Revisted from an earlier (no pun intended) thread. Ken had asked why some people can’t be punctual.
I had written this before, but there was something my bass player said recently that really drove it home. I think a lot of the time, people who are constantly late are late because they don’t like waiting for late people. They also seem to have a complete disconnect such that they don’t seem to understand that they cause the same annoyances to everyone else when they are late themselves.
Anyway, my guitar player is chronically late. Two shows ago load in was at 8:00 and we opened at 9:00. He didn’t arrive until 8:40. Now if you aren’t a musician, you may not understand the impact that this has. At 8:40, he has to load in his gear, tune it, and we have to finish sound check in 20 minutes, which is really pushing it. In addition, if we go on late, that pushes every other band back and ends up cutting people’s sets short. Also, if the band goes on late, then everyone who was expecting the band to go on at 9:00 now has to sit in a boring, quiet bar when they came and paid for live music. In this particular instance, the promoter was hoping to have us sound checked by 8:30 and then have the DJ play for a half an hour.
So for our last show I made it clear that he had to be on time. He showed up on time and then was annoyed that the band that came on before us ended up going on an hour later than we were told. FWIW, they were told to go on later because the bar was pretty empty and there was room to push the show back. Most of us don’t mind, because we understand that part of putting on a show is staying around and supporting each other (i.e. most of us just expected to be there the whole time anyway).
Anyway, he made it pretty clear to me that he did not want to show up too early if it turned out that everything would go on later than planned.
I’ve noticed this behavior with several band members in general. They don’t want to be the one waiting for someone else to get ready, so they always make sure that they are the last to be ready. This becomes a particular problem when you have more than one person with this attitutude, because it becomes a competition to see who can be the latest.
Two bands ago, this was the battle between our singer and bass player. Singer didn’t like waiting for people to plug in and tune, so he’d roll in 20 minutes late. The bass player didn’t like waiting 20 minutes for the singer, so he’d show up 20 minutes late…which then got the singer to start showing up 40 minutes late.