I have a different theory on this that does not involve everyone being evil. And we see this kind of behavior in many settings where there are really good people that appear to shelter people they should abhor.
The vast majority of priests and other clergy are really good people. The vast majority of people working in the Boy Scouts are really good people. The vast majority of people involved in kids sports are good people. Joe Paterno did not appear to be an evil man at all. The administrations of many colleges do not seem to all be evil. Etc. etc. And the abusers don’t run around with long rain coats making themselves obvious.
I have seen this happen with people I know.
We have really good people who seem to be in league with sexual abusers and giving them cover. I find it really difficult to believe they are all evil at their core or just trying to protect their brand. Because when the abuse comes out it is pretty devastating to the brand. So why the disconnect?
We also see a related behavior with people dealing with malignant narcissists. It is really hard for good people to understand that people they know and many times like are just plain bad people and doing horrendous things. If I start with the idea that Bob is a good guy that I like and I have spent a lot of time around, it is hard to believe when someone comes along and says, “Bob has been molesting me”. Bob tells me, “I would never do that.” And he sure does sound sincere. And then people gravitate towards thinking the abused is confused or making it up.
So we don’t believe the abused. And to try to make the situation go away, because no one wants to have to confront this head on, we ask Bob to maybe switch leagues/Boy Scout troops/churches/etc. thinking this will make everyone more comfortable. And of course Bob goes and ingratiates himself to the new people and the cycle starts again.
I think it comes from a blind spot created when people know the abuser, like the abuser before this comes out, and the abuser not presenting as a monster in public.
That doesn’t mean the organizations get a pass. Certainly not now that we have seen this pattern over and over. But maybe the enablers are not bad people, just people that didn’t do the right thing.
Your reply is thoughtful. And I kind of agree that the predators are not necessarily “evil”, they are just profoundly mentally ill.
I have a much more difficult time agreeing with you about the non mentally ill people high up (and not high up) in organizations (catholic church, boy scouts of america, mormon church, etc.) those who enable and protect predators, and do it again and again and again. That seems plainly evil.