Duffy wrote:
Yeah, I've met my bio family. Without getting into specifics, not everything about them is love and peaches but I can get passed it. Let's just say they me a huge favor by choosing not to raise me. We're on friendly Facebook terms and that's about it. I have a half brother that seemingly want absolutely nothing to do with me which is fine.
My sister met her birth parents and on the maternal side it's all pretty good but her birth father is a complete ass. He won't even acknowledge her existence (50 years later!). I think he's about dead at this point anyway.
My brother found his birth parents and they tried to scam him out of money. It was his actual bio-parents and not people posing as them in some kind of scam. His birth parents tried to scam him…
Similar here. I have (full) siblings that I haven't seen or spoken to in several decades. They are strangers to me. I've got half siblings I haven't seen or spoken to in 40 years. My adult children never met them. As a coping mechanism I closed off virtually all contact with my family.
OTOH, we are all very close to my wife's family. They are very nurturing and good people.
Life can be fucked up sometimes. So those adopting, take these small windows of insight into the struggles of adopted children and orphans into consideration. Thank you for adopting, loving and caring for those children, but understand their will still be issues, many of which you will not necessarily understand.