How long generally do you take to respond to a text?
Specifically sometimes I ask friends if they want to do something later (last second tickets to games, etc). And some friends take hours to get back. I feel like if they have taken an hour I can ask go on to the next person.
Context dependent.
If they’re a daily contact, within minutes if I’m not busy. If it’s an occasional contact and the message isn’t time sensitive, 0-48 hours.
Regardless of context, my wife will return a text anywhere between never and immediately, though the response may be completely unrelated to what she’s responding to.
I never know what someone has going on or that they even received my text, so I have no set expectations of response time.
I read this as I currently have 34 in that red box next to me text messages. I cannot remember the last time it didn’t have a red box.
But I respond to others much more quickly (wife, employees, etc) much faster than others.
I agree that it’s context dependent. If i’m in an ongoing conversation with a friend, it’s as soon as it’s safe and reasonable for me to reply (not driving, not during lecture etc).
If it’s my wife, same as above. We’re both understanding of work and school schedules, and things just come up sometimes that you have to take care of.
If it’s anything else, then as soon as I have a moment where I have nothing going on. I’m in no hurry to reply usually. I won’t wait days, but if it’s the next morning, or after my entire shift at work, that’s okay. I don’t feel the need to be 100 percent connected, 100 percent of the time.
Once a read a text, I usually respond within minutes if I can. But I can sometimes take hours before getting around to reading them.
Pretty much right away, unless I’m driving or something like that. Mine show up on my Apple Watch so I just have to lift my wrist up to read them.
Pretty much right away, unless I’m driving or something like that. Mine show up on my Apple Watch so I just have to lift my wrist up to read them.
Same here. Of course it depends on time of day. If I’m sleeping I shut the phone off. Phone is synced with Garmin so even if the phone is in another room, my watch buzzes and I can at least read it. Finding where my phone is to repsond is another matter…sometimes it’s in the swim backpack, or on the charger, or in a jacket. I seem to play hide & seek with the phone at times…it usually wins & I have to use the land line to call it so I can find it.
If I’m not driving nearly right away.
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Unless I am driving, it really depends on weather. Weather actually dictates my text response time for a lot of my business - the real estate photography side. I call it “fluid” texting. Recently, I have had several clients who I don’t even answer or take my time to answer, because they have booked with me, and when I arrived at the property it was not even close to being ready for photos. While I hate to charge them a cancellation fee or not answer their text, they know me well enough that I am pissed if either happens. For the most part, there is the un-texted rule that they don’t waste my other client’s time, some of whom they may have to deal with in future real estate transactions.
It depends on the time of day for me most of the time. If I get a text in the morning from my girlfriend, I’ll usually wait a few minutes to respond, otherwise it looks like I’m glued to my phone when I should be getting ready for work. Also, if you respond right away, then you have to maintain the fast response time with future texts. Otherwise it looks like you’ve moved on to more important things.
If I’m in bed, I try not to use my phone at all as it just keeps me awake and hurts my eyes. I’m on the computer enough already at work, why would I want to spend more time on these darn things, like I am now lol.
Context dependent.
If they’re a daily contact, within minutes if I’m not busy. If it’s an occasional contact and the message isn’t time sensitive, 0-48 hours.
Regardless of context, my wife will return a text anywhere between never and immediately, though the response may be completely unrelated to what she’s responding to.
I never know what someone has going on or that they even received my text, so I have no set expectations of response time.
This.
I am consciously trying to slow down text responses is some cases now. I find the instinct and expectation to respond immediately is counterproductive sometimes.
And I dislike the chain, stream of consciousness texts. My wife does this. I text if she wants me to pick up dinner. Half a dozen texts follow:
“I don’t know, maybe. Sure”
Where are you thinking"
“Wimsey jr wants a meatball sub”
“We need milk. Also, swim lessons tomorrow”
“What’s your status? We are hungry”
“If you stop at CVS, I need some allergy medicine”
When I’m with clients I may not check my phone for a few hours. If a friend offered tickets and I didn’t response promptly, and he found someone else I wouldn’t be offended in the slightest.
Outside of work hours I usually respond quickly. I only almost never text with clients outside of scheduling. Sometimes I leave my phone in the kitchen and get busy doing stuff around the house and may not see the text for a few hours.
I know I should hate myself for being this way, especially since I am 34 years old and should know better than to ever call or (gasp) leave a VM. But if it is truly time sensitive like I have extra tickets for 5 hours from now and need to fill them, I would call the list in order, not text. If no answer, immediately move on to the next. Sending texts in that situation just makes a mess.
Context dependent.
If they’re a daily contact, within minutes if I’m not busy. If it’s an occasional contact and the message isn’t time sensitive, 0-48 hours.
Regardless of context, my wife will return a text anywhere between never and immediately, though the response may be completely unrelated to what she’s responding to.
I never know what someone has going on or that they even received my text, so I have no set expectations of response time.
This.
I am consciously trying to slow down text responses is some cases now. I find the instinct and expectation to respond immediately is counterproductive sometimes.
And I dislike the chain, stream of consciousness texts. My wife does this. I text if she wants me to pick up dinner. Half a dozen texts follow:
“I don’t know, maybe. Sure”
Where are you thinking"
“Wimsey jr wants a meatball sub”
“We need milk. Also, swim lessons tomorrow”
“What’s your status? We are hungry”
“If you stop at CVS, I need some allergy medicine”
I envy you. For That type of conversation my wife frequently gives my kid her phone to do the actual texting as she’s busy driving, working on her laptop etc. That invariably results in a metric ton of poop emojis mixed with very little actually useful information.
An 11 yo boy’s stream of consciousness can be frightening.