Hi everyone! Itās been a while since Iāve been around. My FB got hacked and I could not unhack it so I had to start over. They completely dismantled my old account so I couldnāt even go back to find names to friend. Sorry š
I am in a quandary and didnāt know where to go for help, so here I am. Iām hoping the collective Slowtwitch can help me understand and deal with my feelings.
I have a neighbor, Jeanelle. We were really close friends. We would sit on the front patio and watch the world go by for hours. Just sitting and talking. One day J came over and said she had a back ache and that it had been bothering g her for a little while. We discussed it and she felt ok about the necessary surgery she was facing. The surgery left her paralyzed from the waist down and she had to move to an assisted living place. Lucy kept up most of the communication, but I would text her now and again. We went to see her about 2x/mth. (It was a long drive and took the whole day to visit!).
The last time we saw her she was in decent spirits even though she was told her cancer had returned and that she needed to start chemo, again. That was about 4 months ago.
Lucy has been texting her every couple days for the last couple weeks so we could find a day to head up to see her. No answer. She was always a little slow replying, but never completely blew us off.
This morning we found out she died. We did not know her family or any other friends besides my other neighbors. Iām kinda freaking out. Iām not getting any closure or anything really. I feel terrible that we didnāt even know she was āthatā sick. We knew she was taking the chemo, but the last time we saw her she was optimistic and joyful.
Ok collective ST, tell me how to deal with this
"When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace." Jimi Hendrix
I am in a quandary and didnāt know where to go for help, so here I am. Iām hoping the collective Slowtwitch can help me understand and deal with my feelings.
I have a neighbor, Jeanelle. We were really close friends. We would sit on the front patio and watch the world go by for hours. Just sitting and talking. One day J came over and said she had a back ache and that it had been bothering g her for a little while. We discussed it and she felt ok about the necessary surgery she was facing. The surgery left her paralyzed from the waist down and she had to move to an assisted living place. Lucy kept up most of the communication, but I would text her now and again. We went to see her about 2x/mth. (It was a long drive and took the whole day to visit!).
The last time we saw her she was in decent spirits even though she was told her cancer had returned and that she needed to start chemo, again. That was about 4 months ago.
Lucy has been texting her every couple days for the last couple weeks so we could find a day to head up to see her. No answer. She was always a little slow replying, but never completely blew us off.
This morning we found out she died. We did not know her family or any other friends besides my other neighbors. Iām kinda freaking out. Iām not getting any closure or anything really. I feel terrible that we didnāt even know she was āthatā sick. We knew she was taking the chemo, but the last time we saw her she was optimistic and joyful.
Ok collective ST, tell me how to deal with this
"When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace." Jimi Hendrix