I get along with just about anyone, you have to be a fairly arrogant ass for me to genuinely dislike you, but it seems like a lot of people have a much lower threshold for disliking someone. Thinking about this in relationship to a hiring/promotion decision and a person who really seems to be disliked by a number of other people being a candidate. While I wouldn’t say I dislike them, I wouldn’t hang out with them if I didn’t work with them, and I definitely see some of the things that others are less understanding of.
So what do you think as far personality traits or behaviors that push people towards disliking someone?
A total lack of humility, humanity and introspection
I met someone a couple of weeks ago who behaved like they were doing me a favour and I should be grateful to be in their presence. That sort of behaviour just grates, and the complete callousness of some people posting at present about 400 children being killed daily I find pretty disgusting.
I met someone a couple of weeks ago who behaved like they were doing me a favour and I should be grateful to be in their presence. That sort of behaviour just grates
Really good one. I would add someone who is unable to look at things with different perspectives and is unwilling to listen.
I met someone a couple of weeks ago who behaved like they were doing me a favour and I should be grateful to be in their presence. That sort of behaviour just grates
Really good one. I would add someone who is unable to look at things with different perspectives and is unwilling to listen.
Both of these are very good. When I read them, my mind immediately jumped to a couple of people I know.
I edited it to include the other thing that annoys me which your point goes to. The total blind spots of people is just a degree of ignorance I’ve no time for
I met someone a couple of weeks ago who behaved like they were doing me a favour and I should be grateful to be in their presence. That sort of behaviour just grates
Really good one. I would add someone who is unable to look at things with different perspectives and is unwilling to listen.
Both of these are very good. When I read them, my mind immediately jumped to a couple of people I know.
Yes this person thinks they are not “defensive” but are incredibly defensive. This seems like the source of a lot of the friction between them and students, no other faculty seem to have this problem but it seems like whenever they review exams it turns into a big contentious argument with the students, like it happens consistently, year in year out.
There’s an asterisk on this for me. If the person genuinely isn’t aware - for example, some people with autism - I don’t hold it against them.
I think this is somewhat related to being very rigid. In general when people discuss things there’s a give and take, you may allow some things to go because it would be rude to call someone out on it, generally you give the other person the benefit of the doubt in the name of coming to some sort of understanding that doesn’t leave either person feeling aggrieved.
But if you’re the kind of person who plants a flag in the ground and there is no give and take, and you’re looking to be critical of anything they say that deviates from your position,* people are going to find you off putting.
*Which is basically how most people behave on internet forums.
Windy IS popular precisely because he shows none of these attributes.
He is our resident psychopath.
He is well loved.
You are unpopular because you show most of these attributes. (Usually not all at once though. So most people will forgive you).
I am honest, have integrity, and logical. My policy is you can call me almost anything but call me a liar and you’re dead to me.
I concede humility is for the peasants
Please refer to post #2.
You need to concede the other two attributes as well.
Humanity and introspection? I possess both.
If this is about Gaza that goes to being logical. I erased what I wrote so as to not derail the thread since there are several Israel threads already. However I stand by my position that just shrugging your shoulders because the enemy lair is under a hospital is not a legitimate expectation for how Israel should address the issue.