What fun, cheap, easy, romantic etc etc things do you do for your SO? Mostly shooting at the “Long term relationship” crowd here. Flowers, cards, notes that kind of thing.
Thought it would be fun to pick up some ideas…hopefully “Work Safe” ideas 
~Matt
Do you know what your SO deems important? Mine is sentimental, so I try to go that route. Pictures and a nice frame, some kind of family mementos…
How about sending her a card promising a day of complete pampering, and let her pick the day. Then just design a day that caters to her needs, try things like breakfast in bed, foot massages, her favorite dinner, etc. Think of it as an investment, it will pay handsome dividends.
Do you know what your SO deems important?
I think I do None the less was looking for something “Different”. I put together a “Family Video” for Christmas, she definately enjoys that.
Sometimes the ST collective comes up with some interesting ideas, just fishing.
~Matt
Good god man?!!? What’s wrong with you? The ROI on something like that is horrible. You’ve either been married 5 times or you’ve been married once and she completely walks all over you.
To the OP, set low expectations so you have a chance of success today and tomorrow. Don’t just live for the moment, think of your future. Something small but thoughtful such as cleaning her bike and then put a flower on it.
Something small but thoughtful such as cleaning her bike and then put a flower on it.
Yeah, that’s closer to what I was thinking
~Matt
I make breakfast and pack her lunch most mornings. Occassionally, I have also grabbed her a towel while she is in the shower and stick it in the dryer to warm. Then I give her a nice warm towel when she gets out of the shower. She seems to really like that alot.
Personally I think its the little day to day things that mean the most rather than flowers once a month or the like.
Oh, and never let the batteries in the sex toys run down! They may not notice that you change them, but they sure will notice if you don’t.
There’s a lot of things wrong with me, but not related to the topic at hand. Think of it as preventative maintenance. While we’re making baseless assumptions, you’ve obviously never received a good return for doing something thoughtful. =)
I took my gal dogsledding…it was awesome!
My boyfriends does little things but it means a lot to me. Just something that says “hey, i was thinking of you and wanted to do something special” is enough for me.
Sometimes he brings things home from a bakery that he thinks I might like or he sends me corny emails. Early on in our relationship he made me a wikipedia entry. It was really funny and was full of things that we had done together or special inside jokes. It was eventually taken down by the wikipedia people but I thought it was pretty great while it lasted.
I took my gal dogsledding…it was awesome!
I’m not familiar with that sexual position. Perhaps you can elaborate.
I am usually up first and most mornings make her a Cappicinno with choclate sprinkles on top and bring it to her in bed.
Foot rubs as often as she wants them.
Fresh cut flowers every few weeks.
Making sure her bike is well tuned up, clean and in running order (she’s the serious triathlete in the family)
A call or two during the day just to check in and see how her day is going.
Just a few things that are part of our regular routine.
One of the best things, IMO, that a husband can do for his wife if they have children (especially young children) is to plan a weekend day where he is completely in charge of the kids and lets the wife do whatever she wants that day.
Let her sleep in and then do the following:
I also agree with the others that it’s the little things that we do for each other that are important: massages, bringing a cup of coffee to her in bed, letting her sleep in (sleep is a big theme for me!), doing something for her around the house that is usually her responsibility (like make dinner, for example), build a fire and pour some wine for the two of you.
Let’s just say it involves a lot of panting and licking.
Good god man?!!? What’s wrong with you? The ROI on something like that is horrible. You’ve either been married 5 times or you’ve been married once and she completely walks all over you.
To the OP, set low expectations so you have a chance of success today and tomorrow. Don’t just live for the moment, think of your future. Something small but thoughtful such as cleaning her bike and then put a flower on it.
I read somewhere that the people who do big wedding proposals (skywriting, sports events, ect) have a higher divorce rate. It said something on the lines that the expectations that are set forth with the extravagant proposal cause problems, because the guys do not live up to them. So when deciding that I wanted my girlfriend to be the one, I just went up to her and told her that she was going to be my wife and showed her the article. She thought it was one of the sweetest things. It was romantic that I thought about the expectations and it also set the bar real low for me.
So far it has worked out well we are going on almost 13 years
somewhere that the people who do big wedding proposals (skywriting, sports events, ect) hI read ave a higher divorce rate.
Not surprised.
It’s funny, cause the media tends to go the other way - making these things a big deal like everybod should be doing it. Isn’t their a TV show that glamorizes these over-the-top proposals. Same with the mammoth wedding. They make you feel inadquate if you did not spend 20G’s on your wedding!
You are the man. Talk about setting low expectations! She sounds like a real keeper.
The other thing that is key is to make sure you are broke when you propose so you can’t afford the ring or a big wedding. Worked great for my husband and I and we are going on 14 years. We had 11 people total at our wedding which we had at my parents’ house. I never did get a diamond, just a silver band for an engagement ring. Fine with me!
I would love it if I came home and all the little things we need to do are actually done. Fix the leaky faucet, change the lighbulb that burnt out and we haven’t taken care of yet because we have to get the ladder out, drag the stuff we mean to put into the basement downstairs. All the little annoyances that keep getting put on the bottom of the list in favor of other things. It is oddly stressful to see these little things and remind yourself you need to take care of it. Sometimes the effort of going to Home Depot to find what you need is just enough to prevent it from getting done. Then, don’t ask for a pat on the back, just let her notice it as she goes through her day It will be like a little suprise every time she notices something. The gift that keeps on giving.
Sometimes I pack my husband’s lunch and put a little note in there…nothing big, just saying I hope his presentation that day goes well or that he gets a vendor to cooperate, etc or whatever. Just something to show that I listen to what’s going on in his life and am thinking about him.
Boring, I know… 
The other thing that is key is to make sure you are broke when you propose so you can’t afford the ring or a big wedding. Worked great for my husband and I and we are going on 14 years. We had 11 people total at our wedding which we had at my parents’ house. I never did get a diamond, just a silver band for an engagement ring. Fine with me!
I would love it if I came home and all the little things we need to do are actually done. Fix the leaky faucet, change the lighbulb that burnt out and we haven’t taken care of yet because we have to get the ladder out, drag the stuff we mean to put into the basement downstairs. All the little annoyances that keep getting put on the bottom of the list in favor of other things. It is oddly stressful to see these little things and remind yourself you need to take care of it. Sometimes the effort of going to Home Depot to find what you need is just enough to prevent it from getting done. Then, don’t ask for a pat on the back, just let her notice it as she goes through her day It will be like a little suprise every time she notices something. The gift that keeps on giving.