Study: Half of all teens have had oral sex

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More women ¡ª particularly those in their late teens and 20s ¡ª are experimenting with bisexuality or at least feel more comfortable reporting same-sex encounters, according to a new report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

The survey, released Thursday by the CDC¡¯s National Center for Health Statistics, found that 11.5 percent of women, ages 18 to 44, said they¡¯ve had at least one sexual experience with another women in their lifetimes, compared with about 4 percent of women, ages 18 to 59, who said the same in a comparable survey a decade earlier.

For women in their late teens and 20s, the percentage rose to 14 percent in the more recent survey. About 6 percent of men in their teens and 20s said they¡¯d had at least one same-sex encounter. Story continues below ¡ý advertisement http://global.msads.net/defaultads/ads/defaultads/TR.gif?C=P&E=10&N=B01

While those who conducted the survey took measures to protect respondents¡¯ privacy, researchers say it¡¯s unclear whether the figure for men was lower because they¡¯re are more likely to avoid same-sex experiences or whether they¡¯re not reporting them.

It wouldn¡¯t surprise Kat Fowler, a 27-year-old art student who dates both women and men, if men were less likely to talk about their experiences.

¡°There¡¯s a certain higher level of discrimination (for men). It¡¯s a lot easier for women to have these kinds of experiences and be open about it because it¡¯s more accepted,¡± said Fowler, who attends the University of Florida.

My wife worked with a guy that gave a BJ to another guy. He was for all practical purposes heterosexual. He asked the very pertanant question “Does this make me gay?”

I think there are some people that probably are gay that simply won’t accept it and others that are simply “experimenting”. None the less if you asked either of these groups they would claim they are hetero.

Although I’m pretty sure the percentage of homosexual individuals is lower than 10%, I’d also say it’s likely higher than 2.3%. just my experinance I’d say closer to 5 or one out of every 20-25 people I meet.

~Matt

That’s what I was wondering too.

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ok, mister passive aggressive.

wake up. kids are experimenting in some sort of sexual activity at this age. i would rather have my kid armed with knowledge about sex and equipped with knowledge to make decisions, as opposed to clueless and experimenting even though i’ve preached don’t do it.

if you want to preach don’t do it that’s fine. but i bet they will try to as they get 16, 17+, so it’s also smart to arm the kid with knowledge so they understand sex, what it’s about, and the consequences from it. the last thing any teen/parent/family needs is a pregnant teen because the teen didn’t understand about how they could get pregnant, didn’t know how to properly use birth control, etc.

also if i had a teen in a relationship, it’s likely they’re going to try to have sex eventually (I’m talking high school kids, ages 16+). ideally, I would rather my teen not do that , but if they do–i would be glad to know that it is happening based on informed decision making, with the ability to understand the consequences, and knowledge of how to effectively use birth control.

I’m not going to go on every date, spy, or create stiff rigid rules to make sure my teen doesn’t engage in any sexual activity–that is unrealistic. i think the best thing is to assume, that somewhere down the line, sexual activity of some sort is going to happen. your kid better be able to know what it is, consequences of it, how to handle it, and how not to get into trouble.

besides, just because a person is 16 or 17 years old, doesn’t mean they can’t make good decisions. my parents encouraged me to be very independent and to make good decisions. i’m thankful for that, because it allowed me to make my own mistakes, to develop emotional maturity, responsibility, and to think about consequences of actions. they didn’t baby me, and they trusted me. that is invaluable.

when you arm kids/teen with knowledge about sex, you enable them to make good decisions for themselves.

C’mon now! You know that’s not how it is. That’s like saying republicans’ sociopathic tendencies are due to Nixon or “W” when we all know it’s really an innate characteristic.

i’m miss riding around on a horse trying to save the world. it’s rarely ever effective, unfortunately.

Pic or it didn’t happen. :slight_smile:

Kids are going to have sex or at least experiment/play around–its human nature & the best a parent can do is educate to the merits of abstinence (which won’t work) & more importantly safety.

My brother-in-law just adopted a baby girl from a teenager in the midwest: straight A student, cheerleader, college-bound. She came from a highly religious family & sex was not discussed. Wham-o, she gets knocked up & spends 6 months at “grandmas” until the baby is born.

Me thinks that had she been giving some education & a condomn by her family, she may not have gotten pregnant.

Its amazing to me that the anti-birth control/anti-premarital sex/anti-abortion crowd seems to be one & the same. Want less abortions? More sex education & availability + acceptance of birth control + acknowledgement that sex is basic to our very nature rather than the current ostrich/puritanical treatment that the theocons are putting out there.

(I think) I’m with kittycat on this…

It makes me cringe to think I’ll have to even consider this with my munchkins… but I do believe the only thing I can realistically do is to

a) educate them as much as possible about sex, from mechanics to emotions to consequences

b) raise them to think wisely as much as possible in all areas of their lives

c) instill in them a sense of self worth that hopefully helps them resist the “if you don’t do this you’re not cool” feelings

d) Make sure they know where I stand (NO!), but at the same time that they can come to me under ANY circumstances…

e) Help them see what God has to say about it and why He says those things…

f) Trust that they will make the right decisions, or at least be honest with me if they don’t.

g) (and this may be a key item) Tell them about my own experiences, mistakes, and regrets, and help them see why I would have done things differently given the choice (and NO, I’m not going to elaborate here…)

All of this, I hope, will arm them with the tools they need to make as few mistakes as possible in this area (and others) of their lives.

