“Its human nature people, deal with it.”
Yeh just like rape, murder and theft…come on people it’s human nature, deal with it.
I hardly believe that sex is a conservative or liberal issue either. And any parent that thinks it’s a dandy idea for their 15 year old daughter to be blowing some guy in the high school bathroom needs to evaluate their beleif system…well in my opinion.
~Matt
Its absolutely nothing like rape murder or theft.
**Outside of marriage? Yeah, count me against it. **
So its wrong for people to have a sexually intimate relationship without a valid legal contract in place at the time. Give me a break…kj
Its absolutely nothing like rape murder or theft.
Legally, of course, it’s quite similar to rape. But why quibble?
Just curious, in your open conversations with your kids about sex, do you suggest they use oral sex instead of intercourse for reduced STD risk and no pregnancy?
I was not implying sex was like rape, murder or theft but that rape, murder and theft was “human nature” deal with it.
~Matt
Damn that Mary Cheney…this is all her fault.
Survey finds more girls experimenting with bisexuality.
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/news/archive/2005/09/15/national/w144413D43.DTL
You really think its in our nature to rape kill and steal? wow.
Somehow, that makes me feel inadequate.
I don’t think its “dandy” for 15 yer old girls to be giving blow jobs inthe bathroom. Sex is an immense responsibility and had has serious emotional side effects. The fact is, it is part of our nature, and if it were embraced and openly discussed w/o stigma, these important decisions would be made by better informed people…kj
So its wrong for people to have a sexually intimate relationship without a valid legal contract in place at the time.
Yeah, pretty much.
Of course, I know that’s all outmoded and stuff, and that in light of the tremendous wisdom we’ve achieved since the 1960’s, we can say that the sexual restraints and mores of almost every human culture in history have been nothing more than repressive shackles on what it truly means to be a full person . . . But still, yeah. It’s wrong for people to be sexually intimate outside of marriage.
More to the point, it’s certainly wrong for teenagers- children, really- to be sexually intimate with someone outside of marriage.
More to the point, it’s certainly wrong for teenagers- children, really- to be sexually intimate with someone outside of marriage.
so, do you support the marital laws of Kansas?
How intimate is too “intimate”…1st base??? 2nd base???
this should be good for a few laughs if nothing else.
Matt, do you have kids? If so, how old?
Sex is an immense responsibility and had has serious emotional side effects.
And I’m sure there are all kinds of 14 year olds capable of dealing with them.
The fact is, it is part of our nature, and if it were embraced and openly discussed w/o stigma, these important decisions would be made by better informed people.
It isn’t a matter of being informed or not. It’s a matter, at the very least, of having the capability of handling that responsibility and the serious emotional side effects.
First off, my daughter is 6. I’m 32, it hasn’t been that long since I was a teenager. Sex was not discussed in my house, I probably would have died of embarassment had my parents even tried. But that was a result of the environment I grew up in. I got my information from a variety of sources (not all good ones). When I decided I was ready, I went and got on birth control. I was a reponsible kid, my parents knew this. I’m sure they suspected I was having sex (seeing as I had the same boyfriend for 3 years in high school), and I even got a phone call from my big sister to verify that I was being safe.
Like I said in my earlier post, there are serious consquences to sex other than health issues. The teenage years are pretty emotionally charged as is. Sex is great, but can be extremely damaging when mis-used.
As far as the way I’m raising my daughter, I am honest with her. I want her to grow up informed (however not jaded). I do protect her innocence, she’s only 6 and doesn’t need to be exposed to certain things. My boyfriend and I are openly affectionate in front of her (however not in a sexual manner). As she grows up and asks questions, I will anwer them as truthfully as I can. I will not stigmatize sex, but I will not make light of it either. I don’t want her to feel like there are topics she can’t discuss with me. I would rather her information come from me than from whatever unknown source…kj
Not yet.
so, do you support the marital laws of Kansas?
I don’t live in Kansas.
But no, I don’t support them. On the other hand, I have a hard time seeing how so many of you can condemn them, either. It’s OK for kids to have group sex, I guess, but not to marry? And why not? Because the lack the capacity to give consent? How is it the lack the capacity in one area, but not in another?
You see thats where you’re wrong Vitus. Nobody is advocating that kids have sex, of the group variety or any other kind…we are just saying that stupid abstinence pledges don’t work.
regarless of what we tell them most kids will engage in some sort of sexual activity in their teenage years. Its best for everyone that they be taught about safe sex…as well as the consequences of irresponsible sexual activity.
Burying your head in the sand and thinking that a promise from a teenager on a piece of paper will solve everything is plain dumb.
Sex is an immense responsibility and had has serious emotional side effects.
And I’m sure there are all kinds of 14 year olds capable of dealing with them.
The fact is, it is part of our nature, and if it were embraced and openly discussed w/o stigma, these important decisions would be made by better informed people.
It isn’t a matter of being informed or not. It’s a matter, at the very least, of having the capability of handling that responsibility and the serious emotional side effects.
You’re actually making my point. Kids are making these decisions without the tools to understand the consequences. There are teens capable of dealing with it, and the are adults that are clearly not capable. The puritanical sex is bad mindset does nothing for us. Sex is not bad, its quite often misunderstood…kj
I was really only digging a little. I think your sentence that I commented on would have been better if you left “outside of marriage” off.