Haha…ok, not free bit singel 😀
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Here are all the proven, tried and tested tips you’ll need.
I can’t guarantee success with them, yet I can, almost, guarantee you’ll have a pretty good time, until you don’t.
You can thank me for doing the years of research and hard work for you.
Replying to the last post but did enjoy and appreciate Brian’s post and advice from his link
I feel like it’s a miracle I’m still married after almost 26 years. I’m a handful and my husband is a saint. Lots of ups and downs but still many good times. Together we have done road bike racing in the 90s, marathons and all the training later in our early 40s and then full-on triathlons - fulls and half Ironmans in our late 40s, my husband hitting 50 yrs old. Now in our early to mid 50s, it’s just me pursuing long course triathlons and I can say it’s so much BETTER with just me doing all the training and racing. He is thrilled to be pursuing other hobbies and he is over the moon doing projects all around the house and on our property. While I’m on my bike trainer or on a long gravel bike ride on a Saturday, he is more than happy to play with his toys (tractor, chainsaw, welder, endless power tools. Sometimes he goes down to his buddy Jim’s place and they play with their toys together lol). And it’s nice when I get done with a long training session, he is more than willing to help out with food. I remember when we both got done with 5-7 hour training days on a Saturday afternoon, we could barely make ourselves a sandwich. Now I have someone to take care of me after the really tough training days and also at races. When we both did Ironmans, we didn’t have a sherpa or any support. Now I have the best sherpa in the world. I know some of this is a bit selfish sounding but just being honest.
My simple advice is to find a nice person who shares your values. Someone kind, someone you are attracted to. Someone who shares your sense of humor. Someone to share the mundane as well as the exciting times in life. I wouldn’t make being an athlete or triathlete a requirement. Brian is right. It will be fun until it’s not when dating another triathlete.
ETA: forgot to mention that traveling with two bike cases overseas or across the country was such a drag when we both did full and half Ironmans together. Travel is now much easier and simpler with one bike case.
ETA: another one 
And I would lie if I said we didn’t bicker once in a while or get cross with each other on mile 80 or 90 of a 100 plus mile bike ride.
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Ok,not where??? I do not explicitly want a traithlate but I just can’t find anyone here in this small city, I do not have friends here neither family apart from my teenagers. I just want a nice partner whatever he does but it seems like impossible.
Ok,not where??? I do not explicitly want a traithlate but I just can’t find anyone here in this small city, I do not have friends here neither family apart from my teenagers. I just want a nice partner whatever he does but it seems like impossible.
I live in small town too and it’s hard for single people here to find partners. I do have a wondaful single friend who has been looking for a while. He is a close friend and neighbor. He is divorced with a 22 yr old son who has his own apartment. He is a competitive open water swimmer and does a bit of running too. He is such a lovely man. But we are over 3,000 miles away from you in rural Vermont, USA.
I’d like to believe there is someone out there for all of us. I am sending you my best wishes.
It can be challenging to find quality available humans the older we get…but not impossible. Dating a triathlete can be a really amazing and fulfilling adventure and if that is something that you are interested in looking into then putting yourself out into the same waters as other triathletes would be one way to meet other like-minded individuals.
Are there any local-ish triathlon clubs, running clubs, or masters type swim groups near you that you could join? That would be a decent place to start and could help you grow your network of friends in the sport.
Here are all the proven, tried and tested tips you’ll need.
I can’t guarantee success with them, yet I can, almost, guarantee you’ll have a pretty good time, until you don’t.
You can thank me for doing the years of research and hard work for you.
https://forum.slowtwitch.com/...ost=7324996#p7324996
I think I said this before, but your advice of “volunteering” for a big race and Tindering the whole weekend is just gold.
Those are really good suggestions!
I’d agree dating a triathlete is a wonderful adventure and one i’m happy to be enjoying… economies of scale make traveling much easier and way more fun!
Unfortunately, I dropped out a few years ago as I have been in a serious relationship ever since.
Stay out of Craiglists personal’s by the way.
It is a small town, I know everyone who is doing triathlon,swimrun or running and all of them are in a relationship. Also it is Sweden, people are very in social and closed. 
( I am not swedish originally)
I might try this “onsite tindering” but that must be like somewhere abroad.
I’d agree dating a triathlete is a wonderful adventure and one I’m happy to be enjoying
My wife would disagree. She claims that when we first started dating I was “doing some sort of race every weekend”
My collection of bibs, preserved in a few scrapbooks, is evidence to the contrary, but I’ve learned to just say “yeah, sorry about that”
She also likes to say that we were dating for more than a month before she saw me “in the daylight”
Trying to date into your 40’s is digging through the dumpster of the dating world. It is not worth your time, effort, money or sanity. If they are not knocking down your door, let it go, they are not and will not ever be that interested in you, no matter how much you invest in the pursuit.
