You all know him (or her.) It’s the guy, the competitor, the animal I guess you could say. They train hard, they race hard, but they also live hard. Everything they do is directed at their sport. Be it football, swimming, triathlons, or even bowling, everything they do revolves around that. They are normal people, but they become obsessed. They are always striving for a higher goal, but they never get there. Instead they become mean, self-centered, social clams, and ultimetly depressed. Their outlook on life becomes very negative, they can’t focus on anything they are doing, and it snowballs. You know who I’m talkng about. You’ve met them, at the gym, on the road, at work, maybe even in the mirror.
What is the deal with people like this? Maybe it is just me, but our sport really seems to be attracting them. They show up to races in their muddy suburu, with all sorts of zipp, and litespeed, and orca stickers on their vehicle. They spend an hour in the transition area making sure everything is perfect, though they never get it there. They warm up in the lake for half-an-hour, they do everything. Even after the race, they dont smile, they don’t laugh, they just wait to see if the results were what they wanted them to be, though they never will be.
You can’t tell me, “well, some people are just like that.” Well, you can, but I won’t believe you. You see, I was one of those last year. Now as spring and training are warming up, I’m watching to make sure that doesn’t happen again. What is it about sports in general that take away some peoples love for life, there personality, and even their identity?
My problem started last year when I was really focused on improving my swim (which I did quite well at.) I started focusing on swimming a lot. Everyday I was in the pool. I joined a team, I focused on swimming. Slowly but surely, it became my life. I wasn’t david, I wasn’t Ze Gopha, all I could be was a swimmer who did triathlons, or as I sometimes put it, the swimmer who does it all. I had to get faster, I had to train harder, I’d spend less time with people, more time in the water. I even became pretty negative with things around the team I was on. My friends quit talking about sports when I was around, and even to this day, I think some of them are a little scared to bring up athletics when I’m around. It sucked. And worst of all, I couldn’t figure out why. It really took me until late November, when I was taking a break from swimming to get my life back. I still ask myself, why?
As this season kicks off, I’ve been pondering a lot. How can I avoid this? What should I do differently? But most of all, How can I help other who have this problem I had?
Well, for me, I think I’ve got my deal taken care of. It took some time, with myself, with God, and just some plain old time away from sport to get my priorities back. I just need to live life more. I’m doing that and it’s great, I have more fun, the people around me have more fun, and my training is coming along better than ever. Healthy mind=healthy body. That has been part of my obsession with making my sporting cool. Why not, it’s fun, it’s silly, and it allows me to be a little more free with myself. I am on the path to a great season this year, I’m confident that I am not returning to my old ways, but what can be done for the others in our sport? Is there a way to help pull them from the “pit?” I don’t know. I’ve bared my soul, now what do you think?
-The coolness manifesto, it’s coming