Hi Everyone!
I am a single 46 yo triathlete ( +doctor) with three teenagers every other week. I do can make free time for dating but I dont really find anyone near who is interested in sports and free! Everytime seems to be in a relation. Tried little online dating but did not find any site that is more for people who train. Live in a quite small town where people are quite closed, not very social. ( in Sweden) I don’t have any friends here either.( all are living in other countries)
Does anyone know a date site for triathletes or peolple who are more active? Or any tips I could use? Thank you 
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Why?
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Let me translate Amnesia’s response to plain English:
“Slowtwitch”
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Why?
It’s a joke done in a friendly and cheeky manner. And probably the Australian in me coming through.
It reads like a Tinder post but without pictures, you could have an army of slowtwitchers swiping left or right…😂.
I am a doctor as well, so I realize how difficult it must be with three kids and work and trying to date.
I have nothing to add in relation to what is out there to help find someone with similar values. Dating seems like a whole different ballgame to what it was when I met my long suffering wife.
There was a thread about a tri-specific dating app on here a couple of years ago, but I don’t know if that app ever went anywhere?
Dating seems like a whole different ballgame to what it was when I met my long suffering wife.
If I were to become single - for whatever reason - I think my only option would be to ask my daughter “Do any of your friends have a mom who’s available? An aunt would do, as well”
I can’t imagine that would go over well LOL
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My advice… Dont look for someone that does this sport. Find someone that lives a healthy lifestyle. I tried to date “Triathletes” for 18 year before I met my wife. She runs and does yoga. It’s so nice having our own hobbies that we can support each other at. You dont want someone you are either half wheeling or trying to half wheel you.
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Dating seems like a whole different ballgame to what it was when I met my long suffering wife.
If I were to become single - for whatever reason - I think my only option would be to ask my daughter “Do any of your friends have a mom who’s available? An aunt would do, as well”
I can’t imagine that would go over well LOL
F’ing hilarious
I learned early on to never date anyone who did anything *close *to what I did
I was in a band, and was something of a songwriter and started dating a girl who imagined herself a poet
That ended very VERY badly
So, I decided to look at the things I do, things that are important to me, and made an effort *not *get involved with anyone who does those things - or worse, lets those things define her - lest it become competitive and ruin everything
YMMV
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Trying to date into your 40’s is digging through the dumpster of the dating world. It is not worth your time, effort, money or sanity. If they are not knocking down your door, let it go, they are not and will not ever be that interested in you, no matter how much you invest in the pursuit.
Don’t chase. Replace (with pursuing your career, focus on your kids, develop your athletic potential).
I cannot recommend enough finding a significant other who is very, very closely aligned in mindset and habits of a performance sport lifestyle similar to one’s own.
I met my wife at a triathlete party.
Our training time is synched (most of the time), so we’re spending our free time together in most of the same places at the same times.
We do A LOT—nearly all—of our workouts together.
We buy two sets of everything. It makes things simple and equitable.
As far as in-house competition: her w/kg is pro cyclist level (I have to keep my ego in check when Zwifting), and her swim is way out FOP.
We do happy hours in the evenings knowing that we’ll hold each other accountable and get each other out of bed the following morning pre-work training sessions.
The time and financial commitments will likely be less of an issue than if otherwise, and I’d go so far as to say allow for a long and happy marriage.
I am her biggest supporter and fan, and I think (hope!) that she’d say the same about me.
I was in a band, and was something of a songwriter and started dating a girl who imagined herself a poet
Derailing this (Slowtwitch style): What band(s)? Did you play the Khyber, Silk City, or the North Star?
This was in the 80s, you would never heard of them
Bent Cement was one, Katz On Assid was another, others that never got as far as keeping a name for long
The Black Denims - we thought it would be clever to just put “TBD” on the flyers, and see who’d show up, expecting something special — nope, just us, and we sucked
Played some gigs at UPenn, Drexel, Temple, plus Abe’s Steaks; Dobbs & Khyber one time each
Toured on weekends up to Poughkeepsie , down to DE, MD as far as V-Beach
There’s a story about why I’m not allowed in Ohio, but that’s for another day
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There is a pretty entertaining FB group called IM singles. Not sure what you are looking for exactly but plenty of options out there.
Nothing beats meeting people in real life. Try joining a cycling, running or triathlon club.
And it seems as if you have been out of the “game” for a bit…do some research 
Are all ages shows even a thing anymore?
This was in the 80s, you would never heard of them
Bent Cement was one, Katz On Assid was another, others that never got as far as keeping a name for long
The Black Denims - we thought it would be clever to just put “TBD” on the flyers, and see who’d show up, expecting something special — nope, just us, and we sucked
So you opened for the bands that opened for the bands that opened for the Dead Milkmen? 
Played some gigs at UPenn, Drexel, Temple, plus Abe’s Steaks; Dobbs & Khyber one time each
Toured on weekends up to Poughkeepsie , down to DE, MD as far as V-Beach
There’s a story about why I’m not allowed in Ohio, but that’s for another day
Brag-worthy story I’m sure.
Can you please link that site on FB? I can’t find it. Thank you!🤗
I actually been focusing on work, kids and triathlon pretty long time now. Kids are teenagers, I am a chef opthalmologist and had been to Kona several times best is 5th place. So actually longings after a partner to share the journey with. But the town is small and very unsocial.
Nothing beats meeting people in real life. Try joining a cycling, running or triathlon club.
And it seems as if you have been out of the “game” for a bit…do some research
Or maybe OP could ask the teenagers if they have any friends with single parents? Just because it wouldn’t work for me, doesn’t mean it wouldn’t work for them
Hi Everyone!
…I dont really find anyone near who is interested in sports and free! …
So you’ve been paying for them?
J/K…
Weren’t there a couple of threads on Tri-Newbies and BeginnierTriathlete that would be educational about now?