I just got buried by my ex for the last time. Nuts. looks like tonights big weights set is going to be brutal whilst I sweat it out.
Are we really that selfish and isn’t the drive that probably attracted her to you in the first place the wedge that ends up driving you apart. Now thats irony…
Maybe she just wants you to marry her. That’ll solve all your problems - not.
I think I’ll stick to what I’m good at in future !!! Fortunately I know a nice little local TT tomorrow night where I can inflict some pain on the field there…
They claim to be attracted to the macho sort then complain when you don’t turn out to be some Dr. Phil-sbury doughclone in drag. I get that “why don’t you stand up and be a little more assertive” then get, “geeze you’re a bullly”… I say fuckit and go ride my bike.
Mate, it sounds like you just need to pop down to the local and have a pint and chill out awhile. Good luck on the TT tomorrow night.
The high point will be testing my new bike fit from Tom D that i had last weekend (with a little more sleep this time). Ride on…
I sick of tired of women and their bullshit, men these bend over backwards and still it’s not enough . From now I say fuck 'em .
You say fuck em? …
Exactly!
If you take enough time off training to give them their regular good and proper, they will be too satisfied and tired to give you any hassles! A little bit of attention and conversation doesn’t do any harm either.
UKGM,
I think every man has had this struggle… Communication is key… When you find one that will take your response (mine was “this is part of who I am… I support you through the tough times in med school… If you can’t handle the fact that I race in the summers, you’re with the wrong guy”) If your lady sees that it’s give and take… The one that is right for you will stick by you and be cheering the loudest at your races. Even better, i’m getting my sweetie involved in racing. She’s going to be good too. She’s kean and just has to learn how to suffer on the bike.
All this to say, hang in there. The right match will come around.
Yep.
Its not your girlfriend, its you. Let me explain.
Women do not want to be the last thing on your list. They want to feel that they are a special part of your life, and they definately want to feel more important than your sport. This feeling is across the board, all women feel this way, some just relay their message more openly than others. Some cry to themselves, some blame you. Some complain to their friends. All of these women find discomfort in feeling sub par in your priorities of life.
Once you accept this reality, you can reprioritize any future relationships. There are two types of girlfriends, those who accept your sport, and those who do not. Neither woman is better nor worse, they are just different. They may both love you the same, however the woman who accepts that your sport is part of your “personal fabric” is the woman who willingly accepts you in your entirety. For the other type of woman, she may never accept your sport as part of you, simply seeing your sport as an activity that you will outgrow or give up as she becomes your new interest.
To make it work, you need not change your dedication to training and racing, just put a little more effort into making your woman feel special and appreciated.
Make her feel like she is #1.
Its that simple.
I heard or read somewhere, long ago, that the things that we find cute and attractive in the early stages of a relationship are the same things that will irritate us later.
Plain and simple, you need a GF that likes doing the same things if you are to get any understanding. I know this topic has beaten to death in previous threads so I won’t go further.
I think someone has been in counselling… 
and you’re right.
Maybe if you munched something besides gears…
Some girls are just really needy–it could be any hobby you immerse yourself in which she would have problems with. Prob. just jealous that she is not too much a part of it. I know, always easier being on the outside–
BUT…I’ve experienced it first hand so i know what it feels like. My take is that you need a partner who has either another similarly time consuming interest or the tri interest + self confidence.
Best of luck
Damn, I hate that hindsight! Mine is quite good, it’s my foresight I really need to work on. I agree, if your partner isn’t more important than ‘unimportant’ (relatively) things like work and play, I don’t see how it can last. Work will always be there, so will training, but you might not have someone to share it with if you don’t prioritize appropriately.
And guys can be just as bad, if not worse!
Hey, I found one. She swims and runs better than I do and her biking is getting so good I had to suck her wheel today to recover before the last climb on the way home. I have told her we will have to break up if she starts dropping me on the bike - it’s important to set boundaries in a relationship
Yep, I am. thanks
What is it with boyfriends and triathlon? I just spent the past 1.5 hrs mowing the lawn because my boyfriend didn’t do it before he left for IM CDA. He likes to point at the neighbors perfectly manicured yard and yell, “WHAT? DO YOU WANT A YARD LIKE THAT!” while he’s standing in knee high weeds that used to be our lawn.
He is so mowing the yard for the rest of the summer.
My back hurts and I’m going to go drink a beer.