5 years I've had decades of liquid assets on hand but events, dear boy, events.......

Anyway, no matter. Money is stressful. Will all be sorted in next 6-12 months but that does not help the anxiety

Still processing the events of the yr to figure out what I have learned.

figured out so far,
Life sucks, people die, pet's die, were all going to die. More stuff, sucks... wish we would have lived in a smaller house and accumulated less crap.

Literally just figured this one out so moving it up to the figured out so far section -- when the 5yr and 10yr goals are foggy and nebulous, the actions of the day are hesitant and shaky.

left to figure out.

So whats the goal, after keep the species surviving and having raised the kids,

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Just Triing
Triathlete since 9:56:39 AM EST Aug 20, 2006.
Be kind English is my 2nd language. My primary language is Dave it's a unique evolution of English.

Self employment is a bitch and it's good to be working as a W2 employee again.

I laugh when the boss rants that nobody understands the peessure he is under. Uh, yeah dude, I do understand. That's why I'm trying to help shore up your husiness and make you some money.

I learned Preda fans are lame

Watching a family member be ravaged by dementia is a bitch.

Months of consistent sleep deprivation really alters mood and worldview.

A good dog is worth its weight in gold (but I knew that already).

Probably didn't learn a lot new this year, but it was a very good year just the same.

Asymmetrical snowboards and modern twin keel fishes are the shit!

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Civilize the mind, but make savage the body.

- Chinese proverb

Saw that xmas present

Boards not my thing but twinned reverse camber hand made in the Sierra skis are much the same

Money is better than gratitude for work done.

Being a dirtbag is pretty liberating....

The only things that matter are:
1) Love
2) Laughs
3) Burritos

Among other things, I learned that a total solar eclipse is one of the most incredible things you'll ever see, and worth waiting 62 years to see one. (Hoping to see another one in April 2024.)

Okies really wear cowboy hats and boots.

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maybe she's born with it, maybe it's chlorine
If you're injured and need some sympathy, PM me and I'm very happy to write back.
disclaimer: PhD not MD

Nothing , yet, but with one day to go, there's still hope.

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Long Chile was a silly place.

I dont believe for a second that even here has not taught you anything this year.......

I was joking. It's been a big year. First baby arrived end of summer.

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Long Chile was a silly place.

I learned that not having my father around is the most difficult and empty part of my life that will never get easier. I also learned that many people trust me enough to help others.

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DISH is how we do it.

I was joking

I learned that being underemployed and happy in my work is way better than a high salary and
soul-sucking work environments.

Growth rarely comes from a place of comfort. 2017 was a good year but a tough year. I had been considering a career change for a few years and getting laid off was the push I needed to do it.

Fair enough. In all seriousness, I do learn quite a bit from the LR. Lots of interesting, intelligent, and passionate folks in here.

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Long Chile was a silly place.

and there's also Duffy.

This
Starting a new business is never easy, but this time around for some strange reason, its seems harder and more stressful than ever.
Maybe Im just turning into my old man who stressed about everything, including stressing about not being stressed enough!

That despite the way I feel about myself I AM a good person, it’s ok to let myself be loved, taking a chance on myself was the best thing I could have done and that my kids are and will always be the most important thing to me.

As for you, I sincerely hope that you do get yourself back to where you need to be. Based on many of your posts I assumed that you were tremendously stable etc financially.

It's all fine. It just went a bit tits up when my flat burnt down On the day it was being listed for sale and I lost my job. It's temporary (I hope)

Having a little faith / confidence in yourself does wonders for your self esteem.

What's the new business?

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Long Chile was a silly place.

Concrete polishing

That's awesome. I have some concrete projects around my house I plan on doing polished concrete for. Outdoor tables, bar area for the deck, small stuff I can cast in my garage. Kind of have the idea to do the kitchen countertops in concrete, but, I just wont have the time to do all the labour myself.

I love working with concrete in unique settings, the possibilities are endless.


This is the service I use for bigger projects.

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Long Chile was a silly place.

Nice
The concrete etching is not something we see much of here at all. Intriguing

My website

Edit: Sorry for the hijack!

Can you really hijack your own thread?

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Just Triing
Triathlete since 9:56:39 AM EST Aug 20, 2006.
Be kind English is my 2nd language. My primary language is Dave it's a unique evolution of English.

I know all Andrews seem the same but were not

Exactly!
Although it does seem we all suffer an inordinate amount of stress

There's that damn lack of attention to detail's problem again..

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Just Triing
Triathlete since 9:56:39 AM EST Aug 20, 2006.
Be kind English is my 2nd language. My primary language is Dave it's a unique evolution of English.

The lot of them, nucking futs.

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If I don't, who will? -Me
It's like being bipolar in opinion is a requirement around here. -TripleThreat

Hey, I just learned something else in 2017

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Just Triing
Triathlete since 9:56:39 AM EST Aug 20, 2006.
Be kind English is my 2nd language. My primary language is Dave it's a unique evolution of English.

Wait, does this mean your not related to Andrew Jackson?

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Just Triing
Triathlete since 9:56:39 AM EST Aug 20, 2006.
Be kind English is my 2nd language. My primary language is Dave it's a unique evolution of English.

Nice! Looks sharp.
I'm building my website with squarespace right now.

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Long Chile was a silly place.

I learned that I love to cook but I love to eat more than I love to cook. Not a good situation. Did someone say pork chops and applesauce?

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"The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do."

I learned, I'm not too young to be a grandparent and look forward to it in 2018, July to be exact. Which means, I'm not moving to California next summer.

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