What’s the biggest disaster you’ve ever had?
Thankfully, there were no major disasters. Although I’ve left the online dating world after a year, the experience was a good one overall. I had a few wonderful successes and some failures, but nothing disastrous.
I was shocked a few times by propositions I received (thank goodness you can block other profiles) and was amazed that some people obviously don’t read your profile before contacting you repeatedly, but I don’t know that any of that is really all that different from the real world.
I’ve had two internet romances in my time.
The first was with a woman who seemed like a nice lady at first. It later turned out she was a low intensity, daily maintenance meth addict. All the signs were there, but I was blinded by the incredible physical chemistry we had initially. She evidently quit briefly when we first hooked up resulting in her sleeping for several days at a time and binge eating amazing amounts of food for a woman with a 90 lb frame the rare moments she was awake before she’d go back to sleep for another day. She claimed she had MS and this was part of her symptoms. When she started doing drugs again, it was obvious even to a person like me who previously had never been knowingly around a hardcore addict. I’d walk in on her passed out on the bathroom floor. She’d lose her temper and start breaking things. She couldn’t hold a job. She pawned the bike I built for her. And many things of a far more extreme nature I don’t even want to recall. It was ugly.
On the other hand, I had an incredible online friendship where we talked every day for over a year before finally meeting up. When we did, it was magical . . . for a month. Then it quickly became shallow and petty. Our split was mature and on good terms, but we no longer speak. C’est la vie!