Am I stuck in 1950’s? GF and I have first vacation scheduled. Warm, exotic. Beaches are topless (think south of France). We’re meeting up with two other couples. I told her if she goes topless when we go to the beach I’ll be off on a run. She says it’s no big deal. I told her if it’s no big deal than she won’t miss out on doing it. Impasse.
Yes, you’re stuck in the 1850’s
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This is such an American attitude - and I is one!!! - In Europe most of the mixed saunas are clothes free and many beaches topless. Enjoy. graham
what does this have to do with triathlon?
you do know about the Lavender Room right?
Only pictures can help us decide … 
Dave
+1…
Pics or it didn’t happen
That’s the problem. She’s cute. So some leering balding fat guy will take her picture. Yeah. Screw that. When I swim in the lake, I don’t do it naked. Even though I was born that way and swimming is like done when you’re wet.
Since she’s irrational, I’m scaring her about the internet thing. I’ll keep hammering that home until she relents.
Just smile and be proud shes with you.
I don’t see whats the big deal.
People have to put up with watching you in lycra all the time, this evens out your karma.
That’s the problem. She’s cute. So some leering balding fat guy will take her picture. Yeah. Screw that. When I swim in the lake, I don’t do it naked. Even though I was born that way and swimming is like done when you’re wet.
Since she’s irrational, I’m scaring her about the internet thing. I’ll keep hammering that home until she relents.
Go to Vegas and hit the Euro pools, ala Mandalay Bay in June. It’s not a big deal. She likely won’t run away with another dude. If she does, then she would have some other time anyway. It wouldn’t have been because she got a little more of a tan. If the friends show they should go topless also or they shouldn’t be there.
Dude, just be thankful she’s not all repressed… I’ve known a couple gals that were too hung up to even do it with the lights on.
They look, you touch (and suck and… well, you know).
What harm is going to come from her going topless? Burned boobs? Why don’t you just enjoy it and offer to keep the sunblock applied to the area. Seriously, she’s your girlfriend, not your daughter. Let her be who she is and try loving her for it.
I’ll keep hammering that home until she relents.
This thread is funny, but really, is that the relationship you want?
Prude 
Bernard:
… you should be proud of yourself, you have any idea how hard it is to land yourself a girl as sexually enlightened as Heidi is … a girl like that comes around, what, every 100 years …
Mitch:
… I wasn’t looking for a girl like that …
Bernard: … Columbus wasn’t looking for America, my man, but that seemed to work out perfectly, didn’t it …
This does not sound like a morality issue or a decency issue or an issue about what is proper. Otherwise you would have chosen to go to Amish country in Pennsylvania or you would leave the beach as soon as naked breast appears regardless of to whom it belongs. Your sole issue is her naked breasts. It sounds like a control issue to me. Are you this controlling in other areas? Try relaxing and letting the decision about what she wears fall properly to her. You don’t own her.
It’s a question of time and place. Family beach, USA- no.
Private beach, Dutch Antilles:
Yes.
Now, if you are uncomfortable with it then it is a matter between you and the GF to resolve, but perhaps not relevant to public mores. Speaking of those public conventions and mores, the reaction to the above photo may ruffle a feather or two- but this is a predominantly adult forum and there is no nudity in the technical sense. Just the same, wait ten minutes and check the thread again- someone may take exception to the “appropriate-ness”. For our Euro friends, no issue. Our more conservative ones- issue.
When in Rome…and also when in France do as the natives. You’ll stick out like way too obvious American tourists if you don’t try to blend in. Going beach topless is not a big deal in Europe. Also, if you’re that uptight and controlling and were dating my daughter, I’d hope she’d get rid of you ASAP.
More please.
Nevermind.
If she wants to do it and doesn’t mind taking the risk of a candid shot ending up on the web the let it go.
If this were a pic of your nearly naked arse, you, kind sir, would be an exhibitionist.
Because this is a pic of your wife’s nearly naked arse, you, kind sir, are an asset to this forum.
But query, is there a name for someone who likes to post nearly naked pics of other people? There are a few others who manage to lighten the mood a bit every now and then …
Of course, I am a voyeur but I just don’t have a word for the publishers …