Sadly, it has come to this: My fiancee left me, us today. Her decision hails from the investments (both time & money) made by me in preparation for Ironman Coeur d’Alene.
I am so angry for allowing myself to get sucked into the hype and the hyperbole surrounding the “Ironman experience.” What a great misfortune to have this epiphany after losing the most important person in my life.
Best wishes to those stepping up to the challenge. I pray you fare better on every front than have I.
what a bitch, youre better off without her. go find some swimmer/runner girls.
best of luck
WTF? Sounds like you dodges a bullet there. Anybody that is going to walk out jsut like that is not someone that is capeable of sticking in it for the “or worse” part fo life.
Count yourself lucky and move on.
Lots of fish in the sea… 'nough said.
There is a lot more to life than Ironman. I learned this a long time ago. Triathlon is a lifestyle and not all there is in life. Family has to come first and if that means loosing some time to train so be it. Some people balance it very well and others don’t.
I am sorry that your relationship did not work out and I hope that the next one does for you. Remember to keep a good balance with family, health, work and sport.
Gotta agree… you dodged one here it seems. There’s plenty of awesome, hot chicas that will LOVE being part of your triathlon life. Trust me!
If that was the excuse, your relationship wasn’t very good to begin with. Don’t be angry, feel fortunate the event exposed fundamental weakness in your relationship.Some things aren’t meant to be.
D!,could you please tell me where these supposed hot,willing and able chicas are situated as I seem to have missed that little patch of paradise.
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Well I know one in Canada 
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While I’m sorry for the sadness that I am sure you are feeling from the loss of your relationship, I have to agree with what several others have posted. For a relationship to stand the test of time, both spouses have to be able to respect and support the interests and hobbies of the other. My husband is passionate about motorsports and races cars. I race cars as well and have done triathlons for years, including 3 IM finishes. I understand his passion for auto racing, he understands mine for triathlon. Some weekends I can be found supporting him in the paddock at the race track. At IM races, I can count on an Iron Sherpa. I tolerate the hours he spends building race cars in the garage and occasionally have some greasy hands and broken fingernails myself while he tolerates my long weekend training days leading up to an IM race. There’s got to be give and take on both sides. As time goes on, hopefully your experience here will help you gain perspective for future relationships.
Been there,tried that place and unfortunately it didn’t work.
I’m either too nice or I’m too bad(can’t work out which)but any way you look at it,the Canadian drought continues.
I think I’ll try my luck on the Tibetan Plateau.
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She should try dating an ultra runner.
It’s not over. If you really want her back, then fight for your marriage.
this isnt a chick movie, i wouldnt fight for any girl, especially one who gives up that easily.
to the OP, dont give up triathlon you obviously love it.
We don’t know anything about this relationship. It could be she’s completely intolerant of his training and wants 100% of his attention, which is not good and maybe he did have a lucky escape. It could also be that he became so immersed in training that everything became about him and she, legitimately, saw this as a big potential negative sign for the future. Support goes both ways in a relationship. If that’s the lesson learned here, then at least something good has come out of this sad situation.
i wouldnt fight for any girl
That’s too bad. When you marry a woman, you make a promise to fight for her. I hope you don’t get married until you find a woman you are willing to fight for.
Damn dude, that’s tough. None of us here really know enough about the situation to comment one way or the other, but we can all appreciate how shitty you must be feeling right now.
I’m sorry to hear it.
Can’t believe the jackass responses you’re getting here. These guys must be mostly either eternal bachelors or divorces waiting to happen. The world is not full of hottie women who have nothing better in life to do except than to support self centered male trigeeks thru their “all about me” IM quests.
On the other hand, I’ll bet it’s quite possible there was much more wrong with your relationship than than fact that you wanted to do an IM.
lol hollywood delusion
Can’t believe the jackass responses you’re getting here.
how are the comments rude whatsoever? you must be a chick or something, b/c thats how guys support each other when things get tough.
you fail a test and your guy friend says, “the teacher is a douche and is just upset that he/she cant get laid” it makes you feel better.
Kid, I’m not a chick and probably old enough to be your dad. I reread the original post and realized that I would have been the same back then and should have stayed out of this one. My college aged son is going thru this sort of thing at the moment so I got a bit carried away, but that’s a different story.