Well it is your fault.
If I were dating now or anytime in the last 10 years it would be online. Filter out the noise before making any real effort. Been there, donât care to go back.
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She grew up a Niners fan, dad was from the bay area. She kept his name, I got team loyalty rights in the dowry.
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No, she has never ridden a bike. I didnât think there were people who had never biked, but there you go.
I met her there and continued for about a year, then was hit by a truck in the U.S, recovered and went back.
What were her first thoughts about you from that meeting?
Iâve set up 4 couples (all still married) from cycling/bike team/other sport. If you want a spouse, come ride with me.
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We met in HS but didnât date each other.
Went to separate colleges after HS but kept in touch. Her sister went to college where I was, and she would visit her sister and say hello to me. I visited friends that went to school where she was, and would say hello to her on those visits.
Eventually she would visit me, and say hi to her sister.
And I wound up making the road trip to visit her, and say hi to my friends.
There was one time I went to visit her and she made the trip to visit me. It was the same weekend.
To this day, the phrase, âIâll see you next weekendâ, or âIâll see you this weekendâ is massively confusing and funny for us.
32 years married. I still take it day to day.
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There is nothing wrong with using your fingers to eat sushi.
Hinge.
Online dating was one of my favorite things.
Her parents and my parents built homes on adjacent lots on a lake my senior year of high school so we met as neighbors. 1âst date to marriage was 6 months to the day and weâve been married over 1/2 my life. (just under 1/2 hers).
Is everyone on this forum straight? 
Define straight.
I am more orb shaped
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I met my wife while messed up at a college party.* Talked for a long time, and then I left, having no game whatsoever. I had recently broken up with my long term high school/college girlfriend. But I knew I really liked her and she was who I was looking for. I knew enough about her to be at a place where she was likely to be, so I hung out there, she showed up, and I asked her over. So, if you count that night as our first date, then I would say very likely it would be a lasting partnership.
Then we dated for a month or two before she broke up with me, which was pretty devastating at the time. I was obviously way more into her than she was into me. A few months later she called me and asked if I wanted to see each other again. So we got back together and within a couple of months** we were traveling across the country spending the whole summer together. We knew we were it for one another by then. Married over 30 years now.
*So that night was not actually the first time we met. We had caught each otherâs eye previously. I had talked to her at a concert about a year earlier. She has pictures of us at a street party but I donât think we talked there.
**My wife has very different memories of this initial period. To her itâs a wonderful love story, about how she realized I was the one, called me to ask me out again, and we sailed off into the sunset. But we recently found some old letters from this time that clearly show it was touch and go even when we got back together. Short of it is, I was all in from the start whereas she was much more cautious and I donât think really into having an intense relationship as opposed to casually dating someone. At some point a switch must have flipped in her head before we set off traveling for that summer.
The Mrs and I met at a restaurant that I worked at in college on New Years Eve. The owners were from the same town as my wife and her and the ownerâs daughter, who was up working that night because we were really busy, were friends. They invited my wife up to hang out for the evening and from the minute she walked in I was on a mission. Hung out all night after work, went to a couple of parties and bars and the rest is history. She was leaving for a 2 week ski trip the following day so we kept in touch over the phone and then had a long distance, 5ish hours, relationship seeing each other on weekends for almost 2 years. When I finally got my act together and graduated I found a job close to where she was and we moved in together. Got engaged a year later on New Years Eve, and got married a year after that. Just celebrated 19 years in January.
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We belonged to the same climbing gym. While waiting for her then-current relationship to end, I asked some questions of her friends as part of my due diligence. Word got back to her. When her other relationship ended, she was not surprised to get a call from me.
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I have often suggested to awkward or shy guys, that they find a girl(s) just to be friends with even if they arenât interested in dating each other. In addition to them learning how to be friends with and talk with girls, it has another effect. When girls see them (the guy) hanging out with other girls, it might help some of them see the guy in a different view.
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I was in college and went to a new church. I went to Sunday School first and didnât know anyone. My now wife noticed that I was new and wasnât talking to anyone, so she came up and we started talking. She said that I was welcome to sit with her and some of her friends if I didnât have anyone to sit with. I did.
After church we were standing around talking as the church emptied. I asked her if she wanted to go get something at the nearby Subway. She accepted. We sat there for an hour or two talking. She talked about her travels in Europe when she was stationed in Germany while in the Army. She asked if I wanted to go back to her place, where she lived with her brother and his best friend, to look at photos from Europe.
I accepted and we spent a couple of more hours talking before I headed home to study. I wasnât thinking âwifeyâ at the time because she was so different (in mostly good ways) from most of the other girls that I had dated up to that point. I continued dating other girls over the next 4-5 weeks and saw that she was the sweetest, kindest girl I had ever dated. I decided that I wanted to marry her
I asked, and she accepted, six weeks into knowing each other. Six months later we were married. This December will be our 34th anniversary.
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Your story venn disgram overlaps with my first marriage by about 95%
Did you write actual letters during that time?
A dance for single parents.