I just ran to Target to pick up some Diet Coke for the office. Simple task right, in and out. No such luck. Why you may ask, because people who should not breed had their out of control demon seeds swarming all over the place. The kids were just going wild, yelling, screaming, running away, knocking items off shelves, dancing in the isles, playing videogames oblivious to their cart that had blocked off the isle. Just going ape shit without a care for anybody but themselves.
And what were all the mothers (it was 100% moms in this case) of these future voters doing, you guessed it, not a damn thing. Some were talking on cell phone, “ya, shopping at Target, you?” Some were quietly and nicely asking their kids to improve their behavior but not following through. But most were just ignoring the out of control behavior like it wasn’t happening. So of course the kids have to get louder and louder in an attempt to get some reaction from the neglectful parent.
Having kids is like doing an Ironman. Sure anybody can do it but you have to put the work in if you want a positive result. Those of you thinking about having kids but are not quite sure, do us all a favor and don’t. They are not pets, they are not plants, they are not finishers medals to show off to your friends, they are little humans and if you don’t put in the time and work they will end up being out of control little assholes and you will be 100% responsible.
With the extreme sense of calm that you exude as well as your ability to tolerate things out of your control, I bet you were a little angel when you were 4 years old. NOT.
I don’t have what it take to watch a parent neglect their kids in public? No, I put in the effort it takes to teach my kids what being it is to be a responsible member of society. Not only do I do that I volunteer in my kids schools, teach my sons PE class, coach little league and soccer. I also help with my sister’s kid as she is a single mom and can use a little help once in a while.
What I can’t stand is to watch parents treat kids like objects and not like the greatest gift in the world that they are. If you can’t or will not take care of your kid, don’t have one.
True story: A good friend of mine was at a store, using her debit card to pay. This kid ran up behind her and started pushing all the buttons. She ended up getting $70 cash back that she didn’t want. She turned to the kid’s mom (who was on her cell) and said, “Do you think you could keep a closer eye on your kid? I didn’t want all this cash back.” The mom looked at her and said, “You obviously don’t have kids. You have time to go to the bank and deposit that cash.” She said, “Yeah, and now I don’t want any.”
there is another point to his post and that is that many parents (by no means is what he described isolated) allow kids to run free in public settings with horrible behavior and damn everyone else and their serenity. It is some how acceptable behavior because they are kids or the parents are so used to it that they ignore it or don’t even consider it to be bad behavior. It isn’t the kids that are the problem but really the parents who are and it is hard not to get frustrated with that attitude.
Discipline your children now so the world won’t have to later.
Don’t be naive enough to believe your flesh and blood cannot be a selfish, manipulative little monster. (All these parents out there who bitch about other kids being so bad likely are promulgating the same problem and suffering from the same naivete).
Don’t ever let your kid disrespect you. If they don’t respect you (read healthy fear), then they’re not going to respect anyone.
Get these three things right and you’ve got all the time in the world to love them and make them upstanding, respectful, responsible people.
I’m getting in the final lap of raising 2 boys (16, 19). I have read you points before but they are so worthy that I have to give a you cyber high 5 for printing them here. Good stuff.
When my kids start to act up in a store, I get mean mom face and tell them I’m not afraid of leaving right then, right now – no purchases, no nothing. And guess what, I say, you’re not going to like being at home with me after that. So be quiet and remember, we’re in a public place.
My kids act up in public, I bust their ass when we get home…
The kids you experienced are the reason why youth today are the way they are…no respect for parents, authority, etc. because the parents expect everyone else to raise their kids for them. But try to discipline a kid and watch the parent be the first to say…“how dare you!” Unbelievable
