if he stays that is no guarantee the kid won't feel abandoned. he could live in the same house every single day, and the kid could still wind up "abandoned". there are no guarantees, period.

i feel it is the responsibility as adults and parents to make good decisions on all fronts--including career and being able to earn to provide opportunity like college.

in 10 years the kid will be out of high school, and then what for the dad? McDonalds?

it is entirely possible to have a strong relationship that is remote. with earning, there are options. without earning, no options.

it's not like moving is a ticket to never land. if it doesn't work out, then move back. but i feel it is worth trying, especially in the present circumstances which are going down the proverbial toilet. that is the ticket to neverland.