Kids will be kids, but that doesn’t mean we should just throw up our hands and hope for the best. We can, and should, do our best to help them avoid the landmines… preferably by avoiding the minefield entirely!

"I have 16 and 19 yr old boys. "

You’ll survive the teenage years, but perhaps should be greatful that you never had daughters.

Mine is 21 and graduating college this year. Yippee - then she has to find this thing called a full time job and I don’t have to pay for any more college for her. Whether or not she had oral sex as a teenager I have no idea - never thought it appropriate to ask.

I think marriage is good and for the aforementioned reasons would like to be married.

I’m not trying to pick on you, KEJ, but I would like to point out that those reasons amount to wanting a validation of your relationship.

** I don’t think everyone has to be married to have a healthy relationship.**

Of course not.

I don’t think my relationship is unhealthy as it stands.

No, you’re relationship as it stands solely between you and your boyfriend might be pretty healthy, generally. But you and your boyfriend do not live alone in a vacuum, as you seem aware.

Too many people get married for the wrong reasons and/or to the the wrong people.

Agreed.

When I compare my relationship to the relatioships of some of my married friends, I see that mine is much stronger.

Perhaps, but not really relevent to the question of whether or not *you *should get married.

I don’t believe that pre-marital sex is the downfall of our civilization

It’s funny, I’m with you pretty much all the way to your final conclusion. You have basically said that being married would be a better situation for not only you and your boyfriend, but more importantly for your daughter. I would think that the obvious corollary is that living together without being married is worse for you and your daughter.

Just so we are clear about the Puritanical fantasyland you live in: you believe that nobody should have sex of any kind outside of a marriage?

Yes, and just so we are clear, that has not so much to do with any supposed Puritanical fantasyland, but more to do with the sexual norms of the large majority of humans societies throughout history.

But I know, we’re so much more morally advanced since the sexual revolution, and so much wiser than everyone else who’s ever lived.

“Boss, I need to leave early because my husband has to work late” versus “Boss, I need to leave early because my boyfriend has to work late”…

What’s funny about that is he is my boss!

mop, please know i’m happy for your brother in law, but i can’t help but feel bad for that that poor girl who is going to have to live with giving up her baby for the rest of her life. maybe it won’t effect her and she feels relieved, but i bet as she gets older, she won’t be able to not wonder who her child is and have regrets.

maybe if she knew how to protect herself more, it wouldn’t have happened…who knows. but it seems like a shame.

yes, I’ve got to pipe in and say that being raised in a family with puritanical values pertaining to sex sucks. every single night at the dinner table, we were lectured on how having sex before marriage is bad and will ruin your life. the only thing that seemed to matter was that we stayed virgins, not that we were doing well in school or anything else. parents changing the channel, lecturing us whenever a swimsuit popped up.

I never really thought about it until (I swore I was never going to admit to this) I was watching one of the E or VH1 shows on jessica simpson, and her dad spent half of the show telling her to stay a virgin until she was married. sucks to have such single minded parents. makes you feel stupid and untrusted.

didn’t stop me from having sex when I was 17, either. unprotected as well, since I didn’t really understand birth control. I am a lucky fuck to be kidless.

I would think that the obvious corollary is that living together without being married is worse for you and your daughter.

Who said we live together?

vitus–did you say whether or not you ever engaged in any sexual activity outside of marriage?

and the viewpoint of now sexual activity outside of marriage is just so unhealthy on so many levels…i’m glad that’s not the common vieiwpoint, because it is waaaaay outdated, represive, and unhealthy.

also, it is more unhealthy to children for an unhappy miserable married couple to live together than it is for a loving healthy couple (not married) to live together.

Who said we live together?

You didn’t, I assumed it. Sorry.

In all honesty, that’s a fair assumption. We have been together 4 years. I still have my own apartment, although we don’t spend much time there. He just bought a parcel of land in Nevada that we will eventually move to together. Whether we are married prior to that or not remains to be seen…kj

vitus–did you say whether or not you ever engaged in any sexual activity outside of marriage?

I did not, because we are not having a discussion about who’s had extramaritial sex or not, we’re having a discussion about whether or not sex outside marriage is a good or bad thing. (Actually, we were having a discussion about whether or not 15 year olds giving blowjobs was a good or bad thing.)

and the viewpoint of now sexual activity outside of marriage is just so unhealthy on so many levels

Oh? Feel free to list and elaborate some of those many unhealthy levels. I would so love to hear about the numerous ways people can be harmed by only having sex with their spouse.

because it is waaaaay outdated, represive, and unhealthy.

Outdated? If by that you mean old, then yes, I agree. That’s hardly a condemnation. Repressive? All moral precepts are repressive in one degree or another. Obviously. Unhealthy? How?

it is more unhealthy to children for an unhappy miserable married couple to live together than it is for a loving healthy couple (not married) to live together.

What a tired canard that is. I don’t know how you think it’s remotely connected to reality, kittcyat. I suppose in your view, people who are married are likely to be trapped in repressive, miserable relationships, while people who are lving together are commonly liberated, free, and happy together. And it isn’t true.