I have a couple thoughts.
This one is too late: Don’t ever date a co-worker.
This one you should follow: Let it go. You let her go for a reason. Think about that. Don’t waste your time and effort focusing energy on a relationship you knew was broken. I know, easier said than done, but, you have to look at it this way.
You are broken up - move on. If it was OK for the two of you to date as coworkers, what is wrong with her dating a different coworker? sorry, but I think this is a YOU issue.
This one you should follow: Let it go. You let her go for a reason. Think about that. Don’t waste your time and effort focusing energy on a relationship you knew was broken. I know, easier said than done, but, you have to look at it this way.
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Transferred? If you are lucky you won’t get fired. Although, not sure what your work environment is like. Most of corporate American does not want to hear about your personal problems.
If you are going to “dip the pen in the company ink” you need to seperate work and love.
I met my wife at a place I worked at. Dated a bunch of people within the company and so did my wife. We might have talked about our relationship(s) over Happy Hour, but we never stormed into an office because of an issue.
Besides, you got her first. You can always ask Mr. Muscles what your d*ck tastes like.
"Since then I’ve talked to my boss about transfering and have told both my ex girlfriend and my co worker who’s office is right next to mine to fuck off and don’t ever talk to me. Thoughts? Am I going crazy? "
Not sure what line of work you’re in, but none of this sounds like the kind of response that would be tolerated in most adult workplaces. You have to let it go, and not let it interfere with your work, or else find somewhere else to work. The “don’t ever talk to me” crap among people who have to work together is pretty juvenile.
better finding out now than at the office christmas party i guess.
Yes, you are being immature. I know it sucks but you are going to have to man up and deal with it. Never, ever, let this interfere with your work again. Don’t talk about it, ever, to anyone at work. Even if you can’t get past it, you have to be an adult and not acknowledge it at work then go home and cry.
As others have said, never date a co-worker again.
All three of you clowns should be fired. 6 billion people in the world and you 3 want to play hide the sausage with co-workers in the same office?!?! WTF? The office is a workplace not a singles bar. Big lack of judgment - now py the piper. Shit canning all 3 of you may be the best thing the company could do. The good news is that after you get fired you are free to kick the shit out of the douche bag frat boy and let your ex know she is a cunt.
All three of you clowns should be fired. 6 billion people in the world and you 3 want to play hide the sausage with co-workers in the same office?!?! WTF? The office is a workplace not a singles bar. Big lack of judgment - now py the piper. Shit canning all 3 of you may be the best thing the company could do. The good news is that after you get fired you are free to kick the shit out of the douche bag frat boy and let your ex know she is a cunt.
7 Billion People Man…I already let her know that she is a hypocritical slut (multiple times).
So let me get this straight, You wouldn’t let her move back in to your place, so she was still sort of digging you, right? I’d play this card, call for a meeting for all 3 of you and play this card: Menage au Trois. If it works, you’re welcome. If it doesn’t and her new meathead says anything he is going to look like a douche, so again, you’re welcome.
I have a couple thoughts.
This one is too late: Don’t ever date a co-worker.
I married mine. Best decision of my life bar none.
The lesson here is never get your meat and bread from the same store.
At university I was dating a girl that was in a few of my classes. At the time I thought that I was serious about her. We always sat next together. Then she dumped me and we suddenly sat at other ends of the classroom. She then started dating another guy in the class. It was humiliating seeing them together, but I never made that same mistake again.
Toughen up Princess. If it makes you feel any better simply look at him and say “She’s your headache now” and then move on. And NEVER do what you did again unless you want to have a series of very short careers. In most companies your ass would have, and should have been on the street in a matter of moments.
There’s been some good advice above, yet no one has suggested the smartest next step.
Right now, while the emotions are raw and absorbing your thoughts, you need to go out and get a tattoo that records the entire narrative for posterity. Otherwise, 6 months from now you’ll be dating someone else, thinking she’s the greatest ever, and you’ll have all but forgotten this little melodrama. With the right tattoo, you can remember it forever, and share it with future loved ones.
You know it’s the right move. Get to it.
Join my religion and I am promoting you to my “Worldly Advice” divison. That is some solid advice.
HR is going to have a field day with this.
HR is going to have a field day with this.
I was thinking the same thing. 
Bang the cleaning lady on your ex’s desk. It willl probably be gross and you’ll probably get a disease, but talk about teaching her a lesson.
Barring that, suck it up and move on.
I think your reaction is a little extreme to be honest. You didn’t want her back and now she is free to choose who she dates.
Ask yourself this question. “If she was available would I date her again right now?” If the answer is no, then who cares who she dates. If the answer is yes, then you have to deal with letting her go and find someone else.
And keep things at work to yourself. Going to your boss and asking to be transferred will get you out the door, but not with that Company. You need to go out and find a nice girl and forget about this one.
I am fortunate enough to have a supportive and understanding boss who is also my friend…the same goes for my general manager. I have discussed my options with both of them. Quite frankly we are all care about each other and treat each other like family. Both of them obviously are unhappy with the situation while also caring about my me both professionally and personally. I am a seasoned vet regarding my job and do damn well at it. With the current situation I know I would be doing my team a disservice as well as myself by gutting this one out that is why I requested a transfer. There are enough clubs with the company that I work with that a transfer would work. An experienced salesman that knows the product is valuable anywhere. On a positive note my 30 min commute to work will be cut down to 10 min. I appreciate all of the responses…not quit expected but appreciated none the less. As I eluded to before this was a way of venting how I was feeling, plus I wanted to hear what JSA had to say;-)