…almost did on the weekend. And we’re old guys. Known the guy all my life, I’m the older one so used to beat him up when we were kids. Sort of a case of nowadays he’s still an a-hole, but still my brother. Always manages to bring the worst out of me just be being a total dick from time to time. Love and hate the guy at the same time.
If you have a brother, please tell me I’m not the only one that gets these feelings.
Maybe you’re the dick.
I have an older brother and I used to want to beat him up (when I was 12). Now that I actually can beat him up I haven’t had any reason.
My sister, on the other hand…
"Maybe you’re the dick. "
Yup, that could be true. But its a good thing I don’t have a sister.
"Maybe you’re the dick. "
Yup, that could be true. But its a good thing I don’t have a sister.
I wasn’t implying that you are. It’s just that I know a guy who is a complete asshole and he is always complaining about how so-and-so is a complete asshole.
Between me and my brother, I’m definately the bigger asshole.
My sister, on the other hand…
All I can say is thank God for tough gun laws here in Oz otherwise my sister and my BIL would be dead and Id be in jail…
I may have wanted to punch one of my brothers recently. He cheated on his wife (again) and the marriage is over.
He would kick my ass if I tried though.
Anyway, the feeling has passed and I didn’t do it.
My brother and I got I into a few Christmas ago. Dad had to separate us (which is funny now since he is upper 60s). I was razzing him probably a bit much and he was drinking. He got in my face and wanted to hit me. I said go for it and reminded him the last time I gave him a free swing (when we were kids). I told him he was still the same little bitch he was 15 years ago. We don’t really talk anymore.
Life’s too short to hold grudges with those that you love. My advice that you didn’t ask for? Call him.
My half brother is 10 years older and havent talked with him in years ( no animosity) but I have a sister that I would not mind smacking the crap out of. Someday I may share the story and it will make sense.
Life’s too short to hold grudges with those that you love. My advice that you didn’t ask for? Call him.
Life is also too short to wrap yourself in unneeded drama caused by loco relatives. The only relationships that I consider mandatory is my wife, my kids and my parents. Sisters and brothers are optional, if they want to be jerks I see no reason that the OP has to put up with them and keep being victimized.
x2 on this. Some of my wife’s brothers and sisters are a-holes. Luckily my wife just ignores them, so we get spared lots of the family drama.
My brother and I had the typical brotherly fights. One day when I was 21, he was 18 something happened and this time “shit got real.” We were arguing and I had enough and went for the take down. I didn’t realize it at the time, but a police car happened to drive by at that time. That led to my brother and I getting arrested for a domestic assault. I got to spend 6 hours in jail and had to drive back to IL from MN to get the court to drop the charges. It was a pain in the ass.
Pretty sure I was the dick growing up. My brother is older but as teens he was shorter. I would pick on him, punching him in arm type of thing. Once I pushed him over the edge, he didn’t seem to share my reservations about punching in the face. That usually ended things in his favor pretty quickly.
My brother is 4 1/2 years older than me. Growing up we got in a lot of fights. As an adult he had anger issues with a lot of people. He would just fly off the handle and go into a semi-rage. He stormed out of several family gatherings for reasons that none of us could ever figure out.
I wrestled all through junior high and high school and grew up to be bigger than him so I never feared him after I was about 12.
Some time when I was around 20 we were joking around squirting each other with spray water bottles. Something set him off and he decided that he was going to charge me. As he grabbed at me I spun him around, took his back, and maybe put him into the wall pretty hard a couple times. I let him go and just walked away. And then I heard my oldest brother who is 15 years older than me say one of those things that still strikes me as being incredibly funny. He says to my middle brother, "I told you a long time ago not to fuck with Joe any more, he’s bigger than us.’
After that, when he would start going off I would just leave. He was always a decent guy, his temper would just go completely out of control.
To my brother’s credit he has gone through a lot of change and I think a decent amount of therapy and has not had an incident like that for over a decade as far as I know.
My brother is two years younger than me, growing up he was the good kid, parents paid for him to go away to college etc. He is now 47 he has had many jobs but never really had what you would consider a career. Divorced his first wife before the divorce was signed knocked up his current wife. they moved from Arizona to California and he had a hard time finding work, anyway he will be spending some time as a guest of the federal government for about 2 years. So now he has a wife, 16 year old step daughter (who hates him) and a 4 year old son. I would love to smack the crap out him
My brother and I had the typical brotherly fights. One day when I was 21, he was 18 something happened and this time “shit got real.” We were arguing and I had enough and went for the take down. I didn’t realize it at the time, but a police car happened to drive by at that time. That led to my brother and I getting arrested for a domestic assault. I got to spend 6 hours in jail and had to drive back to IL from MN to get the court to drop the charges. It was a pain in the ass.
As bad as this reads, I am cracking up.
…almost did on the weekend. And we’re old guys. Known the guy all my life, I’m the older one so used to beat him up when we were kids. Sort of a case of nowadays he’s still an a-hole, but still my brother. Always manages to bring the worst out of me just be being a total dick from time to time. Love and hate the guy at the same time.
If you have a brother, please tell me I’m not the only one that gets these feelings.
Reminds me of Mondays episode of that Eddie and Tamra wedding show.
My fathers son who is 5 years older than myself quite being an ass when my father made him leave the house for good about 20 years ago. Since then, he stopped being my brother (we have different mothers). The day he left my life became a bit sweeter. My father and I have seen him once since then. He will never be missed.
My brother is almost 2yrs older and a former Army Ranger…also 6’4", currently 300+ and maybe the biggest a-hole I have ever met. Every single time we’ve gotten together in the past 5yrs or so it has ended up in a huge argument. He ruins every single family gathering because he treats his wife and kids like garbage, can’t go 5mins without bragging to someone about how much he makes working in the Saudi oil fields (even though my mother and I financially supported his family for almost 4yrs while he was unemployed after he got out of the service), and he’s an alcoholic. I love my sister-in-law and nieces, but he is not a part of my life, and 2 of my other siblings have also made the same decision. He isn’t invited to Christmas this year (all of my siblings are flying to Utah to celebrate in my home) and isn’t invited to my wedding in January.
As far as a physical confrontation, we beat the crap out of each other growing up but it hasn’t happened in probably 20 years. He is well aware that it would last all of 5sec before he either had a heart attack or was knocked unconscious; 10yrs of combat training doesn’t do a whole lot of good when you are so out of shape that you can barely walk up a flight of stairs.
I have not had a physical confrontation with either of my brothers since I was very young, 9 or so I’d guess. Both of my brothers are significantly older then me, 6-8 yrs, so I was the families “Punching bag” and guinea pig for years. Of course this built up a bit of internal rage that was regularly let loose on my part. The day that I got big enough that my oldest brother figured that he could no longer physically control me was the day that it pretty much ended. I just assumed at that point that the idea of dealing with a person that had once again snapped that he could no longer deal with was enough to give pause about starting any conflicts
~Matt
I have three brothers (I’m 3 of 4) and learned early in life to avoid all three. Still do. And we get along great.