and I’m old but my high school son just got dumped by his girlfriend last night via text message.Ouch! I guess he should be pleased she didn’t do it on myspace.
Sounds like he came out ahead on that deal. Classy girl.
man, I’ve got dumped by text, IM, e-mail, you name it. the absolute worst was a girl dumping me, and then asking for a ride home.
It gets better. She did it because she sneaked into his car and got his phone and read his text messages and found one from his former girlfriend that he is honestly not interested in. She said something like “good match” after his tennis match and so that is classified as cheating and ground for a text message breakup.
I guess he should be pleased she didn’t do it on myspace.
My wife’s cousin was working at a pizza place (he’s considerably younger than us). His boss paid him, the cousin, some money to set up a myspace account for him, because it seems that the boss-guy was completely unable to figure that out for himself. So my wife’s cousin does this, and then works his regular shift that night.
When the cousin gets home and checks his own myspace site, he finds out that his boss just fired him from the pizza place. Pretty low!
Sorry about your boy.
Bernie
Sounds like the boy should chalk this up to an example of dodging a bullet. He probably doesn’t see it that way now, but he will.
I think to teens it’s just another way of communicating. Was your son upset that it was via text?
I think I found the text method more curious than him. Like you said, it was probably just standard operating procedure to him.
One of my favorite songs by Nada Surf, Popular, addresses the correct way to break up. Of course this was before texting became prevalent. Jeez, I guess even I am old.
Three important rules for breaking up
Don’t put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don’t make a big production
Don’t make up an elaborate story
This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you’ve gone together for only a short time,
And haven’t been too serious,
There’s still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she prefers the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you’re honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you break the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he’ll apeciate the kind of straight foward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he’s a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends
that’s a song?
Its a verse of a pretty rockin’ song. 90s Alternative.
Whatever happened to tradition?
Whatever happened to saying “I break with thee, I break with thee, I break with thee”, and throwing dog poopie on their shoes?
Geez, I wish text messaging was around when I was that age. There is nothing worse that having to sit through the whole “We need to talk, it’s not you it’s me” routine. 
***Unless he’s a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends ***
How does that remain friends thing work?
When I ended it with my last significant girlfriend, the issue of remaining friends came up. Her comment. “Brian, I don’t want you as a friend, I have enough friends. I want a boyfriend.”
I have felt the same thing when I was the other end of a break up. Staying friends is the last thing I want.
“It gets better. She did it because she sneaked into his car and got his phone and read his text messages and found one from his former girlfriend that he is honestly not interested in.”
eh, given that info she did him a favor. If I were him and found out she broke into my car I’d break up with her.
That chick has no class. Remeber that Sex And The City when Burger dumped Carey with a Post It note?
Although most of those lines are good I would refer you to the ladder theory HERE concerning this issue, Unless he’s a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends.
According to this theory “Remaining friends” is not a viable solution for men.
~Matt
I think to teens it’s just another way of communicating.
Which is part of the problem. There is a certain breed of monkies that use sexual intercourse as a method of greeting. They think it’s “Just another way of communicating”
~Matt
I still consider my ex-fiancee a friend. Pretty much at arms length, only communicate through email these days and mostly its baby announcements or vacation photos. But I still consider him a friend and I know he’d help me out if I needed him to, as I would him.
Granted in the first year after we broke up it got strained at times. We had a friend say to us once: “either you 2 get along or I’m doing everything twice because I can’t handle hanging out with you together”.
We’ve both moved on happily and relatively baggage free.
She sounds like a real piece of work and he should be glad to be rid of her. Sneaking around to dig up something on him that doesn’t exist, then not having the stones to break it off with him in person. Her parents should be proud they’ve raised such a self confident girl who has some common decency to treat people in the same way she would expect to be treated.