Don’t chase. Replace (with pursuing your career, focus on your kids, develop your athletic potential).
Show us on the doll where and how she hurt you.
My advice… Dont look for someone that does this sport. Find someone that lives a healthy lifestyle. I tried to date “Triathletes” for 18 year before I met my wife. She runs and does yoga. It’s so nice having our own hobbies that we can support each other at. You dont want someone you are either half wheeling or trying to half wheel you.
Ditto…
My ex was my “twin”…it didn’t go well.
Present wife : she’s just my opposite, and generally hates sport (plays a bit of tennis though). And since ten years it has been just perfect.
…and to be comprehensive, though I like triathlon very much, I now appreciate to socialize out of the triathlon world…(not that I dislike speaking of high elbow, carbon frame, and HIIT…but not 24/24…)
“Every day is like survival. You’re my lover not my rival.”
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I created an online profile after 20 years of marriage and a divorce. Met someone who did not really do sports other than gym and yoga. But who is very happy to cheer me on and to come to my races for moral support. We just got married. I wish everyone a partner like that.
I would never want to date a triathlete lol
Hi Everyone!
I am a single 46 yo triathlete ( +doctor) with three teenagers every other week. I do can make free time for dating but I dont really find anyone near who is interested in sports and free! Everytime seems to be in a relation. Tried little online dating but did not find any site that is more for people who train. Live in a quite small town where people are quite closed, not very social. ( in Sweden) I don’t have any friends here either.( all are living in other countries)
Does anyone know a date site for triathletes or peolple who are more active? Or any tips I could use? Thank you
I can’t think of anything worse than dating a triathlete!
I created an online profile after 20 years of marriage and a divorce. Met someone who did not really do sports other than gym and yoga. But who is very happy to cheer me on and to come to my races for moral support. We just got married. I wish everyone a partner like that.
I would never want to date a triathlete lol
I think this is the key. Having a partner that supports you and believes in you. And will be happy to be your sherpa (helps you at the event) and support at an Ironman or similar endeavor. It doesn’t get better than crossing the finish line at a half or full Ironman and seeing my husband just outside the finish area. Now the other key is making sure you give back to your partner. Support him/her in their hobbies/passions. In the off-season, make time for him/her, more than you would during the heavy training periods.
I can’t think of anything worse than dating a triathlete!
Sure you *can!!! *Use your imagination!!!
Maybe start with something easy and work from there - like a swarm of fire ants!!! LOL
Just to clarify — we’re talking about dating a triathlete, which implies an ongoing personal investment, involving making plans and spending time, vs. a random post-race/T3 hookup in the parking lot
Right?
Hey OP, adding my $0.02 here. I had a friend who was long-term single and lamenting the lack of quality singles in the market.
My advice to him (which I know have to remind myself of, as I just recently found myself to be single and concerned about the dumpster-fire that appears to be the singles scene in my area) was this:
Finding a person is like finding a job, the perfect ones come on the public market very infrequently so you 1) have to always be networking, 2) be subscribed to all the public places one of these “jobs” might come up, and 3) be maximally flexible in your requirements while also getting what you want.
For #1, join clubs directly-aligned with the type of partner you are seeking. That could be a tri/running/cycling/skiing/etc… club; multiple clubs/groups are best. Let people know (subtly) that you are in the market for a partner. Remind people occasionally. Be patient, eventually this may bear fruit.
For #2, online dating all the time, you have to be always reviewing new profiles and updating yours - like a resume and job board.
For #3, make a list of “must haves” and if you don’t find someone after 6 months that reasonably fits the bill, then there is something wrong with the pond in which you are fishing (might have to move) or your requirements.
A long time ago a friend gave me great advice when I was single (and annoyed about it) and looking - “man, either be patient or move” - I didn’t move, but I was patient. I may have to move this go-around as the late 30’s/early 40’s singles scene here is (as mentioned above) a dumpster.
Good luck in your search!!
I can’t think of anything worse than dating a triathlete!
Sure you *can!!! *Use your imagination!!!
Maybe start with something easy and work from there - like a swarm of fire ants!!! LOL
Just to clarify — we’re talking about dating a triathlete, which implies an ongoing personal investment, involving making plans and spending time, vs. a random post-race/T3 hookup in the parking lot
Right?
I still have scars on my knees from my last parking lot tryst 20 years ago